jumboseafood
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Serious LGBT Discussion
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help me fellow gays i'm going down a dark hole
i'm unironically listening to gay VA asmr
i'm unironically listening to gay VA asmr
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Just watch porn.
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BlackWaterSails
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Well, I am glad to see this thread. I have been struggling lately with my bisexuality. I know I am bisexual and have sexual and romantic thoughts towards both sexes. But, well, my bf right now is pretty right leaning while I am left leaning. He keeps telling me that I have been brainwashed, groomed and that it is not real. He even claims that I am a groomer myself by associating with the LGBTQ+ community. Even other LGBTQ+ have not always been very kind. People saying because I haven't been with a girl that I can't claim bisexuality or that I do not face any challenges when it comes to my sexuality. I get no tips about how to approach women because no one considers it and I am shamed by people when showing interest in women too. I guess I just wanna know how other bisexuals kind of learn to deal with this shame and, kind of, this guilt if you have not practiced with both sexes? And/or how to handle people that don't take your sexuality seriously? Thank you!
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Sorry I'm not gonna be of any help with that subject but I will say the whole "is someone really bi" and even worse is lesbian and gay people hating on bi people is just awful and in a lot of ways I still do not understand why the latter happens (I understand the former, but that is dumb too).
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He's not right-leaning, he's leaning towards being a retard.
But on the other hand, KYS for unironically using the LGBedjkwesfj+ term. You truly deserve each other.
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Can we settle for absolutely vicious assault and banishment?
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Imagine getting angry that somebody used letters. Stay mad my fellow LGBTQIAPPGTBBCFTC+ farmer.
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Didn't know you had to be mad to use cruel words, but let's say I got mad for 5 minutes. I'm overall the winner, because I was only mad for 5 minutes. Meanwhile she is retarded until the day she dies.
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Does anyone know about any peer reviewed scientific paper about transgender mental illness?
Maybe it may be old since these days you cannot publish that, but maybe in the past there are some studies of the mental illness known as transgendersim?
Maybe it may be old since these days you cannot publish that, but maybe in the past there are some studies of the mental illness known as transgendersim?
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Don't know where it's in the thread, but there are people posting papers once in a while in this thread https://kiwifarms.net/threads/losing-people-to-transgenderism-support-thread.85329/
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Well, first women tend to be more open sexually in terms of who and what they find attractive. There are many theories as to why this is but in general women as a whole tend to be more “bisexual” than men.
I’m interested in the following, and I am not being condescending but more context would help.
How old are you? Your boyfriend? Under 23? Over 25? Seems like you haven’t had a lot of experience (which is whatever) but the feelings you’re describing to me read like a very young adult trying to figure out who they are, which is not only natural but literally a net positive for you. Downside is growing pains, but that’s life and you’ll be better for it.
You mention being more “left” leaning vs your boyfriend being “right” leaning, which I guess matters but not as much as you’d think. Especially as you guys get older. I will say there is some strange culture war stuff happening right now. He’s probably literally a young man who feels just as lost as you do.
Probably shouldn’t insinuate that you’re a groomer, but he may be doing that for shock value, or perhaps as a criticism of those you’re (((associating))) with in the LGBT community, or maybe he just saw one too many of the LibsofTikTok groomer videos and is now shocked and appalled at the absolute state of the LGBT community. He’s definitely not the only one.
What about your friends that your boyfriend has met? I assume they lean leftish, are any of them gay or “”gay””? Women? Men? Trannies?
Lastly If you’re in a relationship why would you be approaching others (male or female) in a flirtatious way? If you’re truly struggling with your sexuality to such a degree that you’re thinking about going and hitting on/potentially trying to hook up with women maybe your boyfriend is feeling discarded and jealous, which in this situation might be warrented seeing as you’re thinking about/fantasizing/maybe a little bit obsessing over sex with other women and he is not that.
Maybe look into some communication tips. Hear what he has to say about it, say your piece, and if you guys don’t figure it out dump him and go hook up with some women. That way you won’t have a complex about it anymore.
am women married to a man who was experimental in my youth so take that for what you will
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You're just kind of expected to know how to approach someone you're interested in. It's a frustrating experience anyway, just look at men trying to approach women it's such a big deal and some men feel so insecure about it. No one teaches you this and movies aren't accurate depictions for real life which many use as a guidebook. You didn't grow up with wholesome stories about a girl pursuing her girl crush so you're even more lost.
The idea that you need to have experience with both sexes in order to be truly bisexual is honestly dumb. No one ever assumes the same thing for straight people. You can make it into your 20s or 30's without getting into a single relationship and that doesn't make you any less straight. It's an unspoken rule to assume that little Suzie has a crush on little Bobby because she's nice to him and no one bat's an eye, it's not perverted it's considered sweet and cute. The same applies to bisexuals. You don't need experience and bisexuality itself isn't set in stone you don't need a 50% split between both sexes at all times.
The LGBTQ+ community is full of infighting, probably because outside of the first 3 letters nothing is properly defined (trans, queer) or it's not as stigmatized (asexuality) or it's the same as another identity (pansexual) or why is it here in the first place (intersex, aromantic) and the group is dominated by leftists who notoriously fight amongst themselves. Your best bet is to ignore them whether it's the "everyone is valid" word salad or LGB terf groups which often shit on bisexuals.
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You'll probably have better luck scouring scientific database archives for "gender dysphoria", as that was the clinical term for the disorder before it was taken off the DSM.
BlackWaterSails
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We are both under 25. He did get the groomer thing from LibsOfTikTok. He has met my friends, with most being gay, and he has heard of my lesbian sister. He said at first it was fine but ever since the groomer thing he has said that he wants me to distance myself from them and my sister. That they are faking their friendship and love. He says that my sister won't be allowed to see outta children if we have any and that I will have no future if I stay around them and keep my interests. Lastly, he takes everything I do as flirting. He talks about having sex with other people all the time but he gets pissed when I jokingly say anything like that. But, no, I do not got out of my way to be flirty but maybe I am accidentally? I am not sure there.
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He's jealous and abusive. He gaslights you and are trying to isolate you. It's such a used up answer, but this reads like a textbook example.
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>no tips on how to approach women
Are you in an open relationship? I'd assume not since you said your bf is "right leaning".