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Yes, there is: this dipshittery comes from My Gender Workbook: How to Become a Real Man, a Real Woman, the Real You, or Something Else Entirely by Kate Bornstein, published in 1998. (It can be downloaded for free via here.) So none of you have to taint your computers, I'll add some more from the list (and some bonus goodies).Is there actually a source for that being real?
The accursed list itself (found on beginning on page 103). I'm putting it in text so farmers can highlight especially horrible ones (just remember to select the quote so the quote/reply button hovers over it).
101 Gender Outlaws Answer the Question, “Who Am I?”
I put the word out on the Internet that I’d like people to define themselves in twenty-five words or less.Several couldn’t resist going on for more than twenty-five words, but I liked what they wrote so much I put
them in here anyway.
So, responding to the questions “Who Are You, What Are you,” I’m proud to present 101 amazing answers
from 101 amazing people.
1. A woman who had a spontaneous pre-natal sex re-assignment.
2. As an intersexed person born with XY chromosomes and testes, but a female gender identity and
appearance, I confirm that nature intended for there to not always be an identity between sex and
gender.
3. An anachronous simulsanguesexual literary faerie (gyrl).
4. I’m a good little boy, but I’m a BAD little girl!
5. the VERY short version: transgendered redneck the pretty short yers/on; transgressively gendered
butch/FM and halfheartedly-recovering redneck. the not-that-short version:queer female-to-
butch/male transgenderist, sex radical, tree-hugger, anarchist, parent, activist, writer/performance
artist & halfheartedly-recovering redneck.
6. Basically, I’m a 34 year old bisexual femme guy. I regularly wear necklaces, pins and earrings, I dress
in bright flamboyant colors, and in social settings it is quite obvious that I’m more at ease talking
with women than with men. In short, I am fairly feminine in behavior and sensibility. I’m not
transsexual, and I doubt I would be considered transgendered, however, as this culture defines such
terms I happen to be more feminine than masculine in my tastes and behaviors.
7. always queer, finally dyke, a run-of-the-mill hermaphrodite mom.
8. a born again woman.
9. A God+Godess, part of everything, owned by nothing.
10. I think… I am a female fag, who is a drag Queen, who is a mother, has a soon to be transman lover
and may very well be a tranny hisself. I hate labels it’s all so complicated, but I think it fits the bill
today. Change is good right?
11. Badass motorcycle boot-wearing expensive lingerie consuming femme biker switch warrior. ‘Nuff
said? :

12. Kitt, aka AlexFox, Alaskan Fox, Mom-Dad, P.(arental) U.(nit), Sweetie, She was pretty as a
woman, but omigawd he’s even handsomer as a man!
13. The fabulous Boy-Girl-posthuman-lt-Thing JordyJones. Artist Writer and Whore. Multi-tasking
media-darling, polymorphous pervert and irreverent illiterator.
14. a transgendered tomgirl making hir (It’s time we had our own pronouns) way in to the world.
15. i am … boy-girl-faggy butch with an avid appreciation for femmes & het sex.
16. What am I? It depends.
When I speak of Brandon Teena, a transsexual man who was raped and then murdered because
he dared identify as a man while possessing a vagina, I am a transsexual man.
When I speak of a transsexual woman who is being excluded because of her past, I am a
transsexual woman.
When I speak of a pre-op transsexual who is being hurtfully categorized by the shape of the tissue
between his or her legs, I am a pre-op transsexual.
When I speak of a post-operative transsexual who is being denigrated as the destroyer of his own
body’s integrity, I am a post-op transsexual.
When I speak of those who dare not reveal the pleasure they derive from wearing clothing
reserved exclusively for use of the opposite sex, I am a transvestite.
When I speak of those who are regarded as degenerate because they find certain items particularly
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stimulating of pleasurable fantasy, I am a fetishist.
When I speak of those who enjoy games of erotic power exchange, I am a sadomasochist.
When I speak of those who prefer the same sex to the opposite for intimacy, I am a homosexual.
When I speak of those who open their arms to intimacy without restriction based on sexual
polarity, I am a bisexual.
When I speak of any woman who is being hurt because she dares to challenge or seek respect, I
am a sister.
When I speak of any man who is being hurt because he dares to prefer sensitivity to durability, I
am a brother.
