Culture WIRED: First-Gen Social Media Users Have Nowhere to Go - For many first-gen social media users—millennials between the ages of 27 and 42—there is a developing sentiment that the party is over.

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First-Gen Social Media Users Have Nowhere to Go​

The collective erosion of X, Instagram, and Facebook marks a turning point for millennials, who are outgrowing a constant need to be plugged in.


A golden age of connectivity is ending. “I deleted my Facebook years ago, spend at least three to six months off Twitter every year, and Bluesky invites are just sitting in my inbox,” a friend tells me when I ask how her relationship to social media has changed in recent times. “I basically only use [Instagram] Stories and almost never post on the grid. I do it once a week so I can get away with saying ‘Free Palestine’ without the algorithm punishing me. I refuse to get any more accounts. I’m over it.”

This is how it goes now, in what is being christened the twilight of an era of social media that redefined community building and digital correspondence. For many first-gen social media users—millennials between the ages of 27 and 42—there is a developing sentiment that the party is over.

Twitter is bad (sorry, I will never refer to it as X). Instagram is overrun with ads and influencers hawking face creams and fitness tips. TikTok, what originally felt like a glossier alternative to YouTube, increasingly resembles an outlet mall full of “dupes,” prizing hype over lasting influence.

Influence is one attribute Twitter never lacked, as evidenced by the mad dash in Silicon Valley to fill the gulf its collapse is leaving. I've spent an unhealthy amount of time on the platform over the last decade. It was the avenue of the Black Lives Matter movement, a megaphone for everyday users, and, through a wave of history-setting and history-unsettling US elections, transformed culture into a 24/7 participatory event. There is no #MeToo without Twitter, nor the beginnings of a racial reckoning in Hollywood. Twitter refashioned the look of communication through a vernacular of memes and GIFs, where resident collectives like Black Twitter and NBA Twitter excelled as virtuosos of the form.

It has now been a year since Elon Musk assumed control of Twitter, and in what felt like record time, he has taken a sledgehammer to everything that gave the platform its unique draw (issues of safety and inclusion were a problem under former CEO Jack Dorsey but have significantly worsened). There is a void in the social media universe that, until now, Twitter singularly occupied.

In its heyday, from 2008 to 2015, before digital currencies like retweets and views reoriented how users interacted with one another, no other platform offered what Twitter did, the way it did: up-to-the-second real-time conversation and analysis. It was a blank slate, and because it was a blank slate, it was a canvas to document what was happening to us and around us. It was revolutionary, and soon what we remember of it will be gone.

If the early promise of social media was to bring society closer to a virtual ideal, the most recent shift in how platforms are used has lost the plot. Along with Twitter, the erosion of the user experience on Facebook and Instagram—with tiered subscriptions, a proliferation of hate speech and misinformation, privacy being sold as a luxury, and the threat of generative AI—marks a sharp turning point in the value of the social web. It’s “too much echo chamber,” my friend says of what the social internet has evolved into. “It’s too much viewing people you know in real life as marketing categories.” Everything about the current online user experience, she says, is “too mind-melting.”

Social media today is less driven by actual social connection. It is powered by the “appearance of social connection,” says Marlon Twyman II, a quantitative social scientist at USC Annenberg who specializes in social network analysis. “Human relationships have suffered and their complexity has diminished. Because many of our interactions are now occurring in platforms designed to promote transactional interactions that provide feedback in the form of attention metrics, many people do not have much experience or practice interacting with people in settings where there are collective or communal goals for a larger group.” This has also led to people being more image-conscious and identity-focused in real-world interactions, too, Twyman adds.

I recently polled a group of friends—all first-gen social media adopters like myself—and the collective sentiment was one of burnout and disinterest. The mode in which people use platforms has changed, to Twyman’s point, but we’ve also been on the internet for what feels like a very long time. All admitted to a decrease in overall consumption; according to UK marketing research firm GWI, social media usage is on the decline. “I stopped sending tweets in May,” another friend shared over email. “I fundamentally believe that we’ve outgrown the need to all be talking in one place,” he said. “There might be enough evidence that it’s a net negative. So I think my usage has reflected that.”

