The sad thing is that nowadays if you write a female character that isn't traditionally feminine and doesn't follow most of the stereotypes associated with women, these same people who complain about how every girl in media has the same stereotypical personality traits will then headcanon said girl as either non binary or a closet TIF. This is what frustrates me about these women and young girls. They complain about how every girl in media is the exact same, but then once a piece of media creates a girl that either has some masculine traits or at least isn't traditionally feminine, they then go "They are so non binary coded". Its like why do you even bother complaining about shows making females all the same if you're just going to claim "That's not a girl!" when they do something different with her? I feel like these girls have brainwashed themselves with this gender cult that they contradict themselves in wanting women characters to not be a walking stereotype, but also convinced themselves that "non traditional woman character is non binary".
100%. They talk from both sides of their mouth basically. They say sex stereotypes are not what makes one a man, woman, or non-binary, yet claim that every woman who doesn't meet the female sex stereotype is some variation of "trans". When it comes to media, they claim that the creator/s obviously meant it this way, or that this is a truth that transcends the creator/s intention. It's not just their options, or a private headcanon - no no, the character is obviously
coded non-binary (or trans man), which means it is non-binary (or trans man), it's just that the creator couldn't say it is so because society is transphobic or whatever.
It's like how they claim that sex stereotypes have nothing to do with their transition but then say they knew they are trans because they had short haircut and liked it, or liked to play with trains instead of dolls as kids, or like to play computer games; and are not sociable, empathic and patient (as in, like a mother/girlfriend supposed to be) and all kind of sex stereotypes and expectations they don't think they meet.
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Is this even true? I find it hard to believe that an adult who transitioned with a doctor prescription is deprived of cross-sex hormones... unless he doesn't get it trough the regular medical route, but through providers who don't require medical approval and such?
He went from a normal guy to anorexic ghoul and somehow thinks it's an improvement.
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That's the ticket.
lol, I assumed the opposite. I thought the dude's transition was ineffective like that of many male troons, and he is "boymoding" to his convince, so the friend didn't even realize he is supposed to be trans. But the other way around works too lol
They always say “I’m transitioning for my mental health“ and barely ever do anything else to improve their mental health. Think of all the things he could have done with that money to benefit him. He could have paid for a very good therapist/psychiatrist to help with his bipolar, bulimia and PTSD. Maybe start taking care of himself more, but no, titty skittles come first.
Not to mention, the mental health of most of them also deteriorates as a
direct result of being in the trancult. Some day I'll post a full rant about it, but just a taste:
1. Encouraging you to have your happiness depends on other people's affirmations and validations, their opinions and thoughts of you, is a recipe for very poor mental health. Every good therapist (and sometimes just people with a bit of life experience) will tell you you should not rely on what other people think of you for happiness. The transcult actively and heavily
encourage you to outsource your happiness. Your entire sense of self depends on other people thoughts, which you try to gauge by what they say and how they act. If they do something that makes you believe they don't think you are the "gender" you claim you are, you crumble. Even worse, what they want people to think (and truly believe in) about them, is completely impossible. So it's just a mental health disaster.
2. Encouraging catastrophizing and outright paranoid thinking, which of courses cause stress and anxiety (think they are being persecuted, everyone out to get them, they are being murdered, they experience literal genocide).
3. Encouraging victimhood and oppressor vs. oppressed (aka victim) mentality - they often transition to get out of the status of being oppressor which doesn't bode well with their idea of themselves, but believing you are a victim can actually have serious negative effect on mental health.
4. Encouraging self harm and mutilation. It might provide emotional release and sense of control, but it also harms mental health (and physical health).
5. Encouraging cutting off family members and close friends - family and close friends are our main source for emotional, practical and financial support and our biggest safety net. The transcult encourages people to cut off family and friends in the speed of light if they don't 100% validate and affirm you about every genderfeel you have or are not strong enough allies. Instead they offer "glitter family"/"chosen family" which are usually nothing but pale imitation of family/friends at best, and of course the support and embrace of the LGBTQI+
community. At some point they discover they have no real friends and no family, no one to really talk to and no help, financial or otherwise, from anyone, nothing. Isolation and lack of support is of course a great source for depression and anxiety and by itself can be a catalyst for other mental issues.
