At the time custody was decided and the divorce finalised, in January 2021, Tony was working full-time but from home, for what used to be ShareBlue. He had been Kiddo's primary caregiver from at least summer 2018.
His ex-wife (second ex-wife!) was unemployed and living several hours away with her new partner and baby and, I must stress, had violated an existing, mutually agreed child custody arrangement and effectively
absconded with the child. Judges don't take kindly to people violating agreements!
As far as we know Tony hadn't started dating again. The divorce case took place literally years before Tony's polyamory arc.
I don't want to give the impression of being soft on Tony, but we should avoid reading back what we know about Tony's behaviour now, in 2023 after a year of autistic digging into his past, onto a case that started in summer 2019 and was wrapped up on January 14 2021.
Cheryl A McCally (pictured, left) seems like a very ordinary county court judge.
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There was a close call in spring/summer 2019 but I think Kiddo might have avoided the worst by Kate forcing the custody battle later that year.
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(This tweet was published before Tony's now-ex refused to return the child that month.)
Anyway here's Tony's latest video AMA for his Substack paypigs. He couldn't even be bothered to update the description though, just copied it wholesale from the last one he did, out-of-date link and all:
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Trans Book Recs, Dealing With Unsafe States, The State of Allyship, and More- Erin Answers (
archive)
If you're not going to watch the whole thing, at least watch this five-second clip from the start. You'll want your sound on.
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He doesn't play these back before he publishes them, does he?
Full thing, cropped to his webcam as usual:
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Tony's cat, Cupcake, makes a brief appearance at about 18:30.