Virginity & Society - how virginity effects the social lives of people

[KingGeedorah]

ITT Salty faggots with terrible sex lives.

Get laid, stop being a virgin and grow the fuck up.

 

[Scratch This Nut]

It hasn't at all really. Mostly because it's my choice. I've had several opportunities but it never felt right. I'm kind of a train wreck and sex is probably going to make things worse for now, especially if I got pregnant. I still feel weird about being one. But that's because literally everyone sucks and cares too much.

Boyfriend still loves me. He's the most patient person ever.

The fuck kinda shitty sex are you people having? This thread is depressing.

Ok, people, so the thing here is that sex is fucking awesome. Seriously, great stuff, would recommend.
That having been said, sad news for those people who think getting their V card punched is gonna change their lives:
Who you are before you have sex is pretty much going to be the exact same person you are during and after sex. If you're generally pretty insecure and shy, you're going to be nervous and uncomfortable in bed, and you're going to continue to be that way after you've lost your virginity. Sex is not a magical panacea that will make you confident or cure your anxiety. It's a fun thing you do with people you like.
Losing your virginity is not a form of therapy; it's just a shitload of fun. That having been said, sex is still a shitload of fun, and you should totally do it. It's also good for you.

If you find you're not enjoying sex, consider switching partners. Lots of people, particularly those with less experience, think they just don't enjoy sex, when in reality they just haven't had good sex yet.
It's supposed to be fun, you joyless shits. Get out there and party.

This actually made me feel a lot better. Thanks, Doc.

 

[KingCeejay0007]

I think virgins care too much about what people other think. Virgin men care way too much about it because they want sex women can get it any time they want to so they not really worried bout it. Some men are obsessed with another person's virginity no matter if it's a woman they want or a man. But tbh most men want sex if a man is still a virgin it's because he never had to opportunity to get sex not because he turned it down or "waiting for the right one". I don't have any close friends that are virgins all them niggas had girls back to back we even shared girls at 14 everybody got a turn lol. These days you don't even have to try hard Idk how a dude can't get laid in 2016. Most people don't virgin shame when it do happen it's usually from another man and a joke.

 

[CWCchange]

It's one of the great double standards of the modern world.

- Female virginity is considered to be one of the most sacred things someone can hold on to. It's a symbol of purity, chastity and honor. Society deems a female virgin to be doing the right thing and merely waiting for the right man to come along in her life.
- Male virginity is considered to be one of the most embarrassing burdens for a man to have in Western society. It is often mocked in media of all forms (insert movie about a man or men trying to lose their virginity however they can here) and something that a man tries to keep hidden in social situations. Society deems this as a weakness for men, especially the older a man gets (good luck being a virgin male in your late 20's. There are people that will believe something is wrong with you, regardless of whether or not it is because of religious reasons or another reason).

It's weird how much pressure there is on women to keep their virginity, while men should be losing theirs as fast as humanly possible; the earlier, the better.

Spoiler: Powerleveling

I lost mine at 24, which is considered as pretty late for a man to lose his virginity. And I was given some shit for not being able to lose it when I was one. At the end of the day, the age in which someone loses their v-card doesn't mean a damn thing. When someone is ready, they will know it. And unless they are a total sped or a lolcow, they won't have too many problems finding a suitable partner.

Male virginity is psychological while female has the physical aspect of the hymen, although there are some exceptions. I've heard a misogynistic argument that men can't be virgins based on this claim, and it's man's responsibility to deflower a woman. Perhaps this explains the cultural paradox where men are expected to actively pursue women to relieve their status, while women should hold on to their's until the time is right. Unfortunately, rape isn't taken into account, and that carries a whole other deal in regards to shame.

 

[Joan Nyan]

Maybe I'm just autistic, but the idea that male virginity is stigmatized whereas female virginity is valued is something I've heard often but never seen actually happen. I've occasionally heard passing jokes about male virginity but that's it, jokes. Frankly, if you can't take a friendly joke you probably aren't mature enough for sex. On the other hand, I've never seen a woman be criticized for not being a virgin or complimented for being a virgin. If anything, girls are also subject to jokes for being virgins, and again, if you can't handle a joke how can you handle a dick?

 

[fcgh vgcf]

i'll keep my virginity until i die because i can't let chris win

 

[Whatisgoingon]

I'm a horrible introvert in real life, so I don't have many relationships in general. Sometimes it bothers me that I'm still a virgin, it usually doesn't though. If I was to truly look at it though, the only reason I care is because my friends sometimes tease me about it, and it stings unlike what they usually tease me about. I suppose it really is a society based thing, because wouldn't it be better to wait and only do it with someone you actually like?

 

[Pikimon]

sex is pretty cool, everyone should have at least 4 or 5 in the house.

 

[Scratch This Nut]

sex is pretty cool, everyone should have at least 4 or 5 in the house.

Partners? Times a day?

 

[Pikimon]

Partners? Times a day?

