I'm trans FtM. How do disclose when I solicit sex?
I am in Brussels and would like to see a lady while I'm here.
I transitioned from female to male. I appear and act very masculine, and I have a penis now. I have to wear an elastic bandage wrap & condom to keep an erection. I am clean, respectful, kind, pretty normal person all around. I'm not looking for anything wild, just want to try sex as I haven't since I got a penis.
When I text most of the private reception ladies I find online only send prices, their location, and working hours that day, and ignore questions. Some answer yes/no questions. It seems futile (not to mention very awkward) to ask via message. I considered showing up and telling her before I paid, but that would waste both our time if she wasn't OK with it.
I don't know if I would be safe going to the ladies in the windows: difficult because I speak English and many of them do not. Also a bad neighborhood so I consider my own safety.
I am hesitant about the private houses because these are also far enough out of town that I'd have to travel an hour by bus, which would be a waste of time if I were turned down for my gender history, among other reasons. I also see variable reviews on experiences with the ladies there, and I'm willing to pay a little more to ensure I have a good "first time".
Any suggestions for how to go about this?
Edit: I would like to make clear that I mistyped some things in the comments, invalidating and insulting trans women and more. This was completely my mistake. It's my responsibility to choose words carefully, especially around sensitive topics where my words can easily hurt people: both directly, and indirectly through encouraging harmful beliefs in others. I apologize for my inconsiderate choice of words. If im being honest, this happens often. I will make an effort to type more slowly and consider how what I say will come across.