When I speak of any person who is being hurt because they do not identify as either man or
woman, I do not identify.
I am all of these things. In being so, I make a difference where and whenever difference is being
used to make hurt.
17. Twin-spirited extraterrestrial with a primal urge to get fucked by something that fits.
18. 18. I am …
1. An embryo in the prime of life
2. A cross between Calamity Jane and Lucy Ricardo
3. The Donna Reed of S/M.
19. Nattily attired 40-going-on-11 first alto female-to-male transsexual… subject to change without
notice.
20. Riki Anne Wilchins author of Read My Lips is lesbian or bisexual, transexual or transgender, man or
woman living in Greenwich Village or New York City. Her hobbies include the Transexual Menace,
the Lesbian Avengers, attacking false binaries or any *other* political system which oppresses her or
just really pisses her off. She is Executive Director of Gender PAC.
21. As far as a phrase to describe myself, I often give people some variation of: “Radical feminist
transgender political lesbian.”
I know that at least you understand the original meaning of the phrase “political lesbian.” I once
identified myself as a political lesbian to a drag queen who thought I was gay, and she asked “What’s
that?” I laughed and said, “I like the clothes!” I prefer an ethnic, but femme look-silk or cotton skirt,
cotton top, embroidered vest, silver jewelry. But sometimes when I’m feeling subversive, I’ll put on a
butch dyke look-blue jeans, trucker’s wallet, boots. Of course my black leather motorcycle jacket
goes with either look.
Since I’m out to over a dozen people, I don’t mind if you use my real name and say I’m from
Minneapolis. I’ve been hiding from my womanliness for too long, and I can’t see how transgender
people can be accepted unless a few will come forward and refuse to be shamed or humiliated. It is
easier in my case, since my breasts are naturally so large when I show people they think I am on
hormones already. My hips are wide too. If anyone tries to shove me back in the closet, I plan to ask
them to explain why my body looks like it does. I think the Creator made me special for her own
reasons.
I have a woman’s heart too-l have a hard time turning down someone who needs legal help-
learned lots about domestic abuse and domestic abusers that way. Now that I have seen how men
use force, threats and violence to dominate women (and each other, including me), I can honestly
call myself a radical feminist. I’m educating myself on this fast.
I really am a lawyer (and a civil engineer)-l’m glad I’ve achieved as much as I have; even with my
vulnerable woman’s heart, no one can make me feel like a circus freak or perverted misfit.
22. i’ve been pondering your query about how we define ourselves/know who we are. i would have to say
that i become a reflection of whatever dance i find myself doing with whomever i am falling in love
with at the moment.
23. On the way to finally being ME.
24. M2F shaman/artist and consecrated Galla of Cybele (my wife) and intersex FA2MA (feminine androgyne to masculine androgyne) leather top and priest/ess of the Dark Goddess (me).
25. FTM transgendered bulldagger, gentleman stone butch dyke with fag tendencies. Or as my
girlfriend says, a drag queen trapped in a man trapped in a woman’s body.
26. I’m a bi-gendered boychick with balls and boobs. Call me Ken, or call me Barbie-same doll,
different packaging; some assembly required; sex, clothing and accessories sold separately; available
in fine boy-tiques everywhere.
27. Someone who grew up in the exile of duality, who is now entering the garden where he/she, you/me,
are inseparable.
28. Liz and Al Pierce, a professional couple in a small midwestern college town, forced into a closet of
sorts by necessity of current circumstance-there are the subtle sign-systems by which we
communicate with the handful (literally) of like-minded sexual outlaws who live in the area, but we
have found that what was once (when living in urban areas, such as SF) potent means of
communication among ourselves and others on the streets is now diluted into mainstream fashion
trends-current accessorizing fetishes used to be a semiotics of sexual proclivity—and people don’t
even know what they are doing (or SAYING) with their sartorial choices-it’s somewhat amusing.
All one can be is amused.
Note: a week later, a correction arrived.
I’ve been thinking about the byte I sent you and it’s not quite right— certainly needs to be amended at
the end to add that I top my master “as a boy.” It’s hard for me to define my sexual self outside of my
current relationship—it depends upon it-just the way it will shift with the next primary relationship, if there
ever is one. What’s central is that we PLAY with gender in our relationship: I can be a femme-whore
bottom or a faggot top: he is my het-man master, or my slut-girl; or gender is erased, and we are simply
engaged, immersed in each other. Now you’ve got me going on this… liz and al pierce
29. Publisher, author, GenXer and daughter of mothers who believes if you don’t make the dust, you eat
the dust.
