why are you still single - and general discussion of the dating game

[Lightsaber Dildo]

Meeting decent women is a pain in the ass these days. I know women have the same problem meeting decent guys too so I don't really feel alone in that.
Even my hobbies that girls tend to frequent are full of incompatible, unavailable, or uninterested women. Being single can feel like a struggle but it's not something I consider a real problem in my life.

 

[pot of sneed]

Been in a relationship before, it was a headache from start to finish. I like my own space and doing my own thing, don't give a fuck about sex and kids are out of the question. Single life is comfy af but that's probably because I'm an asocial tard.

 

[DenseDeerFather]

Been single all my life. Am in my mid-twenties so that doesn't count for much. I got crushes on guys but I ain't a looker so I was passed over. Or it failed when I approached or I was a retarded sped with no social skills and easily flustered. Never even got the fabled "first kiss" that a lot of people tend to fuzz about. Since reaching adulthood, it's been a chosen way of life, however.

There's a myriad of reasons for this. a lot of which pertain to my lack of dating attractiveness.

- I am into men. But I am terrified of men. Without PL-ing, let's just say I've had some very bad experiences with them during childhood. But all in all, it makes me highly suspicious and distrustful of men who talk to me without a reason to. In general, I don't like strangers.
- I'm highly eccentric. I suppose you gotta be if you frequent these forums. Got peculiar interests and preferences and highly unpopular opinions.
- The usual, introverted, anxious, neurotic, not at all charismatic sped. Hate small-talk, that kind of shit. Which in turn also makes me slightly paranoid of being prayed upon by abusers.
- I got eyesight problems so I wear dark glasses at all hours of the day. People tend to think I'm either a burglar or a drug dealer.
- Considering I got a handful of psychiatric diagnoses, it makes everything just a headache.

Aside from the laundry list of my own flaws, there¨s some external stuff too.

- I don't like hookup culture. I hate the idea of doing casual sex. I hate that it's very prominent in my age demographic. I don't have a need for sex in general.
- I hate the very culture of dating apps.
- I don't really have a "need" for it so to say. I mean I am curious like most people are about many things but I don't care too much and that says a lot for someone who has zero experience in that area.
- I like my own space, doing my own thing at my own rhythm and routine. Hence moving in with someone, let alone sharing a room with him stresses me out just to think about it.
- In addition to the diagnosis thing, it also makes it irritatingly easy to attract guys who think that I'm an easy fuck for a temporary cocksleeve only to be discarded. Had to drop group therapy and clubs because of that.

 

[Ibanez RG 350EX]

Been in a relationship before, it was a headache from start to finish. I like my own space and doing my own thing, don't give a fuck about sex and kids are out of the question. Single life is comfy af but that's probably because I'm an asocial tard.

I'm surprised this is such an uncommon answer. So many sob stories or diatribes about the opposite sex and so few people saying "I tried it and just didn't like it".

Solitude is incredibly undervalued. There is no pussy good enough that I'd give up my peace and quiet for it.

 

[Seventh Star]

I have an edgy sense of humor, I don't like socializing, and the women I do end up with often need therapy.

 

[lautaro]

My body goes into sympathetic activation when approaching the great majority of people who aren't my inner circle.

Besides this uncontrollable and incurable social anxiety, I'm older than 18, so I'm don't go the jail for innocent minors called school anymore, so I fell out of all social circles. This is actually the worse aspect, because, ultimately, social anxiety can be 'treated' with alcohol or clonazepam pre-interaction with people.

 

[Day Walker]

I got tired of guys only wanting casual sex and nothing else from me.

 

[Captain Chromosome]

I'm broken and don't want to subject someone to it that I'd care about, let alone what genetic baggage my kids would be forced to suffer through.

 

[Ughubughughughughughghlug]

I feel lately like most every woman I meet is really into me and I'm a sexy winner. Have I developed narcissistic delusions?

Btw this wore off

 

[NIA-DOA 2.0]

Women seem to have a truckload of issues and needs these days.

Point blank: I feel like they would honestly slow me down.

I have now done solo trips to Hawaii, Japan, and Las Vegas. A girlfriend would probably just drag me down. I am pretty introverted and it seems most relationships, even romantic ones, are very superficial. Don't know if this has always been the case or is a recent thing, but it is definitely a trend.

 

[Geddy Lee's Fee and See]

I am pretty introverted and it seems most relationships, even romantic ones a very superficial. Don't know if this has always been the case or a recent thing, but it is definitely a trend.

People lack a real sense of community and authenticity nowadays due to social media being their lens into the world around them. Not books, music, current events or even anything that would force them to go outside themselves and interact with a different person in a realistic way. You see this on dating apps too, where people are reducible to a face and a half-assed two sentence lie about themselves.

It honestly wasn't even this bad when Myspace came out and did this since while it was a social media website, it was more like an aggregator of shit going on in your area and allowed you a decent amount of customization options to truly make yourself stand out. That and it didn't seek to replace and extinguish real world contact between people, just facilitate them more neatly online.

