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My Husband Is Dating Our Babysitter​

Trying to find opportunities for alone time as new parents is a classic struggle. My husband and I are lucky enough to have had a weekly 'date night' since our daughter was born. What's our secret?

He's dating the babysitter.

Well, technically, his girlfriend volunteered to babysit for us. Isn't that sweet of her?

An open marriage certainly has its challenges, but finding personal time outside of being a parent is actually one of the great rewards.

My husband and I have been polyamorous since we met, and I actually introduced him to the woman he is currently dating.

When our baby was born, she offered to babysit so we could continue having our traditional date nights. On Sundays, the two of them have time together while I stay home with the baby.

And sometimes his girlfriend comes over to spend time with him and our daughter when I'm out with someone else.

Being poly requires a pretty organized calendar and a TON of communication, and we are finding that being parents requires the same.

We try to plan ahead and make sure each of us is getting time alone and time to spend on other relationships while trying to keep our marriage alive and healthy as well.

Plus, parenthood itself can be quite the time-suck.

Is it all roses all the time? Of course not.

After reading theBitty Baby book for the tenth time and picking up blocks for the eleventy-billionth time this Sunday, I was more than ready for my husband to get home and help out, or at least talk over against that incessant whining noise coming from the toddler's direction.

But that's much more a function of being a parent than being poly, and I would have been grumbling about any activity he was out doing while casting myself as Mother Martyr.

Jealousy and poly relationships … now that topic takes more than a blog post to address.

To sum up: no, poly people aren't magically inoculated against jealousy. But we are educated about it, and we arm ourselves with the tools to deal with it, rather than ignoring it and hoping it will go away.

Not long ago, my husband and I each gave the other person a whole weekend away. I had mine, and it was lovely. He had his, and I found myself vaguely green, thinking about the two of them in a cozy cabin.

What was the real problem?

I didn't plan ahead like I meant to and was feeling lonely. I called up some friends and arranged some playdates, and all of a sudden, the cozy cabin wasn't a problem anymore.

Nothing about them or their trip had changed, but I identified my own insecurity and took care of it.

So, is taking up polyamory the solution to your difficulty in finding a babysitter? OK, probably not. But it might help explain why we're not joining your neighborhood babysitting co-op.

 

[DeeDee Megadoodoo]

Can you imagine how physically repulsive these three people are?

Every time I've read a piece about some oversexed couple and their degenerate orbiters, they look like boss characters from Dark Souls.

 

[Diana Moon Glampers]

I'm sure the kids don't get abused or used as pawns for adult drama at all.

 

[RACISM]

This sounds like a male fantasy until you remember what all poly couples look like, which is basically monsters from Splatterhouse 2.

 

[Cyborg Braphog]

No author name attached. Just more cuck propaganda.

 

[Milkis]

This sounds like a male fantasy until you remember what all poly couples look like, which is basically monsters from Splatterhouse 2.

I give 50 o/u on Alexa not existing. Often sites like this have a write staff that "pool" similar articles under different made-up identities to create narratives that people can click through. Multiple article views = great SEO signal for "high engagement".

You can judge for yourself https://www.ravishly.com/contributors/alexa

 

[Übertroon]

I doubt any of this is real, but if it is, it's a trainwreck in the making

 

[DumbDude43]

>i'm getting cucked to hell and back! here's my top ten reasons for why this is a good thing!
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[Goblin9]

I'm sure the kids don't get abused or used as pawns for adult drama at all.

Mother probably offers them up as extras to potential boyfriends..

Fuck I hate knowing how bad the world is. Some times I wish I didn't know the kind of sick shit these people do. They see single mothers or poly mothers as a 2 for 1 deal.

 

[Blobby's Murder Knife]

After reading theBitty Baby book for the tenth time and picking up blocks for the eleventy-billionth time this Sunday, I was more than ready for my husband to get home and help out, or at least talk over against that incessant whining noise coming from the toddler's direction.

I like how she thinks it is better he fuck other women than actually be a father to the kid he has even though she knows better. That doesn't seem like an unreasonable request for a father to father and a husband to husband, but apparently it is some personality flaw on her in her eyes? The cucking of women looks like this, I guess.

 

[OvercookedBacon]

I doubt any of this is real, but if it is, it's a trainwreck in the making

It's like letters to Penthouse for wine aunts.

 

[Wallace]

I hope all of your likes and retweets will be a solace to you when your husband ditches you for his side-ho and leaves you a single mother. But hey, you can always troon out your kid if you want more Internet points.

 

[Bland Crumbs]

No author name attached. Just more cuck propaganda.

My favorite part is the link to Amazon so you can buy the children's book that the freaks described read to their child.

 

[Dumb Bitch Smoothie]

If this is real it sounds like they resent their kid.

Here's a novel concept: don't have kids. Don't reproduce if your sex life is more important than cherishing the time spent with your child.

 

[SuperShibuyaFighter]

Female cucks are just as pathetic as male cucks.

 

[The Token Ethnic]

Sounds like the plot of a sexploitation film:

 

[melty]

If this is real it sounds like they resent their kid.

Here's a novel concept: don't have kids. Don't reproduce if your sex life is more important than cherishing the time spent with your child.

Poly people are always like this. You can trace the path of bad decision making. They're the kind of people who think a kid will give them meaning in life, and when that doesn't work, they try another one, and sometimes a third because they don't learn lessons. Then when that fails enough times, they try opening the relationship. When that doesn't work sometimes one of them will add in gay sex or kinks, thinking that will finally give them meaning (narrator's voice: it does not)

 

[saintJogger]

This article has zero substance. Just absolutely none. I would've been sorta kinda interested in why the polyamorous thing works for them, how they actually handle jealous emotions, considering the fact that polyamorous relationships have never worked for anyone, ever. Even in the societies where it's been the norm, they've not worked.

But no. It's just a blog post by someone who's obviously neither smart nor creative. Maybe it's written by an AI that was fed only articles by Vox and Yourtango.

 

[Dumb Bitch Smoothie]

Poly people are always like this. You can trace the path of bad decision making. They're the kind of people who think a kid will give them meaning in life, and when that doesn't work, they try another one, and sometimes a third because they don't learn lessons. Then when that fails enough times, they try opening the relationship. When that doesn't work sometimes one of them will add in gay sex or kinks, thinking that will finally give them meaning (narrator's voice: it does not)

Alternatively they use their kids like accessories and then are shocked and appalled when their little Kayden turns out to be a sociopath.

 

[Zero Day Defense]

...wait, so what's the benefit of promoting female cuckoldry?