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'I was so heartbroken... I was in tears for hours': Newlyweds lose more than $27,000 on their wedding after more than HALF of the RSVP'd guests didn't show up​

• Gray Narvaez-Dragion, 18, uploaded a TikTok showing tables with no guests
• The newlywed explained: '88 people said yes... not even 40 showed up'
• Commenters have expressed their sympathy and started sending funds

By SADIE WHITELOCKS FOR DAILYMAIL.COM

PUBLISHED: 15:02 EST, 3 March 2023 | UPDATED: 15:15 EST, 3 March 2023


A newlywed has told of how they lost upwards of $27,000 and were left 'heartbroken' after more than half of their guests who RSVP'd didn't show up for their big day.

Gray Narvaez-Dragion, an 18-year-old who is transgender and uses they/them pronouns, uploaded a video to TikTok showing multiple tables with no guests sitting at them.

An overlaid caption on the clip, which had more than 5.2 million views at the time of writing, explains: '88 people said yes... not even 40 showed up.'

The video quickly gained traction online, with thousands of commenters expressing their disbelief at Gray's empty wedding scene.

Many viewers slammed the guests for being rude, with one person writing: 'If you can't make it to a wedding TELL THE HOSTS - it's ok! They will save money with their caterer if you give notice! Don't lie!'

Other commenters sympathized with Gray, from the US, and shared similar horror stories from their big days.

Another person said the same thing happened to him and after estimating 100 people would show up for his wedding day, only about 30 were in attendance.

While a third social media user revealed: 'Happened to my sister. We set the room for 80 and not even 30 came. We made the best of it but damn. I would never do that to someone.'

Gray explained in the comment section that because so few people showed up for their nuptials, they were forced to cancel their 'sparkler send off, private dance, [the] dinner [and] cut the entire reception short.'

The DJ also 'felt so bad [that] he made us use the photobooth I hadn't touched and took pics together.'

Gray added: 'Our ceremony made me so happy, but when I looked into the chairs we had set up I realized they were empty. I didn't realize until after... Been in tears for hours over this... I was so heartbroken.'

To make matters worse, they said they fell over during the first dance and their mom 'didn't say a single word until my dad made her.'

After their wedding was cut short, Gray said they sat with their new husband, Nyx, 'in the empty ceremony room together and cried.'

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"Just Fuck my shit up Fam":

 

[Haint]

Tha fuck is on her nose?
The courthouse would have been more their style.

 

[Ita Mori]

Who could possibly pass up the chance to go to the Juggalo wedding of the year?

Juggalo weddings at least have soul to them and the white trash involved is all happy to be there.
And because they're all white trash, you can lay some of the blame on ignorance. The enby and his gay wendigoon looking mate look like the upper middle class that love to sneer at rural folk.



That said, their miserable gathering has "Liberal White Suburban Wine Mom" written all over it, except this time it was cuck suburban father, but the energy is the same.

 

[Just_Somebody]

So....I'm curious.

Did the whole wedding cost $27,000 and half of the people didn't show up, or is the wasted cost of having those 48 people not show up totaling $27,000?

The whole wedding costing $27,000 would make it about $300 a plate (I assume the total party would be 90, including the...whatevers, getting married). A bit expensive, but not insanely so.

If they're saying they're out $27,000 for those 48 people not showing up, this would make the cost be $562.50 per missing person. That is insanely high, and there was no way they would make up for the cost of this wedding no matter what. Lol at the thought of people giving $500+ wedding gifts to teenagers

 

[Maratus volans]

Why is this happening?

Because decades ago, the adults in the room decided to stop being the adults in the room. They told themselves that was okay because letting the kids lead the way on discovering themselves and the world around them would allow them to grow up as fully realized and actualized people, not the cookie-cutter automatons The Man wanted. This was okay, they said to themselves, because they were doing the right thing for their children, because advances in psychology showed this was the scientifically optimal way to parent, because what could the old ways teach us when everything was changing and progressing so rapidly?

What these adults didn't reckon with...

Why won't this stop?

...is that children are massively antisocial and selfish little shits who, as a general rule, only 'grow out of it' either (1) when they are disciplined and/or bullied into realizing that being a massively antisocial shit doesn't pay, or (2) when proper social behavior is modeled for them by the adults in the room.

By foregoing their duty to be The Adults In The Room, these adults left their children adrift, and those children have grown up to be improperly socialized adults. These dysfunctional adults are now raising a new generation of dysfunctional children, who will go on to raise their own dysfunctional children, etc. Breaking this cycle would require the kind of massive shock to the system that forces people to go back to the fundamentals and reevaluate everything.

 

[Fomo Hoire]

So....I'm curious.

Did the whole wedding cost $27,000 and half of the people didn't show up, or is the wasted cost of having those 48 people not show up totaling $27,000?

The whole wedding costing $27,000 would make it about $300 a plate (I assume the total party would be 90, including the...whatevers, getting married). A bit expensive, but not insanely so.

