i’ve been on T for nearly 3 years now, and i feel like i pass pretty well- my voice is deep, my chest isn’t visible at all with a binder, and i only wear men’s clothing. i usually use the men’s room but if i’m in a conservative area/feel like i’ll get shit for using the men’s restroom i’ll use the women’s. however, i almost always get dirty looks/stares from people no matter which bathroom i go into. i’ve even had people come up to me and say rude stuff to me in both (usually the women’s). i’m having trouble understanding if this is because i just don’t pass or is this because i’m lgbt/queer presenting in general? (i have a fair amount of facial piercings and visible tattoos) i was at a rest stop one time in central wa (a more conservative area in my state) and when i walked into the men’s room i kid you not EVERY single man in there turned their head at me and gave me the most dirtiest look you could possibly get lol. i walked straight to the only stall and one of them muttered “fucking t***ny” under their breath. i just walked back out and ended up making my friend pull over later so that i could pee in a bush.
another time was at a mall, in bellevue- which is a pretty progressive city. i went into the women’s room and an older woman stopped me and told me word for word “you will NEVER be a real woman. you are not welcome here.” my response was “great! i don’t want to be! but unfortunately per your logic this is the right bathroom
” she was absolutely stunned, it was honestly really funny. anyway, i literally don’t know what to do at this point lol. i avoid using any public bathroom, and if i absolutely have to i’ll only go in if there’s no one else in there. there often isn’t a gender neutral/family restroom either. just wondering if there’s anything i can even do to try to minimize this happening, i shouldn’t have to pee in a bush to avoid this but i also know there’s probably not much i can do either.
