A man claims he's had a row with his pregnant wife over the name of their future daughter - she wants a gender-neutral name for the child, but the dad wants something else
Naming your child is an exciting time for new parents - provided you both agree on what you want to call your little one.
One worried dad has taken to Reddit to ask fellow users if he is being unreasonable for not wanting to give his baby girl a gender-neutral name, per his wife's wishes.
He has been with his wife for eight years, married for two, and they recently found out their baby was a girl.
Suddenly this sparked a huge row, as it turned out they both had very different ideas for what her name should be.
The dad loves the name Juliet, but the mum thinks the child should have a gender-neutral name in case they ever decide they want to transition.
The parents have disagreed so strongly that the mum is now threatening to tell the hospital not to let the dad have a say when it comes to the name on the birth certificate.
"I agree there is some beautiful gender-neutral names like Riley for example but even that name she says has become more female representing," he wrote on the Am I the A**hole? forum.
"I mentioned to her that most people who transition end up changing their names to one they identify with so even if we were to give them a gender-neutral name they might end up changing it. I also mentioned some people change their names just because, my grandma being one of those people and I used her as an example but she won’t budge.
"Wife kind of threatened to not give me a choice and will tell nurses and doctors beforehand to not ask me for the baby’s information for the birth certificate. I feel it is ridiculous and a name shouldn’t take away any rights or opinions on my baby girl."
The dad added that the names he liked aside from Juliet were Orion, Violet, Scarlet and Dakota.
The names his wife likes include Hunter, Scout, Payton, Rory, Morgan and Kai.
The general consensus in the comment section was that the father was not being unreasonable and that if the child was transgender, they would likely want to change their name anyway.
One wrote: "Take it from a trans person, your wife is very much overthinking this. Your kid can always change her name whenever she feels like it, so picking a name to be gender-neutral won't actually matter that much."
Another added: "OP, you're NTA and I think your wife is being too harsh with this. She's removed all compromise from the equation, is refusing proper discussion and has decided it's her way on the highway. I think that's super unfair, this is bothyour child and you should both get a say."
A third penned: "I’ve known trans people change their name completely anyway to get rid of that identity, as in first and last name. My ex always hated it because people used to assume she must have dead name that was similar to her name, ie if she was called Andrea they assumed she was previously called Andrew."