If they're saying they're out $27,000 for those 48 people not showing up, this would make the cost be $562.50 per missing person. That is insanely high, and there was no way they would make up for the cost of this wedding no matter what. Lol at the thought of people giving $500+ wedding gifts to teenagers

Another article says

In total, Narvaez-Dragion said, they lost about $2,500 of the $3,000 they'd paid toward the food, a DJ, and gifts for their guests. They were left with a ton of food, including a massive charcuterie table and most of the wedding cake.

Best case scenario, the actual number they're whining about is $2700 and someone added an extra zero.

But taking the original numbers at face value, they spent $500 on about 35 people, I'll aggressively round down for pretty numbers and say 25 people, they spent (estimating generously) $20 per head for the people who were there. Rounding up for more pretty numbers, there were 50 people who weren't there, and they spent $50 per missing person. Because you know, it's the last people who have to pay the fixed costs, economics don't real.

That only covers food and party favors for the guests. The remaining $24k from the budget is still there for the venue, fireworks, photo booth, camera crew, ball pit, etc etc.

Spoiler: Edit

Wtf, I joke about the ball pit, but Wikipedia says the DashCon budget was $15k. This wedding is like two DashCons combined, assuming they're being a whiny cunt and $27k is the whole budget and they think they get to pretend they didn't get any value for the wedding at all. If 27k is scaled to the missing people then the wedding is like 4 DashCons.

 

[pwnest injun]

Who the fuck writes a news article about this??

 

[MirrorNoir]

Aren't there legal alternatives to marriage? civil unions i think they're called but don't quote me on that.
Big lavish weddings probably aren't all they're made up to be, wouldn't it be just nicer to have a small event in the comfort of your own home with some close friends and family, have some food and drinks and don't make the whole ordeal more then it has to be.
Less is more a lot of the time!

Civil Unions are not worth the paper they are written for and only good for wiping your shit stained asses. Even the most terminally retarded night school lawyer can get a judge to declare a civil union null and void, let alone a lot of places (hospitals in particular) often hear the word "Civil Union" and laugh and say that they don't count.

 

[Humbert Humbert]

I spent way longer than I should have digging through her tiktok and instagram. First, let’s go over the Tiktok videos posted. She made 3 within the past hour or so, first 2 being surprises and then one “debunking” stuff.

Spoiler: Tiktok Videos

She actually made 3 videos of stuff she had bought (like invitations, a suit for her cat, etc.)

under one of the two videos above was this caption

Debunking

IG pics:

Video posting on mobile basically breaks the site, I will post more of what I have found later.

 

[CuzinEd]

Spoken like someone who's never had to deal with or see in person the reality that you can get fucked in the ass with no Vaseline if you don't have that piece of legally binding paper that says you are legally married.

I've had gay friends who've had to feud with hospital staff because without the legal certificate, hospitals can ban gay men from hospital rooms of their partners and force them to jump through hoops just to get visitation rights. And straight friends who had to deal with in-laws trying to fuck them over when one member of the couple died and the family played the "everything was in the dead common-law wife's name so it goes to her next of kin not the guy who she was shacked up with".

You would be shocked at how much of a Kafka-esque nightmare you can fall into without the legal protections a marriage certificate bestows upon you.

I don't really give a shit about what happens to faggots or lesbians.

 

[Shroom King]

They explained: 'I can't afford our own food after I got fired and not even half attended. I'm devastated.'

*lose job*
*proceed to spend 27k on a wedding that you are woefully unsuited for*

"How come no one takes me seriously!?!?!1?!?1"

So much for the inviting coworkers theory, unless they are a sped and invited "trans allies" who probably got blackout drunk the night that HR finally grew a spine and fired this person, to celebrate the fact that they would never have to interact with them again.

 

[Pokemon Conquistador]

Another article says

Best case scenario, the actual number they're whining about is $2700 and someone added an extra zero.

But taking the original numbers at face value, they spent $500 on about 35 people, I'll aggressively round down for pretty numbers and say 25 people, they spent (estimating generously) $20 per head for the people who were there. Rounding up for more pretty numbers, there were 50 people who weren't there, and they spent $50 per missing person. Because you know, it's the last people who have to pay the fixed costs, economics don't real.

That only covers food and party favors for the guests. The remaining $24k from the budget is still there for the venue, fireworks, photo booth, camera crew, ball pit, etc etc.

Spoiler: Edit

Wtf, I joke about the ball pit, but Wikipedia says the DashCon budget was $15k. This wedding is like two DashCons combined, assuming they're being a whiny cunt and $27k is the whole budget and they think they get to pretend they didn't get any value for the wedding at all. If 27k is scaled to the missing people then the wedding is like 4 DashCons.

I'm guessing they hired a venue and caterer telling them they would charge an attendance fee for the wedding and have a paid menu. It's part of a new trend for people who can't afford their dream wedding; throw it anyway and have the guests pick up the tab. The problem is, if people don't show up and pay their money, you have to make up the shortfall yourself. It's possible the bride and groom sent out invitations that didn't explain the fees, causing many to RSVP, then later on, the guests found out that they'd have to pony up to get in and get fed, so they bailed without saying anything.