Yes

 

[Null]

I often feel socially ostracized from my peers when they begin to discuss sex because I preferred to focus on more important things than fucking sluts in high school.
I look forward to studying to be a doctor in med school after I get my nursing degree.

This just sounds really bitter and autistic. It is completely possible to balance academics and sex. You didn't choose to study instead of "fucking sluts", you chose to play video games. Don't lie.

Money's overrated, sex ain't hard to find.

 

[BT 075]

The crippled little jew in a wheelchair with a bone disease who founded Wizardchan got laid, right? Chris got laid, Phil got laid, Null got laid. If you are a virgin in the year 2016 you are a total faggot.

 

[Scratch This Nut]

The crippled little jew in a wheelchair with a bone disease who founded Wizardchan got laid, right? Chris got laid, Phil got laid, Null got laid. If you are a virgin in the year 2016 you are a total faggot.

But that didn't help them did it?

And is it different if you choose to be one for whatever reason?

 

[TowinKarz]

Still am because the opportunity to lose mine never presented itself.

Well, lose it in a meaningful fashion. Being quite the severe introvert meant I never had a real chance to get into a relationship with the opposite sex.

A friend's wife kept trying to set me up with one of her sex-starved friends in a good-faith but misguided belief that a girlfriend who will put out at anytime is something every man wants. I know little about sex and social conventions, but that just had impropriety and future regret written all over it....(and she was adamant she wanted a baby, no thank you) probably the closest I'll ever come because I'm firmly a middle-aged bachelor right now and well off the dating market. I don't know if I'm truly asexual down inside or just possessed of a very low sex drive, or think so little of my potential sexual ability that I just don't pursue its development the same way I don't pursue a music career: I wouldn't be terribly good at it. The only regret I have is that I was still young enough and fit enough at that point I might have enjoyed it, or at least known what it was like, but the overall feeling is still that a major bullet was dodged, so I don't lose sleep over it. I'll never know what it's like, but, I'll never know what it's like to walk on the Moon, so what? There are things I've done that others will never do, like walk up to the Berlin Wall and carve off a piece of it and put it in my pocket? I've done that, didn't make me any more of a person than the next man.

And, as pointed out, sex isn't some magical thing that makes you better. I'm going to be the same shy and middling person after sex that I am now, so there's nothing really motivating me to change that.

Now, I don't buy into the stigma crap, it's not any of society's business and I don't feel like less of a "man" because of it, in truth, I've never felt like much of a "man" as pop culture defines it around here. I don't do "guy" things like getting drunk, hanging with the good ol' boys or aggressively courting a pro sports team/player. I pay my bills, stay out of trouble and show up to work on time, the rest of my life is nobody's business. And, I've never been put in a situation where my status as a virgin ever comes up.

My employers don't ask about it, my physician doesn't, the cashier at the grocer doesn't, my insurance agent doesn't, so when I hear someone complaining about how awful it is to be a virgin because nobody lets you ever forget it, I wonder who they're hanging out with and if maybe there isn't a teeny bit of projection going on. That whole attitude quickly becomes toxic and is the main reason I left the one or two communities that allegedly existed to cater to me as a virgin. Does it exist? Yes, but it's less a function of society, and more a function of meddling peers and parents who frequently have good intentions, but do a shitty job in the execution.

Most of that supposed angst comes from other people, friends, relatives, or total strangers who are much more upset about it than I ever have been or will be, for reasons I suspect are that like my friend's wife, failures of theory of mind. Unable to comprehend that to some people, sex isn't a be all end all, and they aren't unhappy with their sexual status. I did get some flak from my Mother for never dating, but, she was a child of the 50's and likewise unable to understand that social conventions changed in the intercene, and not everyone desires 1.5 kids and a Levittown address and society will NOT shun me as a weirdo (her greatest fear) if I wasn't a married professional. In short, I had to have sex to prove I was "normal" or employers wouldn't hire me, which in time came to strike me as pure projection on her part. She was far too wrapped up in the climbing the social ladder game and frequently came after me for not having a better job, fancier car, et cet.

We all face peer pressure, and the flavor of it changes from family to family, person to person, but, there's nothing that makes it any worse or better when people try to guilt trip you about your lack of sex as opposed to your lack of money or professional success. If you're hanging around people who are giving you shit for how much sex, if any, you are having, you are with the WRONG CROWD and it's not hard to find people who don't care, those people are called ADULTS.

 

[Grog]

Still am because the opportunity to lose mine never presented itself.

Well, lose it in a meaningful fashion. Being quite the severe introvert meant I never had a real chance to get into a relationship with the opposite sex.

