
My world fell apart when my girlfriend discovered I had been watching trans porn
DEAR DEIDRE: MY world fell apart when my girlfriend found my porn history. I have been looking at trans and gay porn for the past few months, but have never masturbated to it. I am 35 and my girlfr…

DEAR DEIDRE: MY world fell apart when my girlfriend found my porn history.
I have been looking at trans and gay porn for the past few months, but have never masturbated to it.
I am 35 and my girlfriend is 33. We have been together for 12 years and have two beautiful daughters. I am not attracted to men or trans.
I was just curious. Watching it gave me a buzz after getting wasted on a night out. My girlfriend is angry and upset.
She says she can’t touch me any more. I feel awful as this has shaken her confidence.
She suffers from anxiety but she was getting better. This discovery has set her back.
I know it’s my fault. I want to make it right, but I feel lost and alone.
DEIDRE SAYS: It’s just possible that you are looking out of curiosity. Some people are bi-curious.
It’s also possible that you’ll never want to view any more porn but you may be suppressing a part of your sexual make-up which is actually too important to be denied.
Watching porn can be a healthy way for people to explore fantasies without acting out something in real life.
My support pack Bisexual Questions can help you understand your sexuality.