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Why Parents Of Autistic Kids Should Avoid ABA Therapy​

Daniel Wilkenfeld first heard about Applied Behavioral Analysis, a mainstay treatment for children on the spectrum, when his own kid was diagnosed with autism. Something immediately didn’t sit right with him. Applied Behavior Analysis therapy, or ABA, teaches autistic kids behaviors that tend to come more naturally to their neurotypical peers — such as eye contact or completing tasks independently — and discourages behaviors considered disruptive in classrooms and other social settings, such as hand flapping or other forms of stimming. The therapy is intensive, taking hours each day.

“It was quick that the alarm bells went off,” Wilkenfeld says. In addition to his role as a parent, Wilkenfeld is a professor of nursing ethics at University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine and holds a Ph.D. in philosophy. Shortly after his kid received an autism diagnosis, he found out that he, too, is on the spectrum.

It seemed to Wilkenfeld that the goal of ABA wasn’t to help kids be the happiest, most secure versions of themselves — it was to get them to blend in. The therapy, with its structured reward system, seemed coercive to him. He didn’t want to see his child become anyone other than who they were.

“We like their autistic self. We like that they get hyper-focused on stuff,” Wilkenfeld says. “I mean, sometimes it could be frustrating. It's not always fun to play in the same skit over and over again, every day, but that just seemed like who they are. And we didn’t want to try to train them to do something else.”

For years, autistic people have been decrying ABA. Many describe lasting trauma, a sense of low self-worth, and difficulty setting boundaries as a result of the therapy. Meanwhile, medical and insurance providers tout ABA as the most effective out there. For parents of autistic kids, it can be confusing to navigate this fractured landscape. Who are you supposed to listen to?

Wilkenfeld, along with other researchers and advocates, argue that it’s high time we believe the experiences of autistic people — and ask what an “effective” therapy means for autistic kids and adults.

People in favor of ABA will often argue that it gives kids the skills to function better independently and in social situations. By those standards, it works. Spanish researchers pooled the results of 26 different studies on ABA. Their results, published in the journal Clinical Psychology Review, found that ABA had medium to large effects in intellectual functioning, language, daily-life skills, and social functioning.

But autistic advocates point out that these standards don’t take into account the mental health of the people going through ABA. They say ABA encourages “masking,” or changing one’s behavior to appear more neurotypical. Autistic people who mask are at a higher risk of depression, anxiety and suicide. And some research suggests that the therapy is associated with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

Adults who went through ABA as children report being forced to endure sounds or sensations they experienced as overwhelming or painful. Some had food and comfort objects withheld until they completed a task.

“When you tell people their sensory experience is not that bad, when you make a child repeat something over and over, that’s abusive,” says Julie Roberts, a speech and language pathologist and the founder of the Therapist Neurodiversity Collective.

Roberts, like Wilkenfeld, sees ABA as fundamentally coercive. She worries that training kids with rewards to do things that other people want them to do — some of which they may not be comfortable with — sets them up for future abuse.

“It’s no wonder these children grow up and are at a higher risk of exploitation,” Roberts says. Autistic children are more likely to be sexually, physically, and emotionally abused than their neurotypical peers.

For many kids, ABA isn’t all bad, points out Laura K. Anderson, a special educator and Ph.D. candidate researching autism and inclusion in education. Early this year, Anderson, who is autistic, published a study in the journal Autism in which she interviewed seven autistic adults on their experiences with ABA therapy. Their memories and criticisms were nuanced. These adults were grateful for some of the practical skills they learned through ABA — like how to stay safely on a sidewalk — and for the improvements in language and communication that they gained.

“None of our participants argued that ABA wasn’t effective in any way, shape, or form,” Anderson says. “That wasn’t their point. Their point was that it was harmful for them.” Anderson’s interviewees recounted being physically manipulated, having preferred items taken away, and an overall loss of agency and autonomy.

After Wilkenfeld’s experience with his own kid’s diagnosis, he began conducting his own research on ABA. He ended up co-authoring an analysis of how ABA fits into the four main tenets of bioethics: autonomy, non-maleficence (the “do no harm” principle), beneficence (doing well by your patient), and justice. In his paper, published in the Kennedy Institute of Ethics Journal, Wilkenfeld argued that ABA violates all four.

His biggest concern was with the principle of autonomy. Although young children aren’t generally making their own medical decisions, Wilkenfeld writes that parents need to make decisions that best respect their kids’ freedom. He argues that ABA does not, because of its element of coercion.

He also argued that given the evidence we have for the negative impact of masking behavior on mental health, any therapy that encourages social camouflaging violates the “do no harm” principle.