 

[Pomniman]

Because most people are basic and insufferable once you get to know them. One gets the impression that beyond sex and the trappings of having a family, most modern first world relationships are perpetually one mildly inconvenient day away from ending in some combination of murder or suicide because everyone of both sexes is their own flavor of psychotic, whether they want to admit it or not, no exceptions. Sex is a joke in its own right and once you get over the initial high of banging some broad, odds are you end up laughing about how much of a waste of effort it was or how much of a vapid worthless hole she is rather than having any particular fondness for her or the experience no matter how good it was.

Contemporary western culture is a total wasteland filled with nothing but abject niggerfaggotry and everyone exposed to enough of it eventually becomes a spiritually diseased husk; a wretched shambling rotting thing looking to temporarily fill the void rather than having any genuine vitality or value as a living creature.

 

[SIMIΔN]

n addition to the diagnosis thing, it also makes it irritatingly easy to attract guys who think

I'm either a burglar or a drug dealer.

Seriously though, If you are a man, then it's easy to confuse a friendly straight man with an interested gay man.
If you are a woman, then it's easy to confuse predators with clumsily inexperienced men. (There's a lot of 25yo men who've never kissed a girl)

so I fell out of all social circles

Yep, without regular human contact, anxiety becomes worse not better.

 

[Anne Hathaway Fan]

The last probably three or four girls that I had a relationship with I met in the psych ward and the one that I'm currently having sex with sneaks away from her husband to go out on dates with me that end up with us sleeping together and her feeling bad for being an adulterer. It's cool though because he's obviously having an affair on her too so I think he likes me for getting her out of his hair twice a week.

 

[Pomniman]

Seriously though, If you are a man, then it's easy to confuse a friendly straight man with an interested gay man.
If you are a woman, then it's easy to confuse predators with clumsily inexperienced men. (There's a lot of 25yo men who've never kissed a girl)

Once you get a girl's clothes off 90% of the work is done anyway no matter how awkward or not into it you end up being during sex. I think those boys would be surprised by just how low expectations tend to be once it's all said and done. Women are naturally clingy afterwards even if you explicitly tell them it's a one time thing beforehand and you didn't care enough to try all that hard. Once I saw how needy and desperate for affection girls get after the fact it made me take all of their opinions a lot less seriously than I used to because the idea that there's anything special or unique about the average woman goes straight out the window at that point.

 

[DenseDeerFather]

dating apps too, where people are reducible to a face and a half-assed two sentence lie about themselves.

At the risk of sounding like a retard, it's extremely shallow. It removes a vital part of human connection, face-to-face communication. It's impossible to get a feel of the person you're talking to. And then you meet up and there's zero chemistry and it's uncomfortable and you feel like you've wasted your time.

Maybe you will eventually meet someone you go hard with but it's still a lot like Russian Roulette.

If you are a woman, then it's easy to confuse predators with clumsily inexperienced men. (There's a lot of 25yo men who've never kissed a girl)

Think it also depends on things like life experience and communication and what they say. Or perhaps I'm just speaking from a very subjective, hypervigilant point of view.

 

[Optavia Sales Rep]

I need a man to initiate or show interest first and I'm not a great conversationalist unless I already know you. So small talk doesn't last very long. I'm always working when friends are socializing, so it's hard to meet new people without their gentle insistence.

And all the black men that see me as an easy mark because I'm fat and plain need to fuck off. Bragging about how you miss your kids and your babymama(s) are being "crazy" doesn't make me swoon. It makes me think you'd make a shitty boyfriend and an even shittier dad.

 

[Car Won't Crank]

I need a man to initiate or show interest first and I'm not a great conversationalist unless I already know you. So small talk doesn't last very long. I'm always working when friends are socializing, so it's hard to meet new people without their gentle insistence.

And all the black men that see me as an easy mark because I'm fat and plain need to fuck off. Bragging about how you miss your kids and your babymama(s) are being "crazy" doesn't make me swoon. It makes me think you'd make a shitty boyfriend and an even shittier dad.

Go to a car dealership of your favorite marques appearing to look interested in a car. You will undoubtedly be shown interest by the salesman who will convince you to buy a crossover with useless packages and dealer markups on the MSRP.

 

[Ser Prize]

At the risk of sounding like a retard, it's extremely shallow. It removes a vital part of human connection, face-to-face communication. It's impossible to get a feel of the person you're talking to. And then you meet up and there's zero chemistry and it's uncomfortable and you feel like you've wasted your time.

Maybe you will eventually meet someone you go hard with but it's still a lot like Russian Roulette.

Think it also depends on things like life experience and communication and what they say. Or perhaps I'm just speaking from a very subjective, hypervigilant point of view.

That's not retarded at all; it's accurate. Dating app reduces your selection of people to basic stats and pictures, nothing more. It's impossible to really gauge how someone is from that, and even harder to gauge if you two have chemistry.

Unfortunately you can't really just start conversations with strangers anymore. People are too guarded and too busy with other things. So if you see someone you want to try and meet you'll be seen as a huge creep.

 

[Nique la mere de Macron]

Because i make a good living and I’m getting better at sniffing out guys who are gold diggers. I just started dating a guy who seems pretty responsible and likes me for me, but we shall see.