AITBA for getting a teacher fired? (
self.AmITheBadApple)
submitted 1 day ago * by
Striker-Fan2008
I, 17, WILL say, I am not a fan of adults in general. It has to do with previous situations and trust issues but I do respect authority and I have some teachers I like, I just have issues with trust and liking, which is leaving me conflicted on this. I got the helper of my emotional support teacher fired, Mrs. Jen.
Mrs. Jen was...mean, at least in our opinion. I viewed her mindset as outdated and sexist. When I went to the room to vent for 10 minutes as the usual rule is for kids who need a break, I said "I'm not dealing with this, it's too Da** early in the morning." and she cut in the conversation, telling me not to curse. I know different HS teachers have different views on cursing depending on the word and ect. I'd respect that if it wasn't HOW she said "You're a young lady, young ladies don't curse." and I just looked at her, weirded out. (She knows my pronouns by the way, I am Transmasc. They/them, he/him, no feminine pronouns) and when she left, I told my ES teacher I was uncomfortable with how she told me how to talk because of my biological gender, but I let it go.
The week after that, we were being quiet in our social development class (taught by the same ES teacher) and the aid told us all to shut up after my friend, Geo, accidentally saying "Ow" loudly when he fell over. I thought that was REALLY rude and brought it up to our teacher again, and he said he'll talk to her.
The day after that, when I was in a REALLY bad mood and tired from home life, she laughed at me (In a joking way, but I didn't find it funny) and she said "OP's not gonna work today, she's too grumpy" and I asked her not to embarrass me like that, because while me and other teachers can joke around, we're not on that level of friendliness. She also wrote me up 2 times for having my phone out at 2:45 pm to change the song. We leave school at 2:48. But again, different teachers, different styles of teaching, IMO that was just over the top.
The final straw came when I walked into the emotional support room, all ready to snap. I was visibly mad and had my headphones on. I was kicked out of my previous class (For irrelevant reasons) and I was mad because I didn't think I should've gotten kicked out, but again, I'm not here to explain that. I told them I got kicked out and was told to come there, so I sat down. The rules are when a child is de-escalating, we sit down, breathe, play with fidgets, or do what makes us calm down. For me, that was watching ASMR videos on my computer. While I was doing that, Mrs. Jen came up to me, and very loudly started announcing my missing work to try to get me to work on it. She claims she knows all the rules while breaking such, and I think everyone in the room could see I was a ticking bomb at this point.
I put my headphones on and Mrs. Jen started badmouthing me, knowing full well I could hear her. I don't remember exactly what she said, but here are some things I caught.
"Oh this is why you got kicked out because you wear those headphones 24/7" I wear those noise canceling headphones because I need them for school work, my overhead ones have a lesser chance of giving me a blown eardrum like in the past. I am allowed to wear them, as it says in my IEP where I am allowed to listen to music in class because of my ADHD. That was nowhere near the reason I was kicked out.
"This is ridiculous and Da** disrespectful entirely."
"Maybe she'd focus more if her two colored eye boyfriend was here." My PARTNER (MTF) has Heterchromia, a green eye, and a blue eye with brown in it. I don't even talk about them in school. This comment made me uncomfortable.
And more things along those lines, calling me a little girl, ect. Eventually, I snapped and slammed my computer shut and walked out, saying I was going to the f***ing counselors. I was fed up and that was my breaking point, as I was mad the entire day. I soon went to the principal and told him she was making me uncomfortable and everything else. I haven't seen her since. She wasn't even here for a month.
Am I the in the wrong?
Edit: It hasn't been a month since she got FIRED. It's been a month since she started working here and she got fired a days ago. Forgot to mention she'd also give unwanted physical contact, like hands on shoulders, which I know some teachers and students are fine with, but I am not, especially with teachers I cannot stand.
Edit 2: Thanks for the judgement, however I am not asking for opinions on how I'll make it in the real word and all that. I'm asking for judgement on THIS story. Conclusion, Was I the bad apple for getting her fired? Not for anything else, my attitude, my future (Which me and partner are planning out with our jobs) and half of you haven't even give a proper judgement. Keep that in mind before you comment. For those saying I act like a child...I'm 17. Not 45. I have time to mature. With mental delays and other irrelevant conditions that I AM working on. I don't NEED strangers to worry about my future or giving me unsolicited and unwanted advice (Rude advice that is. Saying "You're whiny brat, grow up" is just insulting .") . Thanks, but I already have my future planned. So thanks for assuming I have 0 other coping skills and assuming I'm bratty and unable to be a member of society because I lost my cool, which everyone does, after keeping it for so long. I'm also still a minor. But for those nosey people - I plan to be a stay-at-home spouse and/or to work from home, which online working has proven to be my forte. If it doesn't work, we'll figure it out together since my partner wants to pursue a music career. So, please, no comments on my future or "How will this person ever survive?" or personal life in general. THIS story is the main focus. If you're gonna comment I'm whiny, at least give me advice on how to better myself. That doesn't mean "Stop whining."
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