Off-Topic Detransitioner/Desister Stories - People you know or heard about deciding to return to their original gender/sex

[LimeRikki]

Now, the nation’s first law firm focused solely on representing these patients — many of whom feel abused by a medical system that encouraged their treatment — has opened its doors in Dallas.

Keep on swinging, you beautiful pendulum.

 

[Deepland Bystander]

Now, the nation’s first law firm focused solely on representing these patients — many of whom feel abused by a medical system that encouraged their treatment — has opened its doors in Dallas.

I'm not sure if I should even be happy about this. It's good to see an organisation finally going against the tide - but It's kind of a bummer that there are a lot of medical atrocities going on yet only troon/detroon causes get picked up because it's part of the culture war, filled with enough narcissists to make anything happen.

 

[Procrastinhater]

I'm not sure if I should even be happy about this. It's good to see an organisation finally going against the tide - but It's kind of a bummer that there are a lot of medical atrocities going on yet only troon/detroon causes get picked up because it's part of the culture war, filled with enough narcissists enough to make anything happen.

One problem at a time bro. The Gender Cult has to be stopped, and the most realistic way it stops is Big Pharma realizing its a liability not a cash cow. The reason it's been astroturfed and pushed so hard is the huge profit potential in making retards lifelong medical patients, it's a vile combination of ideological fanatics meeting corporate greed, and if these lawsuits start to go through and start to cost the medical companies money, that's the best way to put a stop to it.
It's only going to need a few cases with big payouts and every Ambulance Chasing "no win no fee" lawyer in the country will see dollar signs and start taking "detrans" patients.

As soon as it stops being profitable, the troons lose their support from the top, and that top down astroturfing is the thing keeping this social contagion fueled. Without protection from TPTB the Gender Cult will be reminded what the majority really think of deviants who can't keep their fetishes behind closed doors and want to get at our kids.

There's a lot of fucked up things about the medical system as is, but the way the Gender Cult has exploded over the past few years its one of the most serious. Anything that has the potential to fix it is a good thing.

 

[Berserker Armor]

I have seen a few people talk about their own experiences here and I just wanna talk about it too. I have no other outlet as it causes a good bulk of people to freak out. I have vaguely spoken about it and actually got blocked by a few people for it on social media. Told I was siding with TERFs..
it may make me a social outcast.

I have silently started a detransition. Did the HRT thing. It was awful. Felt sick all the time. Shouldn’t have been doing it anyway, I have a heart condition but was “medically cleared”. Was just told that I was despite no cardiology work up or cardiologist spoken to. Was actually told i wouldn’t need to. In my 19 year old foolishness I went ahead with it. Biggest mistake. They throw these at people. Even clinics for transgender teens. I was at one for nearly 10 years. They even tried to convince my mom to let me do it earlier (thank god she didn’t). I have a couple other health issues. If I didn’t start allowing myself to question things. I prob would have made myself worse.

I was brought into this whole trans bullshit pretty early before it escalated to the state it is in today. There were small numbers of “us” and then suddenly everyone was us. Had gay friends transition. Not because they were girls. That was the beginning for me. More “transwomen” being aggressive torwards me. Trans”men” enabling each other’s mental health issues. Pointing the finger at each other. Trans”women” telling trans”men” and “enbies” they were superior because they were also women. Trans”women” preying on cis women, trans”men” and “enbies” sexually. A friend of a friend being raped by one and being afraid to come out about it cuz he’s a “woman”
Slowly but surely it was beginning than I started using this stupid farming website. Ball kept rolling.

I used it to cope with a lot of bull shit that happened to me, a life of feeling as if I had no control over my body due to chronic health issues, my own insecurities regarding being a gender nonconforming woman and rebellion against my family. It was all a cope. To cope with myself.
You aren’t allowed to be a masculine woman. Tomboys don’t exist anymore.
Every butch lesbian who hasn’t eaten the trans poison in this day and age deserves a fricking medal.
It’s okay to not like your chest as a woman. Dont gotta chop it off.
It’s okay to be insecure as a woman.
If you are just doing it to be a man then what the fuck. Just what the fuck.

I feel horrible for my ex friends who transitioned as a way to cope with being gay. They were more accepted by their surroundings because they weren’t gay anymore but a woman AND LESBIAN so it’s more okay. I don’t get it but whatever.

I would like thank kiwi and lolcow.farm a lot of the fuel to the fire. Confirming so so so many thoughts I was having that I was told were wrong.
*insert am hole.png here*

also totally willing to answer any questions regarding experiences I have had. I got so much shit to talk and not sure where to begin.

 

[LimeRikki]

also totally willing to answer any questions regarding experiences I have had.

1. Thank you for sharing your experience here. I know a lot of people venture this site and I imagine they're going to be some lurkers or people without an account who read this, and your story is going to make a difference.

