I wish MGTOW weren't so fucking pissy at women. I'm more or less a MGTOW that's just coping about being an incel, but I've never been misogynistic about it. It's my own shit that makes it so dating is unlikely to work out. No need to hate anyone else because I'm kind of a spergy weirdo who can't find anything meaningful about life/the world. At this point the cope is deep enough that I can't help but look at the type of trailer trash I was closest to ending up with and being glad it didn't work out. They saved me being baby daddy number 4 for one chick or a couch for a homeless chick. It would be a lie to say there's no loneliness at all, but I think my dumb autist ass would've fucked my life up more than I already did if I threw romance in the mix.
Thanks man for not sperging at all women. There's nothing wrong with saying fuck it to romance, the problem always comes down to blaming an entire group of people instead of taking accountability for yourself. Making peace with yourself and seeking improvement for the sake of your own well being is never wrong, and you got that. That's like a whole leg up on half of MGTOW. Hearing a whole movement of men focusing on themselves and self love is nice, it's just a shame it devolved into really fucking gay tribalism where they became lazy and went "reeeeee roasties" instead of you know, supporting themselves.
You get an honorary
, but an autism of approval. Legit hope you do well for yourself.
How do I improve my incredibly low self-esteem?
However you go about it, there isn't a silver bullet or panacea to this. I'm saying that to drive you away from quick cures like trooning out or street drugs, and letting you know shit just isn't easy and it will always be an uphill struggle unless you are a cow born with great narcissism.
Also, go to therapy if possible. Some unlicensed retard on the net yelling about amholes is not the best person to listen to, but here are some tips anyway.
Making peace with yourself and finding room to forgive yourself helps a lot. Saying "shit, I can't do that, but it's ok, I'll try more next time, and even if I don't succeed, I did the best I personally could" or "that was in the past, I have to move on and not keep punishing myself or else I'll stay negative which is bad for me". It ain't easy to do: the brain likes it's repetitive thought patterns and rewards you for staying in its preferred cozy space of depression. It's a process that takes time but the more you allow yourself to be human and recognize you have limits, the more you say "hey, I'm not half bad at this even if I'm not the Michael Jordan of this", the more you look at the past and give yourself some room to fuck up, the easier it is in the long run and the more it paves the way to healthier thinking.
Another is getting out and doing more. It isn't easy the past two years but even taking walks outside every day or every other day can help improve your mood. Learning new hobbies and becoming invested in them is also fun, learning new skills even if it is just the basics gives you more confidence to tackle more things because you'll know the basics of what you're doing.
Make sure you've got good grooming habits. Even if you hate yourself you deserve healthy teeth, go brush them. Get in the shower, choose a healthy snack so you take care of your body better. The better you treat your vessel the easier things get.
Getting out of unhealthy environments is another. I'm not going to lie, this site can be really fucking embarrassingly toxic and self flagelating. We have a lot of people who go scree about their own bad habits in deep thot, make sure to browse threads that aren't just people going "I'm a massive fucking loser and we should all die." They're boring, go look at the fitness or arts and crafts thread, or the video games area, something where people aren't on the verge of necking themselves or being turboedgelords. Same for cow threads. I say all this because I don't know your IRL situation and those can be harder to escape. Find positive people. Talk to them. Stick around, learn from them or at least cut off people who are IRL cows.
The big thing is choosing to accept yourself and take the time to take care of yourself. you'll relapse, you'll think you suck most days, but slowly, you can come to terms with yourself and realize... you're not so bad. You deserve good things too, and you can always do better but you will do your best for the moment so you can stretch your skills and do better next time. It's a long process, and the journey will be part of your life, but all of us fags are struggling together. See a nice therapist, hug your pets or someone else's, and start your journey even though it is rough - because you can get there and you're worth it.
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