his *spouse* didn't act too upset & was more concerned about getting his games and bank accounts, didn't even work, If these were the types of parasites he kept around him, the farms was the least of his problems.
I have some sympathy for the husband, actually. Probably because I feel a bit guilty for doxxing his apartment complex in detail when trying to work out if Byuu might have moved back to the US. To me it doesn't sound like the husband doesn't care. He actually had a very grovelling tone, apologising for taking up so much of the embassy staff's time when they had Big Official Business and wouldn't want to waste it replying to messages from little old him, and seemed very confused and panicked.
There was a bunch of comments made back in 2021 on a DeviantArt blog by a user called sobodash,
claiming to have been a friend of David's husband. This were disregarded at the time as all the evidence available was that Byuu was not dead and this was an elaborate hoax.
For context, Byuu and his husband had bought a house together but in 2018 it was sold and no other property was purchased, with the husband moving into a rental. That meshes with a pastebin from 2016 that made several claims about Byuu that all proved to be true; it suggested that Byuu was due to be audited by the IRS. If there was some creative accounting going on, they may have had a marital breakdown due to financial hardship and losing the house.
Going through the comments, the person mentions that Byuu's husband was not very smart.
It’s hard to say how much you can ever really know someone. Dave appears to have lied to his husband about his intentions with trying to transition. He was advised by the people online who were mailing him hormones of how he could find a doctor and pay him cash after hours to have his testicles removed. No psychological screening necessary. No record. His husband took him for that surgery and told me how scared he was, but he trusted Dave and believed him that it wasn’t about gender reassignment. And after he left for Japan he was getting all these hormones and mood-altering drugs handed to him by random people online and medicating himself with no supervision.
Knowing what that kind of medication does to people’s stability and ability to think rationally, I believe that was the cause of his incredibly irrational behavior in contacting Joshua Moon on the night of his death. His total lack of fear about me doxxing him is another red flag to me that he was sick and not thinking.
This wasn’t about being bullied to death. After his childhood that would make no sense. This was just the sad death of a sick individual who refused to get professional help and instead attempted to self medicate and self mutilate for self-diagnosed problems in some of the most extreme ways imaginable.
Some people see his emails to Joshua Moore and imagine it’s an elaborate master plan to ensnare KF in an extortion scheme. Some people see it as an honest, if foolish, attempt to buy an end to bullying.
If you step back and look at it objectively, the reason it makes no sense is because he was not right in the head and wrote it while swimming on a cocktail of mood altering drugs and hormones he had been taking for months with no medical supervision.
When he died, I was the one who had to spend more than an hour on the phone with his husband, listening to him cry as I tried to piece together the last three years since Dave moved to Japan. None of the retards he had surrounded himself with online the last few years even knew he had a husband or how to reach him, so that was a fun experience. None of them even knew his name: I had to dox him in the middle of the night so police could claim the body before he started to rot.
I had to help his husband weigh the options the embassy gave him for dealing with Dave’s remains while having no money after being out of work 16 months, his meager savings wiped out by COVID, no life insurance policies because young people think they are invincible, and no chance at using Dave’s accounts in Japan until after going through probate, which would take months. I listened to him wail about how Dave never said goodbye, never emailed him, and how he earnestly believed he must have written a suicide note that the police would find, and that he probably wrote one to me too.
I knew there wouldn’t be any notes: his head was fried on medicine and nothing he was thinking was normal or made sense.
If Dave is alive, that means one of two things:
Both Dave and his husband lied to me, and his husband isn’t that clever by half.
Alternatively, Dave lied to both of us, paid someone in the embassy to call his husband, and then fleeced him out of his funerary costs while knowing what financial hardship he was in (supporting three nephews who he loves like his own children).
I don't think we can dispute the validity of the documents (although any journalist reporting on them without official confirmation would be negligent) and there's stuff in here - specifically asking about a suicide note - that is corroborated by those documents. This and other details paints a picture of a sweet, simple man whose husband basically exploited his lack of intelligence to manipulate him into running him around for transition surgery while lying about his plan to troon out, then either they got audited or they sold the house so the husband could raise his three orphaned nephews, and Byuu then ran off to Japan and effectively ignored his husband while circling further into the depths of being terminally online, letting his husband struggle to raise three children while providing little to no support. Oh and then to cap it off, the guy ends up out of work due to covid and probably did some sort of simple job that meant he couldn't easily find another (since so many unskilled workers were left fighting over the scraps).
