‘How are you supposed to?’: Single woman shares gym gripe - Woman realises the pain of asking out the other sex in the modern feminist world

Source https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/r...e/news-story/66240493e81c2072d10a7c86c227045f

A young woman in New Zealand has aired her grievances over “picking up” fellow singles at the gym, after she struggled to approach an attractive man during a workout.
Hannah Rose shared in a TikTok video that she “refuses to use dating apps”, and is instead hoping to meet a partner the old-fashioned way.

Given the culture of modern love, however, with its penchant for eggplant emojis and unsolicited d*ck pics, Hannah said she doesn’t know how to go about it.

“How are you supposed to pick people up? I don’t understand it,” she said in the clip.


“I know I’m not supposed to be looking at guys in the gym. I know I’m not supposed to be picking up people in the gym. But it’s the only place I go where there’s men at – so give me a break.”

Her latter comments seemingly addressed the trend of women filming and then calling out men for their “creepy” behaviour while exercising.




Hannah was prompted to make her video after working out near a “really attractive” man for almost an hour, saying she tried to make eye contact with him.

“The whole time I was working out I was like, ‘This guy’s really attractive, I want to talk to him’. How the f**k do you do that, though?” she said.

“I felt like I kept looking over but he never looked at me. Never caught on once looking at me, so I couldn’t accidentally catch eyes with him.”

The stranger was “very focused” on his workout and she was hesitant to “annoy" or interrupt him, Hannah added.

“How am I supposed to talk to this guy? And I just didn’t,” she said.

“He picked up his things and left, then I left, and what the f**k, honestly, how do you do this? He’s probably got a wife. What am I supposed to say? ‘I like your gym shorts’?”

In the comments, dozens of the video’s 107,2000 viewers shared their sympathies.

Others were quick to offer tips on how Hannah could spark up a conversation.

“Old person here. Pre-Tinder, a swipe was direct eye contact, not once but twice. If you got that you had permission to approach. #simplertimes,” one wrote.

One man pointed out that while the man Hannah had her eyes on might’ve been interested, he also might’ve been reluctant to approach her and appear “creepy”.

“I get it, which is why I’m not expecting men to do anything – I’m trying to get better at approaching them myself,” Hannah responded.

“I’m new to dating, it’s not always safe to initiate conversations with men and I’m not using apps so let me work up to it! All of my relationships have been initiated by me, a woman. We have to deal with it too, this is not exclusive to men.

“Having to figure out whether someone’s taken or what we’re going to say to them, women have to do that, too. It’s daunting to everybody. This is everyday life as a single woman as well.”
 
As someone with extensive experience being the designated driver; if you go to a bar, and don't drink, you're not gonna be meeting any women, because going to a bar and not drinking gets you the potential rapist vibe. There is no way to get around the "So you don't mind if I drink, but you won't drink?" and any variations. You may as well just mace yourself in the face to save yourself time and effort.
you have my sympathies, abused responsible man
 
As someone with extensive experience being the designated driver; if you go to a bar, and don't drink, you're not gonna be meeting any women, because going to a bar and not drinking gets you the potential rapist vibe. There is no way to get around the "So you don't mind if I drink, but you won't drink?" and any variations. You may as well just mace yourself in the face to save yourself time and effort.
I never said don't drink. I just don't like the idea that you have to get drunk when you drink. Either at home or in public.
 
As someone with extensive experience being the designated driver; if you go to a bar, and don't drink, you're not gonna be meeting any women, because going to a bar and not drinking gets you the potential rapist vibe. There is no way to get around the "So you don't mind if I drink, but you won't drink?" and any variations. You may as well just mace yourself in the face to save yourself time and effort.
can confirm. i have been the DD many many times and it never gets you laid. being DD sucks, and not just because the lack of sex. if anyone ever asked me to do it again i would demand to get paid for it. never doing it for free again.
 
I didn't expect her to be religious or be looking for anything other than causal sex. You know you don't have to get drunk in a bar right?
As @Kheapathic said, thats a genuinely rapey vibe. Youre going to a spot where people willingly make themselves vulnerable on the expectation that you will also be vulnerable, but youre not making yourself vulnerable. Thats suspicious.
 
I call these threads "neckbeard versus legbeard" threads.
Hell yes, is this today's gender fight thread?

I'm gonna choose "disappointing but realistic" and say that any further articles like this, or comments/extensions of this one, will take the tack of "people in general (and definitely not one specific subset of them) SURE ARE closed off in public, and it's ALL OF OUR responsibility to ensure EVERYONE feels accepted and not isolated!" while still shitting out your standard "yikes men feel entitled to womens' bodies let's unpack that" blog filler content.

Absent massive social change on par with the acceptance of smartphones, nobody will ever eat the amount of shit required to admit that, at a systematic level, we demonized a subset of normal social interaction and it's making people neurotic. And no, mexicans in pickup trucks catcalling 13 year old girls don't count (and yes they were absolutely 90% of the people doing that, and still are, because they don't care what you think about them and you're racist if you point it out).
You'd think from how often we have these threads people en masse would be able to see we have a problem between the sexes.
 
I go to the Iron Church, to worship Lord Brodin, not to be social. I hate when people talk to me at the gym. No I don't want your tips, no I don't want to chat when I go to get water. The most communication I want to hear is a caveman-like grunt, followed by "Spot me?"
So.... basically you just want to interact with this guy at the gym?

That said she wouldn't be acting like this unless shes the type to start shit if she got turned down. Just look at how shes acting because he ignored her
 
As @Kheapathic said, thats a genuinely rapey vibe. Youre going to a spot where people willingly make themselves vulnerable on the expectation that you will also be vulnerable, but youre not making yourself vulnerable. Thats suspicious.
I never said don't drink. I said you don't have to get drunk.
 
“He picked up his things and left, then I left, and what the f**k, honestly, how do you do this? He’s probably got a wife. What am I supposed to say? ‘I like your gym shorts’?”
Unfettered autism. You could easily ask him to spot you for a set or two, or compliment one of his body parts and ask for tips on how to develop that area of the body further. So long as you're not a fatty, no dude except a committed homosexual will deny you assistance and keep the conversation going instead.

Are zoomers this socially inept? C'mon, you're a woman; you're living in America in 2023 on game journalist difficulty.
 
“Old person here. Pre-Tinder, a swipe was direct eye contact, not once but twice. If you got that you had permission to approach. #simplertimes,” one wrote.
based and real take

This woman is a real idiot, the number one surefire way to talk to anyone in the gym is ask for a spotter. You can bench/squat well below your capability just to start a conversation. Asking for help in a gym is utterly foolproof as an icebreaker. Anyone too dumb to know that deserves to be single & have no gains.
 
"Oy vey the retarded anti humanistic views and policies I've endorsed and spent my entire life advocating for are starting to negatively affect me personally, time to compare my plight to the holocaust/another historical atrocity and learn nothing". ~ this bitch
 
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