We were among Twitter’s earliest cohorts. I joined the service in 2008 and officially signed up in 2009 after a brief absence, just as Young Jeezy’s lyric “My president is Black” captured the promise of what a better tomorrow could bring, even as we struggled to get there. For my generation, social media was more than access—it was opportunity. It was a chance at a future that felt out of reach. We graduated into a recession, sold on the guarantee of a middle-class life only to be saddled with a lifetime’s worth of student loan debt. Opportunity was scarce. Instability was a given. We didn’t have jobs but we did have Wi-Fi. Our sole allegiance was to connection, to each other. So we logged on.

Millennials are the last of the analog world, both of yesterday and tomorrow, the bridge between what was and what will be. Maybe this is where my hesitation takes root, and why it feels like there are no good apps left for socializing the way we used to. We came of age on a diet of chatrooms and Myspace. Our expression was devoutly digital. We signed up en masse because what we sought in the next frontier of adulthood, we slowly realized, was being actualized online. Friendster, Blogger, Tumblr, Twitter, and Facebook were where we found community, honed our creative urges, and secured careers. In time, we used social media to remake civic life.

It’s not that I consider myself too old for social media, or the pace and attention it requires. I’m just less interested in being everywhere these days. I also have no problem paying for apps; I fully believe people should support the communities they contribute to. What I won’t pay for is an app that has no common sense, one that doesn’t work toward a collective end. Perhaps the matter at hand is an accessibility issue. The internet promised us access, but I didn’t realize the totality of what that meant. It meant always being plugged in, available, in the know and up to date on what’s trending. That is a requirement of time that I no longer wish to give over.

It could also be that the rules have changed, and keep changing. “People are savvier regarding impression management with audiences,” Twyman adds, signaling what TikTok captures and what the next phase of social media will be centered around: a future focused on visual immersion, fueled by AI, location-based software, and augmented reality.

Competitors have jockeyed to usurp Twitter’s fading influence since Musk’s takeover. Similar to what the siloed enclaves of the early internet attempted to accomplish, Mastodon, Spill, Bluesky, and Threads offer unique alternatives. But the reason none of them have seized mass culture the way Facebook and Twitter did for my friends and I in the mid 2000s is because we socialize completely differently now. The old way is gone. Nothing can take its place. And nothing should.

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Jason Parham is a senior writer at WIRED covering Black creative labor, emerging trends, and the digital culture of sex. Before joining the publication in 2017, he was an editor at The Fader and Gawker. He is based in New York.


Ed. Note - The author uses "I" in this article, so here is what he looks like:
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Before social media, people made their own blogs. No censorship, no ridiculous rules to follow. You only had to pay for the hosting if you wanted to go fully independent, and perhaps someone to set it up for you.

Social media is what eventually destroyed that and perhaps it's time to go back.

Check neocities and you can see some -albeit autistic- examples of people having their own space. As outdated as it looks, it's better than people having websites that's only a full screen pic of their face with links to social media.

tl;dr: LEARN TO FUCKING CODE.
 
I in my old age never cottoned to the everyone's-connected-forever social media, I went from BBSes in the 90s to various chat apps to be in touch with my actual friend group and forums for my effortposting with people of similar interests. I couldn't give the first inkling of a shit what Rando235918's posting on twitter or facebook, I don't want to connect to my cousin who I never see's college friends, who has time to waste reading their grandparents' shitty email memes?
 
79-82' is what they call a Xennial (yeah it's a lazy portmanteau), jist is you grew up playing Oregon Trail on an Apple II or round abouts.

Like you actually played outside some and had to know about computers when the internet came around or at least try like hell to figure it out if you wanted to do it.