The man is devastated that Byuu didn't even say goodbye, and his parting note was to some random online weirdo who didn't even know Byuu was married, who listened to him announce he was suicidal and taking an overdose - and didn't alert the authorities until HOURS and HOURS after he died (and didn't know Byuu well enough to know his address).
Have you ever deal with intestacy? When someone dies without a will? It is a
nightmare. Not only are you bereaved and having to go through probate, everything is more complicated because there's no will. Now try doing that in a foreign country in a different timezone with completely different bureaucracy that speaks an utterly incomprehensible language when you have no money.
He wanted Byuu cremated in Japan and scattered somewhere beautiful that Byuu liked. That's not because he didn't give a fuck. It's because he was heartbroken that the love of his life was a selfish venial man who didn't give a shit about him. It reads to me that he wanted to selflessly try to honour Byuu's last wishes - Byuu obviously had no desire to return to Ohio, no links back to the home country with his estranged family all dead, and the only seemingly meaningful connections - his husband and this sobodash person - viewed as irrelevant. So let him stay in a scenic grove overlooking the sparkling waters of Tokyo Bay, maybe somewhere Byuu went to get away from all the hustle and bustle because he obviously didn't do well around crowds. Except the correspondent basically says in those documents that Byuu never travelled and so didn't have anywhere "he liked to go", he just sat in his room talking to internet strangers who knew nothing about him while eating illegal estrogen tablets.
Naturally the husband also wanted access to the Japanese accounts and details of insurance policies etc because he'd need money (that he didn't have) to even consider recovering any possessions.
I don't know if David had any sort of life insurance or death benefit sort of thing from his company over there that might help with the costs either, if there is anyway to check on that, I would be grateful
Second - I'm not sure what to do about these apparent costs involved with disposition. David was the one that had been able to hold down a job during these crazy covid times, and I'm assuming whatever money he has over there in the foreign bank accounts is going to be held up in some sort of probate for however long? I don't know how I can afford even the cheapest of the disposition options. I don't know if there is any sort of US government assistance program to help with these costs?
Since the money was tied up in probate and Byuu didn't bother with insurance, the husband was struggling with the disposition costs - the cost of getting everything closed off and sold. Nevertheless he does ask for more than just "consoomer" stuff -
As far as the disposition of David's personal effects, I would (sic) the following types of items returned to me.
-Any forms of ID
-Any important papers/documents, photos
-Any electronics such as computers, laptops, tablets, phones, etc.
-Any game systems, game cartidges, controllers, etc.
-Any keepsakes, knick knacks, collectibles, toys, figures, etc.
As far as anything else such as clothing, furnature (sic), major household appliances, toiletries, or any other incidiental items can be donated or done away with as you see fit.
P.S.
*If there are any items that might not fall under any of the above "keep" catagories (sic) and you feel they might be of some sentimental value, please contact me and ask if the item(s) should be kept or donated/discarded.
Thank you
He had to focus on recovering the most valuable assets - the computers and the mint condition super rare Nintendo game collection - because selling them could help with his costs. Having previously stalked through their social media, I don't think he had very similar interests to Byuu, he just really needed money. And it's quite touching that he wanted all the sentimental items and I think his ask for toys, figures and "knick knacks" were because he wanted to get ahold of things that held meaning to his estranged husband, to try and understand him better. It's clear Byuu didn't share much of his life with his husband.
Fuck reading this made my heart hurt. His husband's clearly not an intelligent man (he writes his emails in sky blue Comic Sans) but he seems like a sweet, well meaning one who was bereaved and deeply hurt. Reading that typo filled letter of instruction made me picture him struggling to use formal language while picking through a complex bureaucracy that he had no understanding of and no real support to gain much understanding of. It's reminded me of watching my mother deal with probate when I was young, hunched over piles of papers trying to understand what any of them meant.