30. I’m Della Grace aka Delboy, Del, He, She, Sir Vesuvio, Transfag, Hermaphrodyke and Queer as
Fuck My Arse Photographer. Previously known as a Pussy Licking Sodomite and a Practicing Pervert
until I upset my mother.
31. Celibate Buddhist dyke residing in a gay man’s body while waiting for Hello Kitty to turn her into a
nymphomaniac straight girl.
32. A gorgeous girl in a dress-you do the rest.
A suit and tie stud make you drop on your knees.
33. I used to be a span
Bridge between woman, man,
Now I’m the ferryman,
Sailing where no bridge can,
No end to knowing.
34. A pretty typical Orthodox Jewish woman, who just happens to be transexual. Being a Nice Jewish
Girl sure beats being a Nice Jewish Guy.
35. Out/M-F/stopped short of the knife/keeping M name to remember history/alone on a
limb?/WHERE THE HELL ARE THE REST OF YOU GUYSMl/estrogened/multidisciplinary
performance artist/… human
36. … as long as I can still kick ass, it ain’t nobody’s business if I’m dick or dyke. or alternatively,
… I’m an old butch whose jackets may now bunch up around my hips and whose jeans may rub at
my thighs, but at least my ties still go around my neck.
37. I am a strongly identified woman in my gender with occasional masturbatory fantasies of being
endowed with male genitalia.
38. I’m a butchy-femme, omnisexual, polyamorous, genderbent, kinky, queer-1 am most attracted to
queer, genderfuck boys: transboys, boychicks, bioboys, makes me no diff.
39. I’m The Dyke of Androgyny… i get called sir more than maam, despite the sizable mammary glands protruding from my chest. The hair on my head is the shortest found on my body, a gentle societal
mindfuck, if you will.
40. Transsexual dyke, submissive pervert, percussion fetishist, computer geek, and subversive
queermonger.
41. Just another brassy womyn who happened to be born with a penis.
42. Two-spirit mixed-blood transgender working-class sober queer boy dyke daddy.
43. OK-who am I? Spencer Bergstedt, Attorney at Law. FM, rabble-rouser, gentlemanly pain in the
ass. What am I? Trans-man Hetero-queer Daddy Top.
44. A granola femme with an SM twist, a dyke drawn primarily to butches & FTMs.
45. call me: fuzzy femme compelled-to-be&tell-my-truth jewitch girlfag dreamer.
46. happy going, fluidly-gendered, pan-sexual eurotrash Canuck switch with a sweet tooth for the taste
of untried and new genderomantic flavours and twists.
47. Everlove’nStudMuffinButtBustingGenderTwistingSadomasochisticHype DaddyDyke!
48. Jewish Lesbian/Feminist. Butch in the sheets, but I love fem sheets.
49. Sadistic High Femme Top/Switch/Babygirl beggin’ masochist
And there you have i t… so to speak.
50. I’m a Poetess-bi-dyke-drag-chick (sometimes-i-crave-dick)-Gasp! Laugh. grrrrl2grrrrl into hip-
hop-funk-folk, addicted to phat beats, and heavy, open, dangerous minds.
51. oh shit, butch, female bodied, human persona-ed, male appearing, daddy, momma’s boy, mother
fucker, cross dressing, gentleman, top, smooth talking, dirty minded, nasty fingered, lover of women
… is one of the things I am.
52. A big leather dyke on a big fucking bike.
53. Radical redheaded, depends on what day of the week it is, Femme/Mommy/Daddy/ 8 yr.
old/beautific grrl Dyke.
54. Omnisexual, omnigendered pervert fag transman in a biofemale body.
55. Up until 11, i was certain I was a boy, but everything started making gender-sense again in my 30s
when I finally threw out all my panties and got boxers. Okay, well, I kept a coupla pairs for REALLY
kinky sex.
