Anger management.

[Just A Butt]

I get irrationally angry at the dumbest shit. Traffic, boring conversations, posting on a forum before I’m aware of the situation... (and making an ass of myself in the process)

What do you guys use to cope with irrational anger? I used to smoke a lot of weed, but I have a big-boy job now, and that’s not an option.

So I’d love some more methods to beat back the fucking rage that builds inside of me every goddamn minute of every goddamn day.

Thanks

 

[AA 102]

Have you tried calming down?

 

[OG 666]

I have a big-boy job now

What kind of job?

 

[Just A Butt]

Have you tried calming down?

I have. It’s not going well.

What kind of job?

The most detail I’m willing to get into: medical.

 

[Pickle Inspector]

Have you heard of Mindfulness?

It’s a bit new age sounding but it’s basically just mentally stepping back and working out why you’re angry and trying to solve the problem constructively instead of letting your emotions get the better of you.

 

[ForgedBlades]

Knife raping random people.

 

[Mr-Krabs-Is-Feeling-It]

I have. It’s not going well.


The most detail I’m willing to get into: medical.

Lmfaooo imagine your surgeon just fucking RAGING while performing surgery on you because your gallbladder isn't detaching properly or the nurse keeps asking him questions or some shit

 

[KeyserBroze]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9LZ35Ar3r2k - Rinse and Repeat

In all seriousness ,take up boxing or if thats too much work go to a bar and have a few drinks before calling the guy next to you a fag. Point being im going to go out on a limb and say you dont have an outlet for your anger.

 

[Graffiti canvas]

It sounds like you might be autistic. Maybe at least on the Assburgers spectrum.

Normal people don't get irrationally angry at things like shitposting poorly on an internet forum. You should probably get a diagnosis and then start a tumblr... maybe even troon out.

 

[IV 445]

@Desire Lines could use some

 

[Stranger Neighbors]

I get irrationally angry at the dumbest shit. Traffic, boring conversations, posting on a forum before I’m aware of the situation... (and making an ass of myself in the process)

What do you guys use to cope with irrational anger? I used to smoke a lot of weed, but I have a big-boy job now, and that’s not an option.

So I’d love some more methods to beat back the fucking rage that builds inside of me every goddamn minute of every goddamn day.

Thanks

I use heavy music/ gym combo, punching bag, if you live in a rural enough area go out in the mountains, woods, desert and just scream, go shoot guns, the arts help me writing stream of thoughts down or painting.

Also if you live near a garbage dump you can pay to drop stuff off at. Pay to "drop off stuff" (usually they will have several sections of stuff go to the furniture, miscellaneous crap) bring a sledgehammer with you and go to fucking town on random inanimate objects

If none of this fails you are beyond saving and you need to go to the Forrest and go full wild beast and hunt, kill with your bare hands and eat raw meat

 

[Slowboat to China]

The best advice I ever got from my shrink was just stepping back for a minute. Don't do any hippie shit, just go into a different room or take a walk around the block or disengage from the situation. Get out of that space that's making you nuts and you'll be able to calm down and see things a little more levelly. Then you can come back into the situation with a clearer head.

Exercise is good too, Hitting stuff is fun, and if the stuff in question isn't alive or belonging to someone else, you're probably okay.

 

[Just A Butt]

It sounds like you might be autistic. Maybe at least on the Assburgers spectrum.

Normal people don't get irrationally angry at things like shitposting poorly on an internet forum. You should probably get a diagnosis and then start a tumblr... maybe even troon out.

To put it things in context, I’m not angry at the forums, I’m angry at myself for being a dumbass.

But yea, I just might be on the spectrum.

 

[KeyserBroze]

if you live in a rural enough area go out in the mountains, woods, desert and just scream, go shoot guns

OP if you do this make sure you video it, post it on YouTube, and try to hit some of the targets. You want to look good if the media ever comes looking.

 

[Okkervils]

I'm not really sure how to answer this as I rarely get angry. But I would recommend exercise, even taking a 20 minute walk can drastically improve your mood and I'm not pulling that out of my ass either, I know a lot of psychiatrists that recommend it.

Have you heard of Mindfulness?

Also, that. I've used it for other stuff and it legitimately works if you put in some effort.

 

[nagant 1895]

In my younger days I was a rage-aholic. I liked it, but after scaring away too many people I realized it wasn't productive. There I things I like more than being able to scare people around me with unhinged anger so I quit. Every time I feel that little ember heating up I just ask myself "what will this accomplish?" and since the answer is almost always "Nothing" my mind takes the path of least resistances and doesn't bother expending the energy to rage out.
It was an easy habit to pick up too because it doesn't take much time to ask and answer that question compared to the 30 or 40 seconds needed to build up the anger momentum for a rage.
If your problem is really as constant as your post implies though I don't know if this will work, but trying to catch a few incidents out of each day and stop them may help put the brakes on the whole thing?

 

[Just A Butt]

Lmfaooo imagine your surgeon just fucking RAGING while performing surgery on you because your gallbladder isn't detaching properly or the nurse keeps asking him questions or some shit

I’ve been mulling over this one for a while. But I have reached a conclusion:

FUCK YOU, GALLBLADDER! WHY THE FUCK WON’T YOU DO WHAT I SAY???

 

[Slowpoke Sonic]

I would recommend taking medication (prozac, zoloft, etc) but it won’t work because of nasty side-effects and shit.

When I was little I tard-raged all the time at school, so my mom made me take meds. I reacted badly to them so I stopped taking them. When I was 13 I took anti-depressants and it made me lose alot of weight. My mom thought I had tardive dyskinesia because I was spasming alot in class one time.

I’d also recommend seeing a therapist but most of them are kinda shit.

 

[Frogasm]

Mindfulness to start. Once you know why you are mad you can solve that issue.

The other shit that makes you mad are probably not the real root issue.

 

[Sundae]

In my younger days I was a rage-aholic. I liked it, but after scaring away too many people I realized it wasn't productive. There I things I like more than being able to scare people around me with unhinged anger so I quit. Every time I feel that little ember heating up I just ask myself "what will this accomplish?" and since the answer is almost always "Nothing" my mind takes the path of least resistances and doesn't bother expending the energy to rage out.
It was an easy habit to pick up too because it doesn't take much time to ask and answer that question compared to the 30 or 40 seconds needed to build up the anger momentum for a rage.
If your problem is really as constant as your post implies though I don't know if this will work, but trying to catch a few incidents out of each day and stop them may help put the brakes on the whole thing?

Same here. One thing that helped me to better control my anger was to keep telling myself that eventually things will improve, that it's not worth the long term ill-effects on my health to be angry all the time. Just think about all the things you want to do one day (travel, life goals you hope to accomplish, etc.) and focus on that. Learning not to get angry at the little things in life goes a long way to relieving a lot of stress.