I disagree, he has stated how much he hates facebook and getting replies or having to explain his posts. I think something goes different from his vision and he straight up rage quits. I am glad that just like I said many, many, MANY pages ago, he is using us as a sound board for appropriate vs inappropriate.
Well, I think he does get mad, that's true. I think I over-stated my case.
But I think he also obsesses over what people are thinking of him, and is always thinking about how he looks to people. That's why he deletes so many posts. Have you ever known someone closely who had NPD or something in the same cluster? They spend an inordinate amount of time thinking about how every little thing makes them look. It's exhausting. It takes up so much mental capacity. Narcissists are insecure. Just look at Donald Trump. No ability to be self-deprecating at all, only concerned about how he's being covered, whether people like him, admire him, think he's smart. Constantly, constantly. He doesn't care about anything except whether he is being admired and how people are evaluating his accomplishments. And no self-awareness that he is doing it. Russ is the same way. So, I'm sure he does get mad, and a lot. That whole thread on Taylor Swift's post must have enraged him, but he also is very embarrassed when people are laughing at him.
And he's still trying to get people to like him. Maybe not us. We're the incomprehensible "haters," but all the other people that he thinks he might have some chance to sway, his friends and other followers, and strangers who may find out about him, and women of course. Deep down, narcissists know they are shit, and that's why they have to kick up so much dust, in order to avoid contemplating how pathetic they are. Those feelings of worthlessness are so near the surface, but also so shielded from the conscious mind.
I was thinking about something... I think we should consider that maybe his parents are not as we have imagined them. Some people do get NPD by being overly coddled and treated as if they are special and deserve special treatment (often as a golden child in a dysfunctional family), but it's also common when they feel they are never living up to the standards their parents set for them. Maybe his parents have never been happy with him, which is not too difficult to imagine. It's quite possible that he was a constant disappointment to them, and that he used his disability to try to get attention out in the world because it wasn't working at home, and he was able to extract some pity from people. Maybe he needed that love from somewhere else, but his horrible, off-putting personality made it impossible for him to get any sort of attention from anyone, so he turned to his only option, which was pity for his disability. That worked sometimes, it was the only thing that worked, and that's why he clings to it. That could also be how his parents approached him. They might have realized how awkward and unlovable he was, and their pity was the only attention he got from them too. Or maybe they're messed up too, and they used his disability against him to undermine his confidence. Narcissistic parents often focus on things like weight in order to make their children feel insecure. Maybe they did that.
In other words, I don't we can safely assume that his parents treated him like he was special and deserved special treatment. It might be true, but it might not be too. It would be very interesting to find out more about their relationship.
