Have any of you ever worked with a MtF/TiM? Prior to this incident, I didn't particularly care for trans people yet afterwards I refuse to entertain any aspect of their delusion.
I was hired as a Cafe attendant at a care facility that was originally a monastery. Hence a lot of of retired priests and nuns were there too. My work partner was a 6ft man who for anon sake was called "Bethany" and all he talked about was being trans, I clocked him as trans the moment I met him and he was literally every stereotype you could imagine: obsessed with anime, hinted at fetish interests, and only lived/hung around other transwomen who obviously fed into the delusion. The first things it said to me were: I'm trans, I can use men AND women's toilet rooms, then wondered if it could turn on the priests and if the nuns would be jealous/angry with them like they had fantasies of arguing with nuns- these people were like 80-90 years old and probably didn't know what a transwoman was and likely would assume Bethany was just a very ugly girl.
In less than a week there were incidents like never leaving me tf alone like constantly looking for me and following me everywhere, even times he would creepily just walk up behind me without a sound, had a rage episode because a foreign coworker shared the same name as him, telling me more bizarre fantasies like wanting to turn on the maintenance men and that our manager had a crush on him, when I tried to get away from him and go to the toilet room he would follow me in, wanting us to wear costumes to work e.g dress as maids, trying to get my social media/number, overall was just strange and off putting.
Then in the few days we ever worked together we were alone for 30 minutes tops in an office doing online assessments, Bethany started talking about her tights and pulling at the fabric to get me to look at them then tried to flash me. Hence I reported everything to management where Bethany was then required to wear pants or slacks to work, kept a distance away from me, and not allowed to be alone with me. Bethany then started shit such as constantly and loudly saying my entire name like a retard when we were in the same area, tried to harass other coworkers for my details, and would just stare at me constantly. Eventually he left.
I discussed this with other people and they were more concerned about how Bethany was feeling because he had to wear pants to work.
Having trouble imagining any male-identified-male doing anything remotely close to this and not getting fired and absolutely destroyed and made unemployable. The troon shield strikes again.
Therapists/shrinks. They need through assessments from
competent mental health professionals specifically trained in OCD and it's multiple subtypes. We all know not every therapist is created equal, but this is still something that needs to be explored in a mental health practitioners office before you even see a regular doctor.
Edit:
@ConfusedCunt - holy shit. There's no words. Since I can't rate both horrifying and feels have this extra
I found lying about the place.
Oddly for how common OCD is, it's common for a lot of the front line therapists people have to pass through to access mental health care to know jack shit about it. They will diagnose a person with literally anything else and not spot obvious OCD. The diagnosis sheet then gets put in one's "permanent record" and passed along to the next practitioner who, because of time being short and professional courtesy, will simply take it at face value.
The problem primarily is that these people with a 9 month "master's in counseling" from an education dept or distance learning NP degree allowing them to dispense xannies and prozac use algorithms based on reported symptoms to diagnose and don't think more deeply about why the person is having those symptoms. Thus you get someone diagnosed with bipolar disorder because he got really hyper (while taking drugs) and got in some kind of trouble, then very depressed when his friend who took drugs with him died, and other retarded, lazy mistakes of the same nature. So these "clinicians" if I may be so bold as to call them that, hear "intrusive thoughts about gender identity or sexual identity" and are like ah, a true and honest citizen of the alphabet, my work here is done.
You have to be either wealthy, top 1%centile intelligent and persistent, or fucked up to the point of being studied in an institute to break beyond this tier of "professionals" unless you just happen to luck out and get a good one.
It seems with the OCD aspect they just act on intrusive thoughts because they're no longer held accountable. I read a story where a TIM was bragging about going into a women's bathroom at a service/gas station, digging through the sanitary bin and putting a used pad in their underwear, then slightly pissing in it while making eye contact with the female cashier. Back in the day people would be ashamed to admit to or act on those things but now they're praised for degeneracy hence they're even worse. 'Don't kink shame'
That's not OCD. That's fetish/paraphilia shit. Because this info is almost always helpful to someone, here's a sample of what OCD thinking would look like in this context:
Jill watches an episode of Oprah about troons. They talk about how they "never felt right as a boy/girl" and started "questioning their gender." Jill has previously experienced episodes of OCD about more mundane issues* that have mostly been socially acceptable to the degree they went unnoticed. For instance, when covid was a hot issue, she spent hours checking the CDC website etc. to figure out what was safe and how to be certain that germs had been blocked or killed. She googled things like "how long can covid live on a surface?" and then let her mail sit in a contained area on her porch for that span of time x2. She uses sanitizer immediately if she even brushes her hand on a railing. When double masks were recommended, she adhered to that religiously. Whenever she would see a news story about someone dying from covid, she would experience a spike of intense anxiety. She would check her masks, sanitize her hands, and think her mantra, "the price of serenity is eternal vigilance" and google something she could attribute the person's death to- "risk of covid going to mall" or "risk of covid if you use a public toilet." Sometimes she will start a thread on reddit or another forum of that type seeking reassurance- "has anyone gotten covid from ordering at a Starbucks drive through?" These thoughts tend to snowball and stick around for weeks at a time, usually resulting in her changing her habits to avoid the trigger (ie public toilets, drive-through orders.)
The Oprah episode sticks with her and she keeps coming back to thoughts about it for many days. The bug gets in her ear like a cartoon devil on the shoulder- "how do you know it feels right to be a girl? What does it feel like to be a girl? How can you be sure?" She starts mentally testing herself to make sure she really feels like a girl. Does it feel right to pee sitting down? Does it feel right to have breasts? Does it feel right to go into the ladies' room? Due to the nebulousness of the questions and the nature of OCD, the spiral escalates rapidly from there. Jill of course takes her questions to her old friend google. These make her more anxious- sometimes she hates wearing bras, a lot. Sometimes she prefers to do "male" activities. Is she SURE she really feels right as a girl? She goes to reddit for reassurance...
Readers of this thread can extrapolate from there.
*it's entirely possible for this to happen to someone who never had any other OCD triggers though.