56. I hate labels for the boxes that tend to accompany them but if I had to choose it would be
transfag/dyke (both having equal weight) with dual citizenship whose passport/visa is in peril at the
whim of any Devotee of the One True Path, revocation of which will certainly not prevent me from
crossing the border. I consider myself intersexed by choice as well as a queer androgyne.
57. I’d have to describe myself as a femme hybrid—Half Michigan, half raging homo, or in other words,
half baked and half-way home, but 100 percent pussy.
58. I’m a devilishly handsome dyke with angel wings who knows how to treat every woman, of any
gender, because I *know* they’re all different and I like them that way.
Or how about:
I’m a spiritual woman with a strong belief in the strength of her own right arm and devastating
charm … *grin*
Or maybe:
Sorry boys, can I help it if redheads prefer gentlewomen?
59. From the outside, people see me as a woman (yay! that’s true!) and a femme (bummer! that’s not
me!). Inside, I’m a radical hungering for justice, bisexual, and relaxed about gender. I see a flash of
kinship recognition in the twinkly eyes of all the tender, sweet-spirited people in the world.
60. Mean femme dyke when I’m not being a tender man holding my lady or a mama feeding my babies.
61. A celibate Transgender Lesbian trying to live an honorable and ethical Unitarian Universalist life.
62. I’m someone whose gender would have been considered inverted because I love women, or I would
have been assumed to be passing as a man because I wear jeans and flannel shirts, or I would have
been accused of rejecting my womanhood because I haven’t married or born children, or I would be
considered intergendered because I have big tits & big muscles, or I would have been considered
mixed spirits because I love to cook and love to play rugby. But in this time and place I’m just called a
strong, dykey, woman. You can call me whatever you want!
63. here are 3 [definitions] I occasionally use for myself, even though I’m not satisfied with any of’em. If
you like ‘em, use ‘em:
–openly transsexual leather faggot without a cock
–ftm ts, mtf dq (digital queer)
–zeroboy in the city of the queen of angels
64. a bigendered, bisexual (or perhaps pangendered and pansexual) switch, a gay/bi FTM drag queen
(transfagdrag)!
65. I am: Young, female and feminist, bisexual, homoemotional, trying to change the world and stop it
from changing me too much!
66. Supremely arrogant, drop-dead gorgeous, brilliant, sexually compulsive erotic femsub. Modest, too.
67. A spiritual wisechild metagenderly packaged for your convenience.
68. define myself, (fuck, I don’t know this is a tough one-l’ve got so many labels-it depends on the
moment.)
69. A motorcycle ridin’, pool playin’, softball hittin’, average kind of dyke who’s afraid of ruining her
nails!
70. A constant flow: a journey from one way of thinking, to the wide open expression of what it really
means to be me. or …
militant-feminist female-2-male butch genderfuk daddy transexual fag or …
I changed my mind. This happens a lot.
“anomalous” I think that’s my gender. If you have space or want to or whatever, you can put ‘em
both in. Whichever. I like anomalous better though.
71. SM butchdyke, heavy bottom boychick, I like fat girls!
72. Hey, thanks for asking. I was just thinking about my gender the other day after I went shopping for
a pair of boys shorts and a strapless bra. My clothing has more gender than I do. So here are a few
first minute thoughts on the subject, organized into shorter and short: How do I define my gender? I
don’t.
A child once asked me “are you a boy or a girl?” I said, “both.” Now, I would say “neither.”
73. I am a bisexual androgynous woman rebelling against the male body I was born in and the masculine
facade that I have created to fit in to my male dominated society. The same society that insisted I be
tough, “manly” and aggressively competitive. The same society that punished me for showing
emotion and being more sensitive than the “other boys.”
Ironically, I have succeeded in being the “alpha male of my pack.” I am a soldier; an officer and a
gentleman, as such, to be respected and obeyed. I am a physician and healer. I am an explorer and
athlete and scholar. I am many people who were expected to be male in less enlightened times.
Now, having finally admitted the truth to myself, I have quit trying to chase my femininity into the
dark shadows of my psyche. I am now taking steps to alter my body as I see fit to express the gender I
wish to express. I am maintaining the strength and fortitude I developed in my quest to be a “real
man” and I am using it to endure the even harder path to expressing myself as a woman.
Whether I am in high heels or combat boots, running with wolves or contemplating a sunset… I
am me. I am alive, free and in the pursuit of happiness.
