It took me 5 years to get a gender dysphoria diagnosis. I finally got HRT for a few years, felt many things improve, got top surgery. I didn't even feel euphoria-- I just felt right. I felt at home with my own body. I felt at peace.
Then a few years ago, my doctor - mind you, the only doctor in the entire region I live in (an island) that works with trans people - went on leave and I never got another appointment and was forced to stop HRT because of it.
2 years later, today, I finally got to a new appointment somehow. The first thing she comments on is my hair and "I look different".
I've been suffering for 2 years and gained a shit ton of weight in all the worst places. I've been spending these summers rotting at home because it's too hot and I can't cover my body up. Breast tissue/female pattern fat has regrown to the point my chest is almost reverted to the size I had before.
I was looking forward to this appointment to finally retake HRT. But no. I'm just not enough of a man and I don't seem "sure enough"... All because I told her "I just want to clarify a few questions about hrt" (if it can interfere with my other new meds, what to expect, etc).
She insists "prescribing hrt to non binary disorders is controversial".
Mind you. I have never mentioned being non binary.
All I said was "I don't care about becoming whatever anyone thinks "a man" means" ... And hey, I don't want to become a man because that would imply that right now I'm a woman. Which in my own perspective, surprise, I am not. I don't want to become anything other than relieved in my own body-- My goal isn't to conform to random people's volatile standards of "man" or "woman". It's to conform to MY standards towards myself.
I begged and insisted. Doc shrugged and told me "I'll mail your therapist, see you in December".
I pleaded and told her I can't take more months of this fucking agony. She scoffed and told me "if you were able to wait this whole time, you'll be able to wait a few more months".
I felt sick to my guts. I just shut down and left, partially because I knew if I showed any more emotion I'd be labeled even more of a "not man enough".
Not even 10 minutes of an appointment.
There's no other doctors willing to prescribe it, even if I'm at a low dosage. None. I don't have money to buy it on black markets, either.
I really just want to spend the rest of my days rotting in my bed. I just want to be free.