There are more but that's just of the top of my head.
And then there is the fact that being hormonally imbalanced usually effect mental health as well and of course deterioration of physical health as a result of surgeries can greatly effect mental health.
i'm a nonbinary trans man, and i love being a trans man. except, sometimes, in some queer spaces and when i'm seeing how other queer people talk about trans men. it got so bad when i was younger that i stopped identifying as a trans man for a few years, despite living my life as a man irl, generally.
people would treat me like i was a privileged cis man when i identified as a man, and would dismiss my experiences with misogyny and gendered violence. if i talked about medical misogyny, if i talked about my experiences as a man who can potentially get pregnant, if i talked about the harassment and gender-based violence i've experienced, all that went out the window because i was a man. and if i had a problem with that, suddenly i was an mra and proving their point.
i tried identifying as nonbinary transmasc, just nonbinary, even a nonbinary lesbian at one point (i am bi, but i was having a huge crisis). all the while i was happier being a guy, really. but if i embraced that, suddenly my experiences were invalid. and people still treated me like a guy when i identified as nonbinary, but in a really weird and gross way. like they were tolerating that i was calling myself nonbinary, but just saw me as a man who was faking my oppression.
i don't want to experience the oppression i do as a trans man. i'm not trying to make things into a competition. but the way trans men are treated in queer spaces for speaking up about the oppression we face, like it's not real and we just want to feel oppressed...it's such a horrible trend on social media and i wish it would stop.
Eh... welcome to manhood? I mean, this is how your whole genercult treats men. You don't know their life circumstances and what difficulties they are dealing with, you just brand them as privileged oppressors (especially if they are white) and hate them for it. You claim you are a man, so what do you expect?
BTW, I assume she relatively well passing, which is why they treat her like an actual man and not a pathetic imitation of a manlet. No matter how much they claim that what's important is how you identify as and not what you look like, and no matter how much they whine about "misgendering", they are just as prone to think of and treat someone based on senses like sight and hearing. It's almost like it's a shared, instinctive human trait you can't avoid or something.
i'm a nonbinary trans man
What the hell does that even mean. You are either nonbinary or trans man, pick one.
i tried identifying as nonbinary transmasc, just nonbinary, even a nonbinary lesbian at one point (i am bi, but i was having a huge crisis). all the while i was happier being a guy, really.
See, she distinguish between "nonbinary transmasc" and "nonbinary trans man", so I ask again, what does "nonbinary trans man" means?
There is a LOT of what I would call informal conversion practises that are done to trans men in trans spaces and it's basically ignored or we get told "you wanted this toughen up and deal with it" (victim blaming is okay when you're doing it to trans men apparently)
lmao, does she think these people try to make her detransition, is that what she means by "conversion"? Because, love, I promise you this is not what they are trying to do at all.
I would be straight up if someone says any BS respond "when you say things like this are you trying to make me feel bad about being a trans man so that I will detransition? Do you realise how fucked up that is that you're saying the same things about us as terfs in a space that is supposed to be safe for me and you've instead made me feel unsafe because of my transition?" then walk away.
It is what she thinks, lmao.
I was like, ok, if I was a cis man coming to you with this particular vanity project, would you tell me to go on hormone blockers or to get on estrogen?
See, the difference is that you are not a man, you are a women. The male body actually needs this levels of testosterone while the female body is harmed by it. So obviously, he will not suggest this to a man because lowering his testosterone levels will harm his health. Meanwhile, it will improve yours.
Personally I suggest hair transplant. Turkey is specialized in this.
there is a common belief in feminist circles that men have no problems even though marginalized men exist. It's weird considering how people claim to care about intersectionality.
"in feminist circles" - as if so called queer and LGBTQI+ circles are not the same, if not hundreds times worse in this regard. Look at your own community first before you look outside. How much do you talk about the "cis white man" as the source of all evil in the world? Don't like it that when it's turned against you, do you? Oh, you thought that you will be treated as some sort of "marginalized man"? Sorry, no. People either see you as man and than treat you like a man, or see you as a woman and than treat you like a woman. Because guess what? Sex is binary, "gender" is a fiction and people can either see you as male (man) or female (woman). No in-between or both. Definitely not alternating between both based on your preferences, lmao.
