He's also admitted he and Kat don't share finances. What a loving marriage that is totally authentic and not fake at all.
And this is ANOTHER data point to add to that Phil and Kat are roommates. Phil admitted that Kat sleeps in another room. Well, kinda weird, but okay. I've heard some married couples that slept in separate bedrooms because of health issues like a C-PAP, other devices that are loud that need to be used during the night, etc...but, Leanna had NO issue sleeping next to Phil when they were together. Phil once claimed it was his "snoring.", Sure, buddy!
Now, are there married couples that keep finances separate? Yes, however, it's a SMALL percentile of married people that do. Most married couples have a joint bank account and use that. Also, when Phil mentions he doesn't know what Kat watches on TV, what she does in her free time, what she spends her money on, etc...it shows that she is there for one reason and one reason only: for Phil to feel like he's a mature adult with the condo, the wife, and "the family, dood.". Phil has to feel like he's a "mature adult." to be successful: the wife, the condo, etc...so, he can point at that and go "I'm mature, dood! See! I have a house, a wife, a cat! What do you have???" And to hide the fact that he's a child stuck in a 40 year old's body.
Even with my limited psychological training, Phil is an enigma that I don't think will be fully understood. Yes, he's a STRONG candidate for NPD and Avoidant Personality Disorder, lacks the intellectual curiosity, has major intellectual stagnation, is a walking Dunning-Kruger effect, has the speech pattern of someone of someone in their pre-teens, where poop and pee jokes are still funny. That said, even my base knowledge of cognitive psychology goes blue screen to understand this man's thought processes.
In cognitive psychology, people with cluster B personality disorders, such as NPD and BPD, the correlation with emotional immaturity are high. Those things include:
- They tend to think of themselves first, engaging in chronic self-absorbed behavior.
- They do not know how to repair relationships effectively; conflicts are rarely resolved and may be ignored. A frequent mantra is "just move on."
- They are unable to take others' perspectives or stand in their shoes.
- They frequently show a lack of guilt or remorse.
- They do what feels best—which means they often don't learn from past mistakes and may continue to repeat behavior that has negative consequences.
- They engage in little self-reflection.
- There is a history of conflict and drama in their relationships.
- They have a history of denying reality due to affective realism (reality is what it feels like instead of what it is) or distorting it (making up a new narrative about a situation) in order to deal with it.
- They demonstrate a pattern of impulsive behavior; they feel more than think.
- They often get enmeshed in relationships instead of engaging in healthy emotional intimacy.
- They tend to disregard others' well-being and safety.
- They rarely do emotional work.
- They demonstrate little or no empathy.
Again, this is through a TON of observational awareness. I know I kind of weaved things along on Phil and soulmaid's relationship, but the more Phil talks, the more the truth finally comes out. Give the piggy enough rope and he'll hang himself.
Source, emotional immaturity:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/...nal-immaturity-in-high-conflict-personalities
Hi, Phil!
