He can't be full poly like Aella and her ilk, being that disconnected and casual about his hookups is the opposite of his personality.
I will support this. Tiny himself has said that very few people have the brain/personality to be in truly open and happy relationships and while I agree that is true, I think it is far fewer than he says, more in line with the number of people who are sexually attracted to inanimate objects or that like. But still, the little man strokes his ego with the idea that he is one of these special few who have the mental fortitude to look past the emotions of traditional romantic encounters and not catch feels.
Doing some back seat psychoanalyzing here, I think this is probably because he is well aware of his cold and detached personality with his loved ones combined with his propensity to engage in infidelity. If he is this special person, these traits make since, his brain is just wired differently and his coldness is just a misunderstood difference in expression. He does not truly not care about his partners, making him a bad person, it's just that traditional views of care include societal expectations of possession inherent in monogamous relationships. As he does not conform to monogamy, it is ok that he appears to love or care about his wife much less than normal people as it is the normal peoples fault for not understanding that they are just viewing his actions through their own biased lens. But we know this in not true in his case. Be it his initial finding of Melina, LS, Erin, or any of the other women who's names I cannot be bothered to go back and find, it has happened over and again that Destiny gets attached to his hookups. He has almost exactly the kind of emotional reaction we would expect of any normal person.
The reason Destiny cannot accept this as true is because if his personality traits aren't the result of some big brain ability to logic his way out of normal attachments (another attractive, ego boosting concept for him) than he'd have to come to terms that his coldness and inability to control himself from cheating is solely from some fundamental personality defect.
Now I personally don't subscribe to many here's ideas on degeneracy, I am far more libertarian on most matters, so to head off the accusations of not being able to see outside of my own worldview from the D.G.G. ers, I think people like Aella seem to be doing just fine and living a just fine life. The issue is not someone being in an open relationship, it is someone self deluding that they are they type of person to be in an open relationship to avoid self improvement while simultaneously destroying the lives of dozens, maybe hundreds at this point, of people around you just to feed your ego.
This post has turned out far more autistic than I had originally intended, but I will not delete as I spent too much time on it, I am sorry fellow Kiwi's.