A pooner's gooner girl pal showed her what constitutes as "proper yaoi" for the kids these days - biological male on TiF - and has a new reason to feel like shit about herself. If you're going to go to the trouble of fetishizing homosexual relationships, why make it heterosexual anyway? Then again, female fandom spaces certainly deliver some... unique perspectives on female sexuality as a whole, to put it lightly.
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I was in a situation recently, where someone I knew (cis women) had been showing me content that fetishized trans men, specifically the fact that they are born with female genitalia. I won’t really be more into it because it isn’t necessary, but to summarize.
She hasn’t stopped, she only consumes m/m content when one of them is trans, she does have a fetish for trans ftms, and she shows me it constantly.
But that’s not really what I’m wondering about obviously.
I’ve never experienced bottom dysphoria before, but recently after I’ve come to terms with what’s going on with her, I’ve started feeling more bottom dysphoria. I didn’t think that you could get dysphoria so I’m kind of confused. It may be that I had a small amount of it, then feeling feminized made the small amount of pre-existing bottom dysphoria feel even worse. But I really don’t know, since I’ve only ever experienced chest dysphoria, but the new feeling is the same one that I feel about my chest, just in a different place now.
I feel absolutely terrible, and now I can’t escape from the feeling of femininity. I hate it and I just don’t know what to do. I feel ashamed and upset that this happened, and that it is still ongoing.
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Another example of a FTM (fujoshi to "male"): OP is annoyed that she's been rightfully addressed as the entity that she is - a gender-nonconforming heterosexual woman. As is usual for pronoun people of this particularity, she takes to Reddit to find support from her fellow doodz, trying to pretend she isn't bothered by flippantly remarking "sorry for wanting to see other gay people in fiction I guess?" Spare me the superiority, sister; let's not pretend works like Red, White and Royal Blue are remotely accurate in comparison to Queer As Folk or even your average Tom of Finland scribble.
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I can’t be the only person whose heard this, I’m pretty sure it’s a common sentiment
I’ve got this coworker (who’s genderfluid) that is pretty supportive, but recently started misgendering me more often. Whatever, idrc.
He said he was going to read some BL and I, someone with no sense of sarcasm, said I could recommend him some good gay western comics. He said, basically, ‘of course you’d say that, you’re basically a straight woman.’ Like
huh?? What??? It’s always friendly fire when people say stuff like that I’ve noticed.
Even as an exclusive top, who doesn’t use their biology, who’s been on T for years, gay men still try to gate-keep me out of the community. So remember,
if someone ever tells you you’re not gay because you’re a trans man, it’s not because you don’t ‘pass’. They’ll say that no matter what lol
Also
funnily timed with the other post on here about yuri and yaoi, that’s probably why he’s so adamantly against reading BL. Sorry for wanting to see other gay people in fiction I guess?
(Let me know if this is the wrong sub, I didn’t think this post was super negative but yknow).
Abstinence makes the heart grow fonder: a "gay trans guy" wistfully reflects on the loneliness born of her choice to mutilate herself to become an off-putting fascimile of the male form. Every time I see pooners complain about this, I think of all the visually unappealing women I've come across in my life followed by a gaggle of homely (yet seemingly well-loved) babies and their beastly beaus in tow, and I wonder: are you
actually having trouble finding a date, or are you having trouble finding a date because you think you're in a position to have any sort of standards? Because you're not exactly first pick for the Henry Cavills or the Jensen Ackleses of the world.
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That's all.
I miss feeling like i can find a guy who'll like me back as i am. I wish i could be a good looking woman, because being a gay trans guy just feels a little shitty, like I got all the wrong parts and it makes me feel a little unlovable. But I'm not a woman, and I tried that for long enough to know it.
Ignorance is bliss: a pooner resents the price of increased visibility, which seems to be something TiFs resent hate more than their troon counterparts. At least out-and-proud trannies of the Dylan Mulvaney breed can get some "yaaaas girls" from handmaidens and homosexual hombres alike, but
nobody wants to hang out with a squat little gnome that sounds like an anime voice actor with perpetual bronchitis.
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I really truly miss the times when people didn't know what transgenderism was.
When they'd look at me and think "oh that is probably a guy with hormone issues" rather than "oh that's a woman who mutilated herself to become a man" because now that they're more "educated" by the media, they can spot us sometimes, and they have new, "more educated" sounding rhetoric to try and invalidate our existence. Please just stay clueless and leave me exist in peace...
Natural instinct is hunting this young TiF with a bow and arrow and deadly accurate precision: without treatment, she feels an urge that most human beings experience at some point but is unsure what to make of it, hoping that her desires to be a wife and mother will dissipate once she starts tampering with biology. She even states that she has no interest in being a "seahorse dad" - she specifically wants to be a mama and a missus. How interesting!
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I have legit no idea what to flair this because I’m just going to go on a rant and I’m wondering if any trans guys feel the same
I’m aware being a “seahorse dad”, as some people say it, is a thing. But that’s not what I mean here
Is this a hormones thing?
I feel this way so weirdly often which is specifically weird because a good 80 to 90% of the time I’m perfectly content with the “I just want to be a guy and be perceived as a guy” yet sometimes I just feel like “must continue bloodline”
I’m pre T so maybe this will just go away if I don’t have a body full of more estrogen vs testosterone. But
way too often for my liking I have a weird fantasy of being someone’s wife and being a mother and like, if it’s just a pre T thing then great, it’ll go away
But if it isn’t then I’m just confused???
