WOMEN OF THE FARMS!
(And men too for that matter! This is an INCLUSIVE space!) Just wondering if you take a gander on the three posts below and answer me this: WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH THESE WOMEN?!?
Like seriously, make it make sense. Do troons have some sort of sixth sense that helps them find the most broken ass women who will bend over backwards or what?!
I’ll do my best to answer. In a way, I think it boils down to sunk cost fallacy.
1. I’m not sure what kinds of pressure of expectation men feel over marriage and family (versus just having sex), but the pressure on women is immense. It is simply a fact of life that middle-class women will get married and have children. Marriage is seen as a huge success and milestone in a woman’s life — all the attention is on her, she gets to tell everyone about her wedding, she gets to be beautiful for a day. It is somewhat about love but it’s more about status. An unmarried woman is still seen as a failure. (Just look at some of the rhetoric about this that goes around in the Thunderdome.)
2. Marriage is much more beneficial for women in terms of finances (but not in terms of emotional health). Married men tend to make more money than their wives, and women are expected to take long periods away from work for childcare. It is easier to buy a home if you’re married, easier to amass property.
3. So, with that in mind, let’s say that you are a woman whose beloved husband, who treated you so well while you were dating and looked so handsome and dashing in your wedding and family photos, who your mother and all your friends told you to marry, suddenly tells you he’s now a woman. He makes more money than you. Your home, where your children sleep and live, has his name on it. Meanwhile, all the people on the news and Facebook insist that people are who they say they are, and not only is Darling Husband really a woman, he’s always been a woman and you are a lesbian.
Hopefully you can see how these women feel like the bottom just fell out of their lives, and the way they struggle to cope is to try to adapt to it because it would be so hard to start over again.
I think the majority of women do actually end up leaving these troons eventually. (As for the woman who willingly marries one, like Heather, I cannot speculate as it is pure lunacy.) Look at Tony, at Kyle Burns, at REEEES, at Bryli, at Emmy…all of their wives left them after they trooned, and the majority of them have children they don’t have much relationship with, either. Troonery destroys families, the evidence is clear.