cemetery visits declining makes perfect sense but that also goes along with changing demographics of death. the death rate of 23 yr old married women has probably also steadily declined. (there is a chance I am wrong due to trends like opioid addiction. )
my whole thing is that she died unexpectedly, she was young and ostensibly happily married.
honestly if Judd went to veteran affairs and said here is the situation we want a plot for her she was 23 and I am 25 but we tossed the ashes and I am just now realizing we have this option . could you please memorialize her at this cemetery. I can't see them making a big deal.
I just know Jaq would have hated her obit linking back to that tacky crematorium. I bet you she would have rather they posted it anywhere else that revealed that when the rubber hit the road that was the best her family could do for her.
and on the note about her mentioning him being in the military. some of the content may have been taken down to a certain extent and what you may also notice is her mention of it decreased at a certain precise point in time . there was a whole reason behind this that I was privy to (although it was posted semi publicly) I forget the precise terminology but munchie dependa's and other various classes of dependas essentially doxed Judd and he was told his wife was disclosing too much information about the specifics of his service. legend goes that Judd was spoken to about his wife broadcasting info about his service online. you might recall she made a specific video and in passing mentioned he had been called to do something with the reserves, but military regulations prohibit her from saying anything more.
What’s your hang up with national cemeteries just because someone had a miscarriage and wanted a free burial there?
You understand the woman wanted the fetus buried there so she could get a burial plot and marker for free, right? She didn’t want to shell out her own money to bury her miscarriage. It’s not some high honor for most - it’s a freebie.
National cemeteries aren’t some great option. Arlington has a lot of prestige, but the rest of them are where a lot of homeless veterans or veterans without family are buried. It’s more of a social service to respect all dead veterans more than a great honor being bestowed. The govt found lots of WWI vets being tossed in potters fields during the depression, it was a disgrace, so a free burial program for vets was instituted. (The early National cemeteries are next to civil war battlefields since transporting thousands of bodies for burial after battles wasn’t feasible - most of those graves are anonymous.)
I’ve got a family with many highly decorated, multi-tour combat vets (WWII, Korea, Vietnam) and none of the chose or want to be buried in a national cemetery but they did chose to have a full military honors graveside where they were buried. Having military honors graveside, at a local, community or church cemetery is the norm. Most people would prefer not to be buried in the large, anonymous graves of the federal govt. veterans affair bureau. (Arlington is the exception to this thanks to it’s history and war heroes being buried there.)
Burial at a national cemetery is a VA benefit and usually done by families who can’t or don’t want to pay funeral costs, veterans without family and some career military personnel who spent their entire adult lives in active service.
Spouses only get their name on the veterans marker. You think Judd wants to be buried with Jaqi? He probably hopes to find another woman to actually have a long marriage and kids with.
(Besides Judd will only qualify for free burial there if he dies while in the reserves or spends 20 plus years in the reserves and gets retirement benefits.)