I definitely don’t really want kids long term, I don’t have the patience for them and the idea of being a guy in love with another guy is really appealing to me, and whenever I have a fantasy like this I’m specifically a mom. Not a trans dad whose just carrying the kid
I’m probably very sloppy since I’m writing this so late but I’m just so confused does anyone relate or am I just weird and shouldn’t have access to Reddit right now?
Speaking of those "seahorse dads", enjoy a few stories in which it becomes clear that cryptic pregnancies seem to be more common in FTMs than in regular women, which is likely why they keep having testosterone-poisoned tadpoles spawning from their uterine ponds. Farmers with little farmhands of your own, try not to get too MATI about these posts.
A TiF whose baby wound up in the NICU is struggling with how to adjust to life as a... erm, "father", and fears that she isn't measuring up. One commenter gives her reassurance to "
don't sweat the "bonding" thing overmuch", especially when it comes to visiting.
As of posting, it is July, and her baby was born in January of 2025, so her baby is likely still hospitalized as I write this. But yeah, no, don't sweat it, it's not like they remember the first six months of their lives, right? No big, dood!
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Hi,
so I had a cryptic pregnancy. I had a premie baby on the 29th of June and he's gonna be in the neonatal unit until August. I'm trying to adjust to the idea that im gonna be a dad and I'm so lost on what to do with myself. I'm visiting every day and I'm so exhausted from it. Any and all advice would be appreciated.
OP here is one of the rare women who speculates that her testosterone abuse may impact her baby, but other cultists are quick to placate her with flippant lines like "Your baby will be perfect.
Maybe a little more muscular than the average kid, but ya know, that's fine." One particularly abject piece of shit has the audacity to claim "
even if there IS a correlation, it is no reason to treat testosterone-while-pregnant like it’s irresponsible. there are plenty of healthy (
or relatively healthy) intersex people out there; i’m one of them.
it’s a possibility worth preparing for, like the possibility that your kid might be disabled, trans, or gay."; another one ignorantly states "
There isn't a case where defects of a baby were related to T."
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I had a cryptic pregnancy and I didn't go off T (obviously). I'm nearly two years on T and
I've just had a baby and I haven't missed a single day of my testosterone. I feel insanely lucky to have been able to do this.
But I also feel insanely guilty. Because what if this hurt my baby? What if he has something wrong with him because of me?? Just. Ugh.
This sorry tale is one that makes my heart hurt for the little lad born to this particular TiF, as she has regularly pumped herself with steroids, imbibed alcohol and smoked cigarettes during his most vital gestational periods because she's a fucking retard who assumed no period = no fertility. At least she feels some degree of guilt about this, but unfortunately the future does not bode well for what will likely be a
particularly slow boy born too early with
the smoothest philtrum in the world.
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Not sure how to start this or what i’m even looking for but I’d like to get it off my chest.
I’m 26 weeks pregnant, and did not find out until 24 weeks- obviously, this was an unplanned pregnancy. I’ve been on T for 3 1/2 years, my partner and I have wanted to start a family but that wasn’t something we were planning on anytime soon. I’ve always been a pretty short and skinny guy along with being physically active.
Wasn’t until the end of december that I noticed some physical changes, my partner and I assumed due to the harsh winter weather here in the midwest that I was gaining a few pounds from not going out as much and just sitting at home eating. Then during new years, i started feeling what i now know was kicking. Took a test, came back positive.
I’ve stopped drinking, haven’t done another T-shot and immediately started booking appointments. Today we went and met with an OBGYN along with a high-risk pregnancy specialist. Got a detailed ultrasound done, and so far baby looks good, and healthy for their gestational age, and found out they are a boy.
The gender is one of the main worrying factors my OB has, while the Ultrasound showed male presenting genitalia, they are still running an NIPT to rule everything out for sure.
I’m in a complete whirlpool of emotions and thoughts. On one hand I am excited for this baby, they are so active now, constantly moving around, I was mesmerized watching them on the screen this morning, I can barely believe this little guy is growing inside me.
But for every positive emotion, I’ve got just as many negative and worrying ones.
I feel extreme guilt over this conception, I never planned on still being on T, especially this far in, I’m a regular drinker and smoker. The past 6 months i’ve gone out, got drunk, probably been way too risk-taking, took no prenatal supplements, have done nothing to prepare physically for this pregnancy. I’m trying to give myself grace, I genuinely had no fucking idea, no symptoms whatsoever until I gained maybe 2 pounds and started experiencing kicking.
I feel like a fucking idiot and a failure of a father already.
My partner and I are now rushing the clock to prepare financially, moving, changing around our entire lives so we can be ready by the end of April. I’m so stressed, trying to juggle getting every possible doctor appointment I can set up, figuring out how paternity leave is going to work, etc.
We’re having this baby, we are on the same page and both excited but filled with so much dread. Besides my partner I have no one I can really talk about all of this with.
I don’t even want to get into the dysphoria aspect, that’s an entirely different hellhole.
I really don’t know what i’m looking for, but if someone else had an unplanned pregnancy while still on T, or even just a history with finding out so late I’d love to hear how everything went for you.