2. Gotta ask, did you use Tumblr, and if so how would you say it influenced your decision to transition?

3. Do you have any plans for ever fully coming out as a detrans person or are you just going to be stealth detransitioner?

4. Did you undergo any other procedures beyond hormones? And if so how did those affect you physically and mentally?

5. How would you describe the differences in your social life pre-transition, post transition, and detransion?

I could go on but I don't wanna overwhelm you. Thank you again!

 

[Berserker Armor]

1. Thank you for sharing your experience here. I know a lot of people venture this site and I imagine they're going to be some lurkers or people without an account who read this, and your story is going to make a difference.

I hope so. I was still in this part of my life when I joined. Told myself I truly was trans and everyone else was just crazy. Over time with some self exploring and a pretty eye opening personal conflict. I have only recently done it. I hope people do it more before they go too far. The lgbt community says they are all about questioning your identity and accepting yourself. Unless you betray them in this way.

2. Gotta ask, did you use Tumblr, and if so how would you say it influenced your decision to transition?

I actually start using tumblr during it. I was 13 and it was the way to connect with others like me then. Over time it added on the pressure. Add in evolving to Twitter, even more pressure. I stopped caring at one point. Realizing most of these people don’t know me. Why does it matter? I still use tumblr because it’s easier to block out the bs than Twitter. I follow more radfem blogs and block a lot of “terfs dni” people lol

3. Do you have any plans for ever fully coming out as a detrans person or are you just going to be stealth detransitioner?

I may go stealth. My family is one of the “we don’t give a fuck just don’t get the cops called” sort of family. Have a good bit of gay family members. So I was accepted easily. I will likely continue to use the pronouns as the pronouns don’t matter to me. Family mainly refer to third in person. My closest friends use whatever they choose and I let them. They know my changed views on things + are very supportive. Others I will just keep the factor to myself. I do plan on using the name I choose even if I go public. My birth name and I have a weird relationship. It luckily can be changed into a girls name if I do.

4. Did you undergo any other procedures beyond hormones? And if so how did those affect you physically and mentally?

Thank GOD I didn’t. I am a cursed large busted woman and it’s sort of the dysphoria towards my chest. It started in puberty cuz I knew i wouldn’t escape my genetics.. and I didn’t. I wanted top more than bottom. I knew that bottom surgery wasn’t all that.

5. How would you describe the differences in your social life pre-transition, post transition, and detransion?

Uhhh I wasn’t the most social person and still am not. I was the definition of chronically online from an early age. Also am VERY socially awkward.
Pre transition: not a lot of friends. Nervous around people.
Post transition: I had friends but they were not afraid to turn on me in a moments notice if I had a wrong opinion or feeling. nervous about being open with my friends. Felt on edge. lots of grooming attempts. Hostility from AGPs. Them being sexual and weird towards me. The works. Barely did much with them tbh. Everyone was too busy posting online. At the end of it all, had a falling out with someone close to me. It was all about something else then they brought up the gender thing. It hit me. You know what, I am lying to myself. You are right. I actually don’t even care about this shit. Went on a serious identity pilgrimage.
Now: I have a better group of friends. Am able to talk about things with them. More truthful about myself. Have worked on a mod with them and helped with various things they are working on. Actually do things. Still speak to some old friends here and there but at an arms length.

It’s all a sham and not about being your true self, folks.

I could go on but I don't wanna overwhelm you. Thank you again!

Feel free to dm if you wish. There’s some stuff that feels weird to speak about directly on a thread lol

 

[LimeRikki]

It’s all a sham and not about being your true self, folks.

On top of this, do you have any other messages for people who are considering detransition?

Also I appreciate the offer about the dms. Part of the reason I'm asking these questions is because I want them to be publicly available so that other people who could benefit from this information can benefit!

From what I've read the detrans community really seems to struggle with finding genuine support. As strange as this may sound, I think this silly fruit harvesting forum can potentially be a place where detrans people can get information to support one another.

 

[Berserker Armor]

On top of this, do you have any other messages for people who are considering detransition?

Tbh. The biggest one is that it’s okay to change your mind. It’s okay to realize you fucked up.

And to the pooners: those straight men are fucking you because they see you as a woman. They aren’t bi in any way. Same with transwomen. Sorry. Truth hurts.

I wish there was more of a testimonial site for detransitioners. Anon so people could submit their thoughts and stories. Yet it would be raided and ~ master trolled ~ by idiots so.
If it’s allowed I think a thread here wouldn’t hurt. Here in beauty parlor or off topic? Idk. It may get too personal in my eyes

 

[Snack Cracker]

Tbh. The biggest one is that it’s okay to change your mind. It’s okay to realize you fucked up.

And to the pooners: those straight men are fucking you because they see you as a woman. They aren’t bi in any way. Same with transwomen. Sorry. Truth hurts.

