Manosphere Mystery Man - SlutHate dumbass who couldn't leave well enough alone

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I think this is a therapeutic environment for me. The constant attacks against my character are slowly desensitizing me against criticism. Up until, I guess 17? I used to find criticism aimed at me funny. Now I take it to heart. This needs to change.

No, it really doesn't. Criticism is a good gauge of how you're going. If there's a lot of people telling you "Hey, maybe jumping off that cliff isn't such a great idea," then you can bet that it's probably not a great plan to do a swan dive off it. Plus, it helps you work out what parts of you need work. If you can't take critical feedback, then you are selfish and ignorant to your flaws.
 
I think this is a therapeutic environment for me. The constant attacks against my character are slowly desensitizing me against criticism. Up until, I guess 17? I used to find criticism aimed at me funny. Now I take it to heart. This needs to change.

Well, actually, what you need to do is stop being a lazy, entitled little bitch and man up a bit. In fact, that's how you beat loveshyness: man the fuck up and face your flaws instead of blaming everyone else. How old are you anyway? You're far too old to be wallowing in this crap if you're past 17.
 
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No, it really doesn't. Criticism is a good gauge of how you're going. If there's a lot of people telling you "Hey, maybe jumping off that cliff isn't such a great idea," then you can bet that it's probably not a great plan to do a swan dive off it. Plus, it helps you work out what parts of you need work. If you can't take critical feedback, then you are selfish and ignorant to your flaws.

Well one of my positives is that I can easily see my flaws... I am narcissistic, am too judgemental and judge myself against others a lot (e.g. I am better/worse than this person), have insecurity, too much ego, other things that don't come to mind right now. I can accept constructive criticism such as "your triceps need work" etc. but it's the insults that I have a hard time taking, things which challenge my ego. It's good to learn how to deal with these things.
 
But I kind of feel like if I got in a relationship, I wouldn't be able to get out. I feel like I wouldn't be able to bring myself to hurt somebody unless I don't like them. So assuming it's going well and I just get bored (which is likely) or decide there isn't chemistry, I feel like I wouldn't be able to escape or would be forced into a really horrible situation.
That's fairly reasonable.
It was always hard to dump my girlfriends even after they started shitting on me, I cared and didn't want to see them cry even if I was getting bitched at constantly. I decided there was really no point in having a girlfriend after awhile but now I think I have a nice one, we'll see. It's not your imagination, girls will try and lock you into a relationships that are all take on their part. I know it's uncomfortable to tell girls no but just assert it right from the beginning. "Not really boyfriend material".

If she was going to cry then deep down inside you know you let her feel that way to get her into bed.
I think this is a therapeutic environment for me. The constant attacks against my character are slowly desensitizing me against criticism. Up until, I guess 17? I used to find criticism aimed at me funny. Now I take it to heart. This needs to change.
It's a symptom of your NPD probably, anything that damages the zzyx fantasy is painful. If you've decided to go on cycle this could also be a factor.
 
Well one of my positives is that I can easily see my flaws...

Yet you talk about it like it's a danger and a threat to you.

I am narcissistic, am too judgemental and judge myself against others a lot (e.g. I am better/worse than this person), have insecurity, too much ego, other things that don't come to mind right now.

Well done, these things are called introspection! They can help you become a not awful human.

I can accept constructive criticism such as "your triceps need work" etc. but it's the insults that I have a hard time taking, things which challenge my ego. It's good to learn how to deal with these things.

"I will accept only advice that fits my worldview where appearances are key, not that my personality is so rancid it sends women and men alike running for the hills."
 
Mystery, you seem like you're somewhat capable of introspection. The fact that you mention having issues with comparing yourself to others outside of the loveshy mindset means that you at least understand to some degree that you might have a little bit of a problem. You seem like an average person with a lot of self-esteem issues. The problem with self-esteem issues is that a lot of people tend to blame them on other things, which makes them impossible to solve, and our society encourages that because we don't like hurting feelings--but the truth is that the only person who can fix you is you. You actually can rise above all that toxic waste on Sluthate and the like; you can talk to women, you can get a job and even enjoy it, and all you have to do is train yourself, over a long time, to stop thinking in the extremely negative manner you've displayed here. It might seem impossible, but if you start with small things, and if you're motivated, you actually can do it. The key is really just doing it. It gets easier and easier to do things once you do more and more of them. The more you talk to women, the more you can talk to them, and the better you get at it. The more you hook up in bars, the better you get at it. All you have to do is just start doing it. You also need to cut the negativity out of your life--the people telling you to blame everyone else for your problems are bad for you. and blah I don't feel like writing more I'm so lazy
 
I am narcissistic, am too judgemental and judge myself against others a lot (e.g. I am better/worse than this person), have insecurity, too much ego, other things that don't come to mind right now.

I hate you enough for the narcissism alone. All these other negative character traits though, makes my hate for you even bigger.
 
I'm very good at picking up on social cues usually
And yet you still haven't caught onto the blatant ones here...

Well one of my positives is that I can easily see my flaws...
If you could actually see your flaws easily, we probably wouldn't be here.

Either you're lying or you recognize you're fucked up and you don't do anything about it.
 
Yes my lifestyle affords me a lot of free time while I still get everything I want. Most people spend their week in a cubicle, for a measly 2 days of freedom. I am blessed and grateful for what life has given me in this respect.

A job wouldn't bring you fulfillment?
 
No... I don't think so... Maybe if I was the best surgeon in the world, something where my skill isn't easily replaceable. It'd be good to have the extra chances to socialize etc. which comes with work, that'd be the advantage.

That's a shame. Having a job, any job, would bring me a sense of independence and control. It's a mighty good feeling, despite how menial the work may or may not be.
 
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