‘How are you supposed to?’: Single woman shares gym gripe - Woman realises the pain of asking out the other sex in the modern feminist world

Source https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/r...e/news-story/66240493e81c2072d10a7c86c227045f

A young woman in New Zealand has aired her grievances over “picking up” fellow singles at the gym, after she struggled to approach an attractive man during a workout.
Hannah Rose shared in a TikTok video that she “refuses to use dating apps”, and is instead hoping to meet a partner the old-fashioned way.

Given the culture of modern love, however, with its penchant for eggplant emojis and unsolicited d*ck pics, Hannah said she doesn’t know how to go about it.

“How are you supposed to pick people up? I don’t understand it,” she said in the clip.


“I know I’m not supposed to be looking at guys in the gym. I know I’m not supposed to be picking up people in the gym. But it’s the only place I go where there’s men at – so give me a break.”

Her latter comments seemingly addressed the trend of women filming and then calling out men for their “creepy” behaviour while exercising.




Hannah was prompted to make her video after working out near a “really attractive” man for almost an hour, saying she tried to make eye contact with him.

“The whole time I was working out I was like, ‘This guy’s really attractive, I want to talk to him’. How the f**k do you do that, though?” she said.

“I felt like I kept looking over but he never looked at me. Never caught on once looking at me, so I couldn’t accidentally catch eyes with him.”

The stranger was “very focused” on his workout and she was hesitant to “annoy" or interrupt him, Hannah added.

“How am I supposed to talk to this guy? And I just didn’t,” she said.

“He picked up his things and left, then I left, and what the f**k, honestly, how do you do this? He’s probably got a wife. What am I supposed to say? ‘I like your gym shorts’?”

In the comments, dozens of the video’s 107,2000 viewers shared their sympathies.

Others were quick to offer tips on how Hannah could spark up a conversation.

“Old person here. Pre-Tinder, a swipe was direct eye contact, not once but twice. If you got that you had permission to approach. #simplertimes,” one wrote.

One man pointed out that while the man Hannah had her eyes on might’ve been interested, he also might’ve been reluctant to approach her and appear “creepy”.

“I get it, which is why I’m not expecting men to do anything – I’m trying to get better at approaching them myself,” Hannah responded.

“I’m new to dating, it’s not always safe to initiate conversations with men and I’m not using apps so let me work up to it! All of my relationships have been initiated by me, a woman. We have to deal with it too, this is not exclusive to men.

“Having to figure out whether someone’s taken or what we’re going to say to them, women have to do that, too. It’s daunting to everybody. This is everyday life as a single woman as well.”
 
But they just wanted the good bits without any of those icky "responsibilities"

Exactly, and this is why I demand a repudiation as a starting point for these conversations.

Everyone knows exactly what kind of debate these articles are going to spark: a YouTube video where a conventionally attractive girl sits on her bed, puts on a thoughtful face, and says "OK, so don't cancel me, but maaaaaaaaaaaaybe feminism went too far in one or two places, and we need to reign it back a bit. I'm so happy for all the progress we made, and I love having all this freedom, and I respect the activists that paved the road for me; but we just need to tweak this one thing and everyone will be totally happy again!"

It's predictable and aggravating.

There is no compromise with a failed ideology. Repudiate, then we can talk again. And stop knowingly violating the rules of a male space then expecting sympathy or respect.
 
I feel sorry for the guy, he must've known this harpy was staring at him the entire time and its not like a dude can just walk up to a woman and tell them to fuck off.
You definitely can. I've done it, under different circumstances granted. It usually either ends in them very promptly fucking off or a grade A chimpout.
 
Gyms should be a segregated space; granted I know female only gyms exist, and male only gyms try to exist, but women eventually force their way in via crying segregation/oppression. My views on this have only strengthened within the past few years, where women will treat gyms as some sort of fucking pageant and then feign duress when guys get caught looking.

Just get the fuck out. Someone open a gym with pastel colors for all the attention whores to work out in.
 
Hell yes, is this today's gender fight thread?