74. Priest in their religion, priestess in ours.
75. Ill-defined, ill-gendered; over/under defined, over/under gendered; beyond definition, beyond
gender. Definition fatigued yet gender starved. Barely a woman, but allways a dyke.
76. I a m… an Aussie FtM TS spin bowler, straight (but likes guys now and then), who hopes to be the
first transsexual on his state’s men’s cricket team … maybe someday I’ll play for the country and beat
the Poms (that’s Australian for Englishmen) at Lord’s (cricket ground) and win the Ashes yet again.
Oh yes, the Ashes are a trophy played for by Australia and England in cricket.
77. Transsexual Woman Estranged Parent Catholic Lesbian Ex-Engineer Waitress with “delusions of
‘blandeur’” and a happy love of God and each of Her/His children.
78. I’m a multidimentional butch daddy dyke shaman artist alien who fucks with stereotypes. I believe I
could answer that differently each and every day.
79. In me, binary American culture can only see an FM. My best MTF friend calls me “Wrong Way
Walker”
80. I’m your average … normal… person … who happens to be a Female to Male Transexual, (a
heterosexual-”with a twist”) A “spiced up” version of the average.
90. I’m gay-positive (bent!) straight Jewish formerly working-class white grrl feminist who teaches
women’s studies and is going to be a new mom to a sweet babe from China!
91. I am a Kate More. I’m not entirely sure what a Kate More is, but I know what one does, it lusts after
belonging.
92. A free-roving TwoSpirit with shades of a Shoalin Monk with a little Scottish Highlander thrown in
for spice. But failing that, I am Life.
93. If I knew what I was, I would be lot happier at the moment. Lets see, butch enough to drive a
motorcycle and repair it, femme enough to pass as a (ex)model, if I cared enough. Butch enough to do
martial arts, silly enough to own a couple of frilly tart dresses. I do attract butches and femmes,
although I am turned more on by butches at the moment.
94. I am a Gen X, highfemme, non-monogamous,
sexworker/teacher/healer/performer, switchable SM dyke.
That looks so short, but I think of it as the headlines in the newspaper of my life. I don’t think I
was ever anything else, really. I always felt comfortable in my gender. Sexual expression and behavior
is my battlefield.
95. My greatest cruelty is in my kindness. I am a butch queer leather Daddy; a gentlemen sadist. Those
who love me refer to me as The Whore Of Babylon.
96. A Lesbian trapped in a man’s body.
97. What labels do I wear? Left-handed MTF transsexual lesbian sadomasochist transfag-hag anarchist
with a Ph.D.
98. Viragoid TranSexual. Dyke (femme), PolyPerverse Bottom, Harpy, TransHag. Game Designer.
Superheroine. Not pretty. Say-how do you feel about sex-maddened Trans Groupies, anyway?
Heehee!
99. I was born intersexed but identify as a Pre-operative Transexual Lipstick Lesbian. In laywomyn
terms, “I’m just a Flirt in a Skirt with no room in my life for men.”
100. My current identity tag is: priapic butch fella and bloodsports triathlete, reclaiming the haircuts of
my oppressors-heh!
101. lesbian father-to-be, excited, romantically intoxicated butch fiancee of the lesbian femme-of-my-
dreams
Wait! There’s a few more!
(well, it’s silly to think there are only 101 gender outlaws in the world.)
102. I am a Transperson: Not a Transvestite and not a Crossdresser, but a person who is Two-Spirited.
This means that I have two first names, two closets for clothes, two bank accounts, two sets of credit
cards, two ways of eating, two ways of speaking and two ways to spend my money. Now if I only had
two paychecks…
103. “I’m finally me. Completely, totally me.”
There-did it in only six words and a couple of punctuation marks.:-)
104. Veterinarian, cowboy, wrangler wearing, shirt free when able, man who for some time lived as what
our society viewed as a woman.
105. Fence-straddling, Bridge-burning, machoflaming bisexual prettyboy faggotdude-a singer of the
high and the low
106. Sexy, sensual, good-looking guy who just so happened to be born female but is working to change
that!
107. Happily recovering from the dark world of unknown to the world of light. Enjoying the life I knew
was always inside, could never hide, & letting others see the “real” me! I smile & laugh so much now,
I’m another person! I hope to see the day when others are able to shine in their light!