Where’s our Black bereavement leave? - Tears streaming! Why do black people have to show up to work? It's insensitive.

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As an educator, it is my duty to provide an environment for students that is thought-provoking and soul-affirming, so I intentionally create a space that supports them holistically, not just academically. I push back against the belief that baggage should be left at the door and encourage them to bring their whole selves into the classroom. After all, ignoring the external factors that influence their internal being denies their humanity and robs them of an opportunity to be seen and appreciated for who they truly are.

One way I affirm the importance of students’ whole selves is by acknowledging the impact societal events may have on them personally and professionally. In alignment with this practice, I reached out to my students when the video of the murder of Tyre Nichols was released. As I was writing the email, my primary concern was the mental and emotional well-being of my students. However, the tears streaming down my face as I typed let me know that ignoring my own feelings was impossible – which wasn’t surprising given the numerous times I have cried while sending similar emails.

In fact, I have tears in my eyes right now just thinking about all those emails I’ve sent and all the ones I know I will have to send in the future. Despite the pain, I send them because it is my duty, because my students might need me and because if I don’t, who will? That’s not to say I’m the only person who looks out for the well-being of students, because that is far from the truth. However, history has shown us that Black educators often have to exert additional emotional energy to pick up the slack the academy leaves behind after it sends its obligatory, and often performative, statement to the campus community.

But while those obviously copy-pasted, campus-wide emails are the bare minimum, Black faculty and staff don’t even get that. Where is the acknowledgment of our pain? Where are our counselling services? Where is our grace for missed meetings and deadlines while we mourn? Yes, we have jobs to do and students to support, but we also have trauma to process.

I am a proud educator who loves what I do. But before that, I am a Black woman. A Black woman who is expected to return to “business as usual” on Monday after seeing a member of my community murdered on Friday. Although it is customary for employees to receive support and understanding while grieving the loss of a loved one, the same care is rarely shown to the Black community when we lose someone in horrific and traumatic ways. Where’s our Black bereavement leave?

The situation often reminds me of Martin Luther King Junior’s sermon, “Remaining Awake Through a Great Revolution”. When addressing the bootstrap theory, he said: “It’s alright to tell a man to lift himself by his own bootstraps, but it is a cruel jest to say to a bootless man that he ought to lift himself by his own bootstraps.”

Pulling oneself up by the bootstraps is a privilege similar to the ability to put on one’s own mask. If cabin pressure changes on an aeroplane, oxygen masks drop from above and passengers are instructed to put them on – with a reminder to put on their own mask first before helping others. As a grieving Black educator, I would love to put on my metaphorical mask first before helping my students, but that is hard when the academy continues to leave us maskless. Which is ironic given the masks Black educators are expected to wear every day to hide who we are.

With all of this in mind, here are two key ways that universities can begin to support Black faculty and staff:

Counselling

This is an obvious, yet consistently underfunded, resource that could support Black faculty and staff who are dealing with trauma caused by racism and anti-Blackness on and off campus. Racial battle fatigue (RBF), a term coined by William Smith that refers to the psychological and physiological consequences of experiencing racism, has been well documented, yet its (sometimes deadly) symptoms continue to be minimised or ignored completely.

Psychological consequences of RBF include anxiety, depression and suicidal thoughts, while physiological consequences include elevated heart rate, tension headaches and stomach ulcers. We experience these symptoms on a regular basis as a result of our first-hand racial trauma as well as the trauma we experience when we see people such as Philando Castile, Eric Garner and Patrick Lyoya murdered on camera. Free counselling services, by culturally competent counsellors familiar with identifying and addressing RBF, should be available at all times, not just when our trauma has been televised.

Time to grieve

Some may have thought I was joking when I mentioned Black bereavement leave, but I wasn’t. We need space and time to grieve without having to explain or defend it. And since the grief process, like the Black community, is not a monolith, flexibility is required. Some may need a day off while others may just need to be able to work from home. Some may need a small extension on a deadline while others may need to have something removed from their plate completely.

This is one of the many reasons why relationship-building is important for the retention of Black faculty and staff. Having a relationship with people you claim to want to help will increase the likelihood of them feeling comfortable enough to verbalise their needs with you.

There are several ways to support Black faculty and staff, but one of the most effective is to just ask. Don’t assume you know what they want or need just because you read this article. Anti-Blackness is intentional, so your efforts to combat it must also be.

Angel Jones is a visiting assistant professor in the department of educational leadership at Southern Illinois University – Edwardsville, US. She is also a public scholar who uses social media as an educational tool to increase access to academic scholarship, and author of Street Scholar: Using Public Scholarship to Educate, Advocate, and Liberate.
 
According to the current mentality, it apparently is. While also being the Superior RaceTM simultaneously. Not sure how that's supposed to work.

They want to be ultra important and get nothing but perks but also ultra oppressed at the same time to keep their "victim of racism" status. Perhaps the idea is to create the ultimate crybully?
 
Some may have thought I was joking when I mentioned Black bereavement leave, but I wasn’t. We need space and time to grieve without having to explain or defend it.
If blacks were capable of this much empathy and sympathy for people other than themselves, they wouldn't be gunning each other down in the streets in the numbers that they do, and thus they wouldn't need the special attention they receive from law enforcement.
 
After all, ignoring the external factors that influence their internal being denies their humanity and robs them of an opportunity to be seen and appreciated for who they truly are.
- I love how this fool acts like their viewpoint is in fact a proven scientific fact.
- Mindsets like this is why everyone is an oversensitive faggot and stoicism is dead.
 
A Black woman who is expected to return to “business as usual” on Monday after seeing a member of my community murdered on Friday. Although it is customary for employees to receive support and understanding while grieving the loss of a loved one, the same care is rarely shown to the Black community when we lose someone in horrific and traumatic ways. Where’s our Black bereavement leave?

You didn't know the guy. Fuck off.
 
According to the current mentality, it apparently is. While also being the Superior RaceTM simultaneously. Not sure how that's supposed to work.
The same way Jews were simultaneously an inferior race yet the dominant one, by cheating. American black people view white people the way Germans viewed Jews.
 
According to the current mentality, it apparently is. While also being the Superior RaceTM simultaneously. Not sure how that's supposed to work.

It's like you need to lift yourself up by pushing yourself down. It makes no logical sense. You do not need a day off from work because a black male was killed by the police. Every day black males are killed by gun violence. Most of them are not killed by police but by other black males. Where is their day of mourning? Why are their deaths less important?

Imagine if every time a black person was killed by police every black worker got a day off. The consequences would be phenomenal. Non-black workers would have to pick up the slack and it would breed more racial tension.

These are people who would want a day off for St. Floyd but ignore the dozens of black teens and young adults killing each other in the street every day. My city had four gun related homicides tonight. The youngest victim was only 14. None of these people were killed by police. But their lives are worth less to the agenda just because of that.
 
Black bereavement is an obvious ploy so that, when black kids getting out of school fall behind in grades, and when black adults fall behind in pay, they have something ELSE to bitch about. No that they don't already...
 
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Racial battle fatigue (RBF), a term coined by William Smith that refers to the psychological and physiological consequences of experiencing racism, has been well documented, yet its (sometimes deadly) symptoms continue to be minimised or ignored completely.

Does it exhaust you, lady? Are you just so tired from it?
 
As an educator, it is my duty to provide an environment for students that is thought-provoking and soul-affirming
Wrong, nigger.

I push back against the belief that baggage should be left at the door and encourage them to bring their whole selves into the classroom
Personal issues do not belong in the workplace or the classroom.
 
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