Second Guessing Phalloplasty
I AM NOT shitting on phalloplasty. It is something I am genuinely considering for myself and I recognize it is a life saving and/or improving procedure. However, as any surgery, there are risks and outcomes arent guranteed
I have a phone consult with Deleon at Crane Center next month. I do have bottom dysphoria. I yearn for a penis, but I put aesthetics very high on my priority list. It may be my highest priority, actually. There is a LOT of amazing outcomes with phallo, I have seen some great looking dicks. My expectations, for MYSELF, however, is for my dick to be as cis-passing as possible.
I know outcomes vary person to person and surgeon to surgeon. Sometimes shit happens. And im not sure if im willing to risk thousands of dollars and pain for an outcome I may not be aesthetically pleased with. I know there is no gurantee for this, but I also dont know if I can live my whole life without a flesh and blood penis. one of my issues with packing is I know it isnt connected. Its cool, it has no sensation. Its not mine.
Im just struggling a lot with this. I have seen some amazing outcomes but Im also anxious about risking less than my ideal.
Idk I just needed to vent this somewhere. I dont have a support group irl and my fiance is supportive of whatever decision I make but he has no personal experience with this and im the only ftm person he knows. Most of our friends are early-stage transition mtfs and cis men