Kids these days can't even be bothered to try to fix things half the time.

Remember, gatekeeping is a wonderful thing. Be suspicious of anybody that says otherwise or else you get people that just aren't meant for the culture in there that will make it all about politics and bullshit.
It's dumb is what it is. Strauss and Howe put them starting at 1982 or 1983, because that lines up with '01 for their coming of age, you know the actual Millennium. Journalists decided that Boomers get 20ish years and Xers get 15, because reasons. My friends and I did play consoles, but we mostly fucked around in the neighborhood. There's always going to be some bleed over around the edges though, but dammit I'm going to call my cynical ass an Xer.
 
It's not just social media. The web is incredibly hostile. A pop-up and 1-2 overlays on every homepage. If they don't have an app to force upon you, they physically try to keep you from leaving the site without subscribing somehow, inadvertently driving traffic away.
 
It's dumb is what it is. Strauss and Howe put them starting at 1982 or 1983, because that lines up with '01 for their coming of age, you know the actual Millennium. Journalists decided that Boomers get 20ish years and Xers get 15, because reasons. My friends and I did play consoles, but we mostly fucked around in the neighborhood. There's always going to be some bleed over around the edges though, but dammit I'm going to call my cynical ass an Xer.
I can dig this. It also lines up with the 85-95 group being "core millennials" because their childhoods would have ended right around 2000.
 
I can dig this. It also lines up with the 85-95 group being "core millennials" because their childhoods would have ended right around 2000.
A lot of really depends on how long you give generations, Strauss and Howe are more uniform in length, if you look at the journalist ranges it's 20ish for Boomers, 15 for X, 15 for Millennials and then onto Zoomers, which put the first Zoomers being born before 2000. It's kinda dumb.

Millennials are mostly split between pre and post Social Media and just how much of their teenage years and development was before 2007. It's why Millennials tend to get worse as they get younger.
 
Social media is a cancer, but the real death of the old internet was the iPhone. Smartphones were a thing before, but the iPhone was “cool” and literally put the internet in the pocket of normies, niggers, and worst of all, women.

e: On the topic of generations, I’ve always put the millennial/zoomer split at whether or not they have memories of 9/11
 
Youtube for mainstream gaming content. Kick for 'edgier' stuff/IRL. Livestreams for almost every major world event on one platform or the other. Twitter Community Notes is actually a solid feature. The Checkmark Caste system being destroyed was kino and made twitter better.

Idk...I think things are better than they were in 2010. I don't use TikTok because it's basically just Vine but forcing Youtube to add 'Shorts' has been another added plus.
 
I just want stream.me back and to call people niggerfaggots online. Is that so much to ask? Even when there is a place where I can call people niggerfaggots online you niggerfaggots do everything in your power to ruin it. Case in point the site I’m posting on right now.

You’re all niggerfaggots btw, but the good kind.
 
Personally, I've been using facebook more in the last while than I did over the prior decade or more or however the fuck long ago it was I made an account there. It's actually better now that it's full of boomers. The groups are fun. Some of them are actually pretty decent and a lot of them are full of drama. The local community groups where I live are fairly active and some of the shit that goes on in them are lolcow level ridiculous. The slapfights and arguments are pure fucking gold. It's a relatively small community too so you end up seeing people you know and names you recognize pop up. It's great entertainment.

Holy fuck though I swear the comments on those public posts facebook recommends for you are actually some of the most retarded things I've ever read over my almost 30 years of using the internet. Like I can't believe how unbelievably brain dead retarded a scary number of people seem to be. I mean, how the fuck are you still alive and actually made it to adulthood with all your limbs intact level retarded.
 
The Internet has had two major downturns since the invention of the WWW. The first was right around the turn of the millennium when broadband started to proliferate, the second was 2007, which was right before the world took a huge shock from the economy going in the shitter and the introduction of the smartphone. Both were major contributors to the cesspool which make up the majority of the Internet as we know it.
 
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