I called my boyfriend on the phone and he basically just spent the whole call trying to emotionally manipulate me into not talking about gender critical stuff on twitter before making up some bullshit excuse to get me off the phone when he realised he wasn’t gonna change my mind. He did that gaslight-y man thing where they say your points are valid while simultaneously trying to invalidate all of your points. Apparently critique of trans activism is fine as long as it comes from a person who is arguing in good faith (and of course he’s the absolute moral authority on what good faith is), its only a really tiny of minority of shitty trannies ruining things for the nice ones (so you shouldn’t care) and even though I retweet all sorts of non political things on twitter too, all the people you like that talk about this just post about this too much. (Don’t you realise you should only argue on my terms?) But I’m not trying to police how you express yourself and who you can associate yourself with, I’m very sorry if it came across that way! I’m just trying to reconcile this you see, your twitter likes just make me so uncomfortable (you wouldn’t want to make me uncomfortable would you?).
At one point I said that tarring me with the same brush as those big scawwy single-issue gender critical accounts that just talk about these things too much was guilt by association and he actually fucking scoffed at me. The audacity. He said we need to find a middle ground, so I said that I wouldn’t be offended if he just muted me on Twitter so he didn’t have to see gender critical stuff anymore but I could still DM him memes and shit like that since he can control his own timeline but has no right to control mine. But then he did a complete 180 and was like “but I don’t want to just gloss over this and pretend it doesn’t exist!!!1!”. I’m over here like Christ almighty m8 make your fucking mind up, and they say women are the indecisive ones! I even told him I wouldn’t be mean to his mates and am perfectly capable of being civil when the occasion calls for it and he was all like “and you’re not gonna be civil the rest of the time????” - but he’s totally not trying to police how I express my opinions! Its obvious that the only palatable solution to him is the one in which I shut up and only speak when spoken to like a good girl, but he’s self aware enough not to say that to my face since he knows full well it’ll make him sound like a controlling misogynistic knobhead.
Also he lied to my face about reading my DMs and tried to gaslight me into thinking it was some weird twitter mobile glitch, Twitter has read receipts and everything says ”sent” but not “seen”. Ah yes, the elusive glitch that only happens with one person that’s mad at me and who at no point actually directly refers to or refutes anything mentioned in said messages. Funny how that works.
The feminine urge to text him and tell him that he’s changed my mind on trans issues since he’s clearly manstruating, and to get that checked out by a doctor because it’s not normal for a period to go on for 2 months straight. If he hasn’t finished “reconciling” by February I’m most likely going to dump him since it’s pretty clear his respect for my time is conditional on me being a right opinion dispenser. I demand and deserve better.