I've only heard of a few cases (usually on reddit) where a bridezilla tried to cheap out by forcing her guests to pay for food and a cover charge. I can't imagine the incandescent rage I'd feel if I took time off from work or my own leisure, bought an expensive wedding gift, travelled to another city/state, footed my own travel expenses, booked a hotel, and bought a fancy outfit, only to be presented with a bill for additional money by a bride who wanted "five-star Michelin service", but only had the budget to pay for a box of chicken nuggets.

 

[pikachudidnothingwrong]

She/he says they are trans but use they/them.. So what's Grey's sex?

Also LOL at the husband's name.. "Nyx" OMG is he goth or something?

Are we sure this isn't a troll or satire?

 

[Humbert Humbert]

Actually I want this shit out of my camera roll immediately so “later” has just become “NOW NOW NOW NOW”

At the behest of people asking if they could help her, she added venmo and paypal links as well as two registries, one from Amazon and one from Target, on her Linktree.

In another comment she mentioned getting laid off, not fired. And making 40k a year.

Apparently she was a manager at whatever store this is (and yes she dressed like that in everything she posted from said job)

She pays her bills now by doordashing (acknowledges that it is not a long term thing and “hates every moment of it”)

Something to note is that she is not out of high school due to repeating her senior year.

Seems like she got it together, she got an award for an “academic letter” for the 2021-2022 school year.

I assume it’s referring to this, although the tiktok on the right is from february of 2022. I don’t know why she posted these two things in september of the next school year. Maybe they just awarded it to her? idk.

Applied to many schools, allegedly got full rides

Had issues with school in the past, apparently has PTSD from private school

Has an eating disorder

Born Sep 10, 2004


Before all of the madness took over:

Now she and the husband (i’m assuming he’s a dude. his listed pronouns are he/they)

Her and Nix (the dude) both got their names changed after the wedding (as she mentioned in the videos explaining). Previously she had shown off this:

Oh, and I forgot to share this in the wedding post, but she made the plans without their knowledge.

She really don’t like her mom.

Spoiler: I HATE YOU, MOM

Her contact name is “Birth Donner”

This tiktok which I was too lazy to share but you can read it and get the point

Various comments:

Spoiler: Misc replies in tiktok comments

My favorite part of this entire thing is that buried in the initial video is a comment from James Charles He was the last person I was expecting to see in the comment section


I have put more time into this than I should have

Edit:

She/he says they are trans but use they/them.. So what's Grey's sex?

Also LOL at the husband's name.. "Nyx" OMG is he goth or something?

Are we sure this isn't a troll or satire?

They’re serious as a heart attack.

 

[pwnest injun]

She/he says they are trans but use they/them.. So what's Grey's sex?

Also LOL at the husband's name.. "Nyx" OMG is he goth or something?

Are we sure this isn't a troll or satire?

Nyx is a woman taking testosterone and pretending to be a man. The other is an enby or something pretending to be a human.

 

[Elim Garak]

Judging by the writing on the wall, I believe she worked as a manager at a chain grocery store called Hy-Vee.
Evidence:

 

[Kheapathic]

You know what I find most egregious; they apparently spent all that money, but none of the bridal party are matching. Decide your colors, go to a tailor that rents, put together a set, and get your friends measured, it's that easy.

only to be presented with a bill for additional money by a bride who wanted "five-star Michelin service", but only had the budget to pay for a box of chicken nuggets.

Michelin only goes up to three stars.

*snobbishly looks down his nose at you*

 

[Florch]

'Every bride is beautiful' -

I wish I could still believe that.

 

[High Level Rad Waste]

It took me a few seconds to realize she had her tongue out and those were piercings. My brain categorized that as stitches after a pitbull mauling or something of that nature.

 

[Space Lazer Shark]

Civil Unions are not worth the paper they are written for and only good for wiping your shit stained asses. Even the most terminally retarded night school lawyer can get a judge to declare a civil union null and void, let alone a lot of places (hospitals in particular) often hear the word "Civil Union" and laugh and say that they don't count.

Wow, that's kind of gay, so you have to participate in the whole marriage shebang to be a TRUE and HONEST couple?
Suppose that still doesn't really mean you have to make it a lavish wedding at that, i'm just surprised there's no viable alternative to marriage itself.

 

[indigoisviolet]

I take it back: from the extended media haul they now look like people who could very easily be suckered into $300/head for their spite-the-mother wedding, presumably because they have no understanding of what a wedding or indeed a family is. Beyond stupid, given their non-existent financial circumstances. She possibly even sees $27000 debt as a fair price to humiliate her mum, a woman whose "crime" was almost certainly to tell her to stop being an attention-seeking cunt all the time.

Yeah, this is kind of sad, overall. She lives life lit by artificial light, no roots but yesterday's dye, no future beyond expectation of digital upvotes, and misperceives her co-workers as her best friends. The enbie bullshit is just this generation's attention-seeking AnaMia. In common with many lolcows documented here, this little vignette could make for a decent arty farty French melodrama with an ambiguous moral, yet it's somebody's real life. Shoot it like Hail Mary (1985) but with TikTok as the motif instead of the Church, and film the whole thing on camera phones.