A friend's wife kept trying to set me up with one of her sex-starved friends in a good-faith but misguided belief that a girlfriend who will put out at anytime is something every man wants. I know little about sex and social conventions, but that just had impropriety and future regret written all over it....(and she was adamant she wanted a baby, no thank you) probably the closest I'll ever come because I'm firmly a middle-aged bachelor right now and well off the dating market. I don't know if I'm truly asexual down inside or just possessed of a very low sex drive, or think so little of my potential sexual ability that I just don't pursue its development the same way I don't pursue a music career: I wouldn't be terribly good at it. The only regret I have is that I was still young enough and fit enough at that point I might have enjoyed it, or at least known what it was like, but the overall feeling is still that a major bullet was dodged, so I don't lose sleep over it. I'll never know what it's like, but, I'll never know what it's like to walk on the Moon, so what? There are things I've done that others will never do, like walk up to the Berlin Wall and carve off a piece of it and put it in my pocket? I've done that, didn't make me any more of a person than the next man.

And, as pointed out, sex isn't some magical thing that makes you better. I'm going to be the same shy and middling person after sex that I am now, so there's nothing really motivating me to change that.

Now, I don't buy into the stigma crap, it's not any of society's business and I don't feel like less of a "man" because of it, in truth, I've never felt like much of a "man" as pop culture defines it around here. I don't do "guy" things like getting drunk, hanging with the good ol' boys or aggressively courting a pro sports team/player. I pay my bills, stay out of trouble and show up to work on time, the rest of my life is nobody's business. And, I've never been put in a situation where my status as a virgin ever comes up.

My employers don't ask about it, my physician doesn't, the cashier at the grocer doesn't, my insurance agent doesn't, so when I hear someone complaining about how awful it is to be a virgin because nobody lets you ever forget it, I wonder who they're hanging out with and if maybe there isn't a teeny bit of projection going on. That whole attitude quickly becomes toxic and is the main reason I left the one or two communities that allegedly existed to cater to me as a virgin. Does it exist? Yes, but it's less a function of society, and more a function of meddling peers and parents who frequently have good intentions, but do a shitty job in the execution.

Most of that supposed angst comes from other people, friends, relatives, or total strangers who are much more upset about it than I ever have been or will be, for reasons I suspect are that like my friend's wife, failures of theory of mind. Unable to comprehend that to some people, sex isn't a be all end all, and they aren't unhappy with their sexual status. I did get some flak from my Mother for never dating, but, she was a child of the 50's and likewise unable to understand that social conventions changed in the intercene, and not everyone desires 1.5 kids and a Levittown address and society will NOT shun me as a weirdo (her greatest fear) if I wasn't a married professional. In short, I had to have sex to prove I was "normal" or employers wouldn't hire me, which in time came to strike me as pure projection on her part. She was far too wrapped up in the climbing the social ladder game and frequently came after me for not having a better job, fancier car, et cet.

We all face peer pressure, and the flavor of it changes from family to family, person to person, but, there's nothing that makes it any worse or better when people try to guilt trip you about your lack of sex as opposed to your lack of money or professional success. If you're hanging around people who are giving you shit for how much sex, if any, you are having, you are with the WRONG CROWD and it's not hard to find people who don't care, those people are called ADULTS.

Did you never go out in Summer and see the hot chicks in shorts and think to yourself "god damn why am I such a retard" or are you just asexual?

Anyway let's pray sexbots have been perfected by the time I'm 38.

 

[DuskEngine]

The crippled little jew in a wheelchair with a bone disease who founded Wizardchan got laid

Not especially an example to emulate tho

 

[meatslab]

Male virginity is psychological while female has the physical aspect of the hymen

Just so you and everyone else knows, "breaking our hymen" is a myth. The hymen simply stretches with intercourse. If you are bleeding from your first time that means you were not aroused and whoever you're fucking is just terrible at foreplay and sex.

 

[Malodorous Merkin]

Start with goats and work your way up to humans.

 

[Strelok]

Start with goats and work your way up to humans.

Everyone knows Goats are only for jihadist. A true, aryan man starts with sheep. Just ask the Welsh.

 

[Gym Leader Elesa]

The fuck kinda shitty sex are you people having? This thread is depressing.

Ok, people, so the thing here is that sex is fucking awesome. Seriously, great stuff, would recommend.
That having been said, sad news for those people who think getting their V card punched is gonna change their lives:
Who you are before you have sex is pretty much going to be the exact same person you are during and after sex. If you're generally pretty insecure and shy, you're going to be nervous and uncomfortable in bed, and you're going to continue to be that way after you've lost your virginity. Sex is not a magical panacea that will make you confident or cure your anxiety. It's a fun thing you do with people you like.
Losing your virginity is not a form of therapy; it's just a shitload of fun. That having been said, sex is still a shitload of fun, and you should totally do it. It's also good for you.

If you find you're not enjoying sex, consider switching partners. Lots of people, particularly those with less experience, think they just don't enjoy sex, when in reality they just haven't had good sex yet.
It's supposed to be fun, you joyless shits. Get out there and party.

Seriously, I could not imagine my life without sex. What the fuck are these people doing? Still, to each their, their own- I guess.