Asked for gender neutral bathrooms, everyone cheered when the motion got denied
So im at uni and im a 19yo transguy who likes to dress fem. In my uni once per semester theres a student assembly to talk about important uni topics and i decided to try to ask for gender neutral bathrooms because somedays I dont look masc but i dont look fem. I even brought up that i once went to a womens bathroom cause i was dressed fem but when a girl saw me she waited until i left to go in.
To no ones surprise, a lot of people opposed mostly with the argument "making them so accessible will facilitate sexual harassment towards woman" which i understand but if a woman doesn't feel safe using a gender neutral bathroom, guess what? they'll go to the women's bathroom
After a small debate (where every time the opposition ended most ppl clapped) there was a vote and the motion was denied and everyone clapped so loudly like they had just saved the university from the evil and scary transgenders.
After the motion was denied a lot of ppl came up to me telling me that i spoke really good and that theyre sorry ive gone through this which honestly left me with two thoughts: 1. There was an almost equal amount of opposed and in support of votes, just so happens that there were a bit more opposed. Still i can't help but feel like my faith in humanity has crumbled a little bit more. This is the first time I've felt so much hate in real life. Not through my phone or news, it was real people who thought i was wrong and that i wanted to endanger other people and i dont, i just want to piss 2. A lot of ppl came up to me and said im sorry youve gone through that or how a friend of mine put it "Im sorry about your bathrooms" and while at the time I said i was fine, that its normal and i joked about it, it just hit me that im discriminated agaisnt. Some people dont think i should exist and thats normal to me. It shouldnt be, its so obvious to say but that shouldnt be normal. I hate that im used to it, that i have to overthink what bathroom i use. When i was explaining to friend of mine that i have to decide on the bathroom depending on what i wear they said "I never thought about it" and all i told her was "Cause you dont have to". But it feels like it doesnt matter cause im damned if i do and damned if i dont. Both bathrooms end up in me being judge and I wish it wasnt like that.
I know a lot of places have a lot worse discrimination and that this isnt the worse but it made me realize theres a lot of people out there who wish harm on ppl like me, and im scared.
