User Slideshow Bill (I wont at, but want to credit) posted the most succinct versions of the Phases of Autism I've ever seen.
Autism Condensed
Autism I: Mostly indistinguishable from normies aside from a few quirks, can live independently and can socialize but can get overwhelmed and will need the rare sperg out alone time.
Autism II: Slightly more "off" than A1, this is where the more stereotypical high functioning autists lie, isn't suited for the fast paced modern world, would have been perfectly fine in the pre-Industrial Revolution era,
Autism III: Is visibly mentally disabled, can live independently sometimes but will need a lot of support, this type is where special education starts.
Autism IV: Permanent toddler, will never be able to live independently.
The people who reside in I and II are experienced stealth agents and exceptional liars. Type I are able to shape shift (skinwalk) and maintain the deception longer than type II, but eventually it shows. I'm somewhere between type I and II and can report the 'friends' I have do the heavy lifting.
Not trying to cast aspersions, but from experience friendship with an autist isn't very balanced. My 'best friend' is an NT, who has tard wrangled me from a very young age. For example, she spent a holiday away with her dad one summer, I did not know her when she returned (face blindness). I then only talked about a very niche technical topic and did not bother to ask how she was, what she did away, etc.
My view of our friendship is she's my window into normalcy and she like most girls/women is extremely empathetic (either by societal grooming or inherent nature). When I have asked she will laugh and say it's because I love you. I've learned to shrug and say it back, but I don't really understand. Our 'circle of friends' are used to my tard tendencies, and will just nod and ignore my weirdness. It's strange they included me in all their stuff (showers/birthdays/parties/bar hopping/etc) over the years but I have
never initiated/planned/suggested doing anything.
Both male and female autists tend to mask it, but the latter are far better at it.
I lean to agree on this. There’s a constant expectation for women/girls to be social. We're bombarded with “you should smile more,” “you’re so much prettier when you smile.” It's always be
pleasant, kind, and approachable. I wont even go into societal lessons like "value is tied to your appearance", or "fuckability determines your worth". From a young age, via social conditioning sometimes gentle, sometimes with force we learn to interact with others. It’s typically women doing the instructing, and because they are (on average) more empathic/patient the
constant explicit training works. Masking becomes second nature. I also think society infantilizes women making it is easier for us to blend.
It doesn’t seem to work the same for boys. At least where I’m from, boys are expected to grow into capital-M men. If they are found to not be masculine enough, they’re quickly sorted into the ‘fag’ or ‘tard’ category and exiled. Male figures guide them and fathers/coaches tend to be far less patient. They lose their temper, tap out, or lash out. There’s no real room for failure. Where women provide mostly gentle corrections, men are far more brutal. This is just based on my observations. Again this is just my observation from my small corner of the world. I can be and have been wrong before.