@Stan said (site is being weird so pardon the mess):
“What a degenerate and unenviable fan club to have. Mine post digs on me based on crap they read on Encyclopedia Dramatica. Like, “you’re a waste of a good STEM education, this is why you women shouldn’t have educations” “you’re a horrible mum for using Kiwi Farms”, and my personal fav from today (paraphrasing) “FUCK YOU FOR PRAYING FOR ME YOU DUMB CUNT” *posts DM of the prayer I sent him so his buddies can see it*, and ofc variations on how I’m fat and “shit out” a baby recently.
It flummoxes me on some level. Cause I know if I really did lean into my career and I still worked 40h a week downtown at Methadone Mile doing clinical research on HIV+ heroin users, they would go for the “ghost kid” memes where they speak as the kid you could have/should have had but didn’t so you could be a power mad slut with a tight job.
If you do get on a career detour and switch to something part time (but which you’re qualified to do and care very much about) in order to have a few years where you can have kids, then you’re the reason women should have educations/the vote/any liberty at all really. And they phrase it as “shitting out” kids; you know, the same kids they’re usually mourning cause of muh low birth rates/only low quality ni**o welfare queens have kids/muh Great replacement.
You can never make men happy. No matter what you choose there is always some pissed off moid at the sidelines who’s fucking salty as Lot’s wife that you exist at all.”
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How about…stop trying to please them? Especially not randos who somehow give a shit how you run your life. (They don’t, it’s just abstract knee jerk crap they don’t even understand.)
You seem to think that by sending prayers (why would you do this?) or asking how their whatever went they’re going to like you. First, why do you want know-nothing idiots to like you? Second, it’s either clueless or overbearing to keep trying to have a sort of rapport with people who are either incapable of being human or who truly think ill of you.
Some of these people are not joking in their seething - they are really that fucked up, confused and angry. Some of them are shitposting being quite as retarded as they sound but also still don’t like you or want to be secret pals.
Ignore them and stop trying to be liked or tolerated as the good egg ( “oh, that M, she’s a toughie, but we really like the old gal despite ourselves - plus she’s a jolly old thing, and smart and a mother and has really taught us a lot…I think we’ll keep her”). This isn’t some mid-century, mid-Atlantic-accented comedy-drama-intrigue featuring the misunderstood spunky girl detective with the heart of gold. It’s beneath you to keep pointing out how you’re just so tired of being dogged, rather than simply either ignoring them with a button, ignoring them with equanimity and willpower, or just fighting.
