It's not just she's ruining her own life. Her Officer husband is defo getting snickered at behind his back by all the non commissioned officers and junior ranks if she goes around shouting out she fucks other dudes behind her husband back. An Officer can't be laughed at like this. Once the chain of command loses it's grasp, the underlings will not listen. Would you listen to a man who lets his wife fuck everyone but him but she still lives in his married quarter and lives off his money? Absolutely not. I'm sure if the ranks know about her slutting it up they will be joking non stop and won't listen to a word he says which is a big, big problem for him.