I'm gonna choose "disappointing but realistic" and say that any further articles like this, or comments/extensions of this one, will take the tack of "people in general (and definitely not one specific subset of them) SURE ARE closed off in public, and it's ALL OF OUR responsibility to ensure EVERYONE feels accepted and not isolated!" while still shitting out your standard "yikes men feel entitled to womens' bodies let's unpack that" blog filler content.

Absent massive social change on par with the acceptance of smartphones, nobody will ever eat the amount of shit required to admit that, at a systematic level, we demonized a subset of normal social interaction and it's making people neurotic. And no, mexicans in pickup trucks catcalling 13 year old girls don't count (and yes they were absolutely 90% of the people doing that, and still are, because they don't care what you think about them and you're racist if you point it out).
 
She's a New Zealand woman, so I don't even need to see the video to know she's unattractive. She won't know how to look after her skin or her hair, and she'll have an awful sense of entitlement because she owns a front hole. She also will intensely dislike actual masculinity - NZ women hate men and think of them as little more than accessories, in the way fags now oh-so-desperately need to have children.
 
I kind of get where she's coming from but she'll just have to nut up. It's not the guys posting shit-eating tiktoks about "creeps" saying hi at the gym, at the bar, or anywhere else. No wonder most men don't bother, it's just not worth the headache.

That being said, really says something about how social media crippled regular social skills. It's not like being interrupted at the gym is the end of the world. You'd think people would still remember that it doesn't have to be yes or no, you can simply say 'i'm busy today so i want to finish my workout quickly, but here's my number if you want to get in touch later'.
 
If you want to make a move in a gym, you need to be blatant as all hell, especially after two decades of telling me how inappropriate it is to try and do anything in that sort of environment - If a girl kept staring at me doing my sets, I'd be concerned, not allured. I'd be hyper focused on my breathing, my positioning, my every movement less I find out too late that I was being too masculine or too loud or too aggressive or too anything and offended her. Guys getting hit on in random public spaces in general is already so rare these days as to be immediately discounted as a possibility, much less a gym.
 
That being said, really says something about how social media crippled regular social skills. It's not like being interrupted at the gym is the end of the world. You'd think people would still remember that it doesn't have to be yes or no, you can simply say 'i'm busy today so i want to finish my workout quickly, but here's my number if you want to get in touch later'.
Oh totally, it's not very complicated to walk up, ask a question that's clearly an excuse to talk to him for a minute, then be like "well hey I should get back to my workout, but you seem fun to talk to, we should get coffee sometime". It's entirely that being a 1. young 2. woman 3. "journalist", there's like a 90% chance she's shit on guys doing this exact thing in the past, perhaps so far as to have them removed from an establishment for making her feel "unsafe", maybe even wrote a shitty blogpost about how 'women should be able to do X without being sexually harassed'. It's funny because she's too much of a solipsistic retard to recognize the similarities between the two.
 
She just wants to ask a guy out without feeling awkward about it.
that's impossible. it is always awkward to talk to a random stranger because you find them attractive. it is never "safe." in fact, women's obsession with "safety" is why she has to actually take a risk for once in her life

she asks how are you supposed to? men have already learned: you don't. you might end up in a video and called a creep, you might have people dox you or contact your workplace and get you fired. it's not worth the risk. keep your head down, quietly isolate yourself, never be alone in the same room as a woman without video surveillance. #metoo has been a net detriment to women in both their social lives and work lives
 
“I know I’m not supposed to be looking at guys in the gym. I know I’m not supposed to be picking up people in the gym. But it’s the only place I go where there’s men at – so give me a break.”
Just look you dumb bitch. A lot of men who go to work out do so to look good and attractive to the opposite sex. LOOK GOD DAMNIT. I also really dislike that the advice given basically transforms the complexity of love and bonding and boils it down to a sanitized, step by step, For Dummies style of process. I genuinely feel bad for people who were born with their face glued to a phone screen.

Also, it doesn't help that modern feminism has trained men to actively not engage with women in public. A man approaching and saying hello to a woman would be considered rape. You get to live with it darling, enjoy your stay at Out of Fucks to Give Motel.
 
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