There are ways to achieve the benefits of ABA without those harms, Anderson says. For example, one element that Anderson likes about ABA is task analysis — the process of breaking down a complex task into easy-to-follow steps. But task analysis isn’t particular to ABA. It’s also common in occupational therapy, minus the reward system and regimented practice.

In her work with autistic children, Roberts, who is autistic herself, thinks about the skills and knowledge that will improve her patients’ quality of life, rather than make those around them more comfortable. Her goal isn’t total independence. “That doesn’t necessarily help their mental health,” she says.

For one, Roberts teaches her patients about neurotypical experiences of their peers, without the expectation of camouflage. “They need to understand that the neurotypical experience may be different,” she says. Roberts also works with her clients to develop confidence — their own sense of an authentic autistic identity. Then, she’ll teach them about healthy boundaries, and skills to avoid victimization, such as the difference between a friend and a bully. There’s no official name for Roberts’ approach, but she likes to call it “neurodiversity-informed” or “trauma-informed” therapy.

There are many types of therapies that can be useful for supporting autistic children, such as cognitive behavioral therapy, occupational therapy, and play therapy. However, each type of intervention can harm autistic people depending on how it’s practiced. There’s no one phrase or keyword that can clue you into whether a therapy will be both ethical and effective. However, this guide from the Autistic Self Advocacy Network outlines practices that you should look for in a therapy, such as integrating the autistic person’s interests into the intervention, and red flags to look out for, such as requiring the autistic person to not use assistive technologies such as speech-generating devices.

Roberts acknowledges that it’s not easy to find a therapist who is radically accepting ofneurodiversity, especially when many ABA providers use that same language. She suggests interviewing providers on their goals for treatment; the primary one should be improving your child’s mental wellbeing. Red flags to look out for: a therapist who won’t let you sit in on your child’s appointments, or a therapist that asks you to avoid stepping in when you see your child in distress.

Neurodiversity-informed therapy doesn’t guarantee that a kid will be non-disruptive in a traditional classroom setting. It doesn’t guarantee that they’ll be able to live independently — but perhaps that shouldn’t be the goal of any therapy, Wilkenfeld says. “Having society-defined goals of what counts as a valuable life is frequently a mistake.”

Roberts agrees: “We don’t need to be converted into other human beings to maximize the comfort of others.”
 
It seemed to Wilkenfeld that the goal of ABA wasn’t to help kids be the happiest, most secure versions of themselves — it was to get them to blend in. The therapy, with its structured reward system, seemed coercive to him. He didn’t want to see his child become anyone other than who they were.
Gee, you don't say? That's how most treatment for autists was like for the longest time. It might not have always been formalized like ABA, but there was definitely an undercurrent of "you are different, and that is bad." It's only going to get worse for those who don't learn to at least find less disruptive alternatives for what they currently do.
 
Roberts, like Wilkenfeld, sees ABA as fundamentally coercive. She worries that training kids with rewards to do things that other people want them to do — some of which they may not be comfortable with — sets them up for future abuse.

“It’s no wonder these children grow up and are at a higher risk of exploitation,” Roberts says. Autistic children are more likely to be sexually, physically, and emotionally abused than their neurotypical peers.
Mmm, no it's more complicated than that. Kids who don't have autism are rewarded for good behavior pretty frequently. They're exploited because they don't know or understand the signs of abuse, such as the concept of "body secrets" (keep this a secret from mommy) or the implication of "hide the salami".
 
It seemed to Wilkenfeld that the goal of ABA wasn’t to help kids be the happiest, most secure versions of themselves — it was to get them to blend in. The therapy, with its structured reward system, seemed coercive to him. He didn’t want to see his child become anyone other than who they were.
The only way to live successfully with autism is to hide it. Not only do you have better social interactions if you act normal, and not only do you have a chance to make real friends and form lasting relationships, but you understand other people better as well. Trying to force other people to accept you when you're genuinely being disturbing and unnerving isn't going to work all the time, whereas blending in at least works no matter what the opinion of the other person is.
 
The only way to live successfully with autism is to hide it. Not only do you have better social interactions if you act normal, and not only do you have a chance to make real friends and form lasting relationships, but you understand other people better as well. Trying to force other people to accept you when you're genuinely being disturbing and unnerving isn't going to work all the time, whereas blending in at least works no matter what the opinion of the other person is.
Oh, but didn't you hear? Asking women if they walk around their homes in their underwear isn't creepy - it's just neurodiverse.
 
It seemed to Wilkenfeld that the goal of ABA wasn’t to help kids be the happiest, most secure versions of themselves — it was to get them to blend in. The therapy, with its structured reward system, seemed coercive to him. He didn’t want to see his child become anyone other than who they were.
The world needs to adapt to suit me/my kid, and not the other way around.
 
