Some of the trans people I know are seemingly 'fine' on the outside, but after a while of knowing them you'll notice things that you can't not-notice.
Mood swings that are reminiscent of a BPD meltdown, LONG periods of cutting off all contact with the outside world for no reason, codependance issues up the wazoo, extreme dysmorphia about any pictures of them etc. Also even the most based and redpilled trannies might absolutely flip out at a certain word, I remember joking about sissy hypnosis a long time ago and they had a full blown meltdown that required a good half hour of trying to calm them down before they adjusted to normality.
I do know one incredibly based tranny who is pretty much an AGP or whatever but in a long term relationship with their boyfriend, they're fucked in the head but know they're fucked in the head and tbh that's surprisingly fine. If ever they break up then I'd probably be worried about them but they have a steady job, a good support network, some cute dogs etc. and seems fairly reasonable with their finances. But the type of trannies who legit keep themselves to themselves are so fucking rare that it's understandable why the blue haired troons are seen as the default.