Mmm, no it's more complicated than that. Kids who don't have autism are rewarded for good behavior pretty frequently. They're exploited because they don't know or understand the signs of abuse, such as the concept of "body secrets" (keep this a secret from mommy) or the implication of "hide the salami".
Regular people get reward systems naturally as part of being human. For instance, getting paid to do a job is a form of reward that is accepted in society. It’s a very good motivator to get people to do things they may not always want to do.
 
The only way to live successfully with autism is to hide it. Not only do you have better social interactions if you act normal, and not only do you have a chance to make real friends and form lasting relationships, but you understand other people better as well. Trying to force other people to accept you when you're genuinely being disturbing and unnerving isn't going to work all the time, whereas blending in at least works no matter what the opinion of the other person is.
^this. all of it.

t. an autistic nigger who was told exactly this as a child and immensely benefited from it.
 
Shortly after his kid received an autism diagnosis, he found out that he, too, is on the spectrum.
90% of "autism" diagnoses are munchies attention whoring or normies attention whoring. Sounds like daddy here is a little of both.


It seemed to Wilkenfeld that the goal of ABA wasn’t to help kids be the happiest, most secure versions of themselves — it was to get them to blend in. The therapy, with its structured reward system, seemed coercive to him. He didn’t want to see his child become anyone other than who they were.
ommmmggg my child isn't living his best life as his true self 😭😭😭😭 muh trauma muh masking muh anxiety

This is troon talk and this kid's going to be lucky to make it to 30.
 
ABA is what I've been trained in and used for ages with clients. The issue is that Autism Speaks is against it since they state its wrong to help their children function in society because they should be accepted as beautiful snowflakes. They will go so far as to say that we are simply teaching them to be pavlov's dogs.

To be fair though I work with the lowest of the low in functioning and ABA does help even though that are severely autistic.

The basis though is that the only behaviors you work on changing are distressful behaviors that are causing issues for the child. If a kid is obsessed with trains I'm not gonna use threpay to change that. If they are obsessed with attempting to gouge their eyes out then that behavior I'm going to help change.
 
I hate how these tards basically sweep all autists under the same appearance as those ones who make noises and moan all the time. Some of us are just socially inept retards who can't read the room or understand emotions. Shit like this is useful for those people, not the ones who are pissing and shitting themselves. Don't even consider myself an autist since some hack fraud psychologist just diagnosed me as an Assburger in 6th grade,
 
I hate how these tards basically sweep all autists under the same appearance as those ones who make noises and moan all the time. Some of us are just socially inept retards who can't read the room or understand emotions. Shit like this is useful for those people, not the ones who are pissing and shitting themselves. Don't even consider myself an autist since some hack fraud psychologist just diagnosed me as an Assburger in 6th grade,
ABA actually does work with those that are severely intellectually delayed. I have worked with clients of that level where we used ABA to find a preference and then used that preference to limit behaviors.
 
So what? Life is hard. Deal with it.
Yes, that was my point. There’s a lot of people out there masking various degrees of finding the world very difficult. You just have to do it if you want to function in the world. We seem to want an easy way of everything being perfect and that’s just not how it works.
I know a family with siblings who are all on the spectrum. Not 24 hour care type autism, but very eccentric and find a lot of things tough. The most affected is ironically the most ‘ok’ and successful because he for some reason was the only child their parents didn’t coddle. Odd dynamic, maybe they just wanted one normal kid, I don’t know, but the brothers and sisters were all allowed to get away with murder and he was told to suck it up. I know he’s struggled because we’ve spoken about it, but he has a job, a wife and manages life ok. He’s had a couple of semi breakdowns over the years but got himself back on track.
The siblings are a mess. Life’s tough. If you’re a bit different you have to learn to play the game to get along.
 
The real problem is staring us right in the face.

Shortly after his kid received an autism diagnosis, he found out that he, too, is on the spectrum.

It seemed to Wilkenfeld that the goal of ABA wasn’t to help kids be the happiest, most secure versions of themselves — it was to get them to blend in. The therapy, with its structured reward system, seemed coercive to him. He didn’t want to see his child become anyone other than who they were.

“We like their autistic self. We like that they get hyper-focused on stuff,” Wilkenfeld says. “I mean, sometimes it could be frustrating. It's not always fun to play in the same skit over and over again, every day, but that just seemed like who they are. And we didn’t want to try to train them to do something else.”

This so-called "father" is raising his son or daughter as some sort of they/them genderspecial. That's toxic enough for a normal child, but an autist never stood a chance.
 
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