I wish there was more of a testimonial site for detransitioners. Anon so people could submit their thoughts and stories. Yet it would be raided and ~ master trolled ~ by idiots so.
If it’s allowed I think a thread here wouldn’t hurt. Here in beauty parlor or off topic? Idk. It may get too personal in my eyes

There needs to be a place where de transitioners can talk freely and offer advice without being screamed down as transphobic and banned.

Free speech isn’t a problem here.

 

[An Awful Person]

There's a lot more women pooning out and also a lot of them desisting. Youtube has tons of video of detransitioners venting and its mostly females. They are really growing as its own demographic

Its probably easier for a woman to come back to a normal life if they haven't been surgically mangled. I mean, a woman can stop dressing like a man and be accepted back by society as if its just a phase like being goth or emo. A man who went some period of time crossdressing in public will always be seen as a sex freak and a faggot trasvestite and they'll hardly get much love back from their community or either political faction after desisting, the pictures will always be get passed around as a joke, like that ugly guy who detransitioned but his face in drag keeps showing up in cringe compilations years after the fact.

Ironically I think you see less MTF detransitioners because men are more likely to double down than admit they made a mistake.

 

[Jacques1194]

also totally willing to answer any questions regarding experiences I have had. I got so much shit to talk and not sure where to begin.

1)What do you have to say to TRAs who insist detrans people only detransition because of either lack of acceptance or peer pressure? 2) When you were into the whole trans thing did you really believe that you could be a man if you did get surgery and took testosterone, and if so why do so many trans people think that they'll be the opposite gender if they remove healthy organs and pump themselves full of drugs that could kill them?

 

[Berserker Armor]

1)What do you have to say to TRAs who insist detrans people only detransition because of either lack of acceptance or peer pressure?

I think it’s fucking bull. When honestly it’s quite the opposite. You see people insisting to others that they are transgender whenever they express insecurity with your bodies and especially for women having a female body. Society still unfortunately thinks girls should look at a certain way. Get some insecure teenaged girls on the internet and soon being transgender or enby will eat them all.
I was pretty accepted by people. I was to an extent peer pressured while identifying that way. I will take their uno reverse card and reverse it right back. They have nothing else they can play.

2) When you were into the whole trans thing did you really believe that you could be a man if you did get surgery and took testosterone, and if so why do so many trans people think that they'll be the opposite gender if they remove healthy organs and pump themselves full of drugs that could kill them?

You know. I can’t even fully answer that as it’s something I am still trying to understand. Yes but no. I knew the hormones could damage my body. It stemmed wholly from not caring about myself. yet also falling for gender cult ideals. Tbh I see for some people transitioning as a form of self harm.
Now for other people. They are conned into believing it will solve their problem. Doctors , therapists and other trans people. They all tell each other it’s totally okay. Forget the repercussions. It will make you a man/woman!
Personally I can say for a lot of FTMs it is either self harm or with their sexual abuse history, making themselves undesirable. Think about it like how a lot of women who overeat and get up to 600 lbs often have history of insecurities and abuse.
Some are also brats who wanna be special. That too.

 

[Stupid Sexy Flanders]

Another detransitioner suing:

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-12671149/american-academy-pediatrics-transgender-detransition-lawsuit-isabelle-ayala.html

 

[Doktor Grimm]

Welcome to the other side @Berserker Armor. I'm in a similar boat to you - had major body image issues as a teen, went through a "true trans" phase, then left my online bubble and realised what I was actually doing to myself. There really isn't a better place to discuss detransition than KF, unless you want to post on r/detrans and be at the mercy of Reddit mods.

It's tough, because I too am still holding onto a lot of shit from my trans phase which feels a little too personal for this thread, yet I don't feel like a detrans confessional site would last very long in the current online climate. Maybe in a few years. Perhaps for now it'd be helpful for one of us to start a Detransitioner General thread in the off topic board? One that's explicitly for detrans Kiwis to post in as opposed to sharing other people's stories. I don't know how active it'd be, but our numbers are only going to grow over time.

Anyway, best of luck on your journey. It's a difficult path, but one well worth travelling.

 

[MCRonald]

I too wouldn't mind having a thread dedicated for Detrans Kiwis.
I myself am Detrans, and even now I find it difficult to talk about, fear of maybe letting too much information out and having this routed back to me IRL.
Which is honestly, the saddest thing I can say, I mean fucking hell.
I'm forced to keep quiet about the shit that I went through, never having a proper place to vent it out or anything like that, for the fear of having people IRL find out and being chastised by my own family for being Anti-Trans.

Here is a tl;dr on my story.
I got groomed when I was a teenager, Trannies helped me Voice Train, Trannies paid for HRT, gave me sites to access HRT, (not the DIY shit for the record) and some even gave me HRT in person.
Went through this for 2 years, 1 year actually took hormones.
All this because I had Body Dysmorphia, not Dysphoria, and I was insecure about being into Guys.
The three reasons why I "woke up" are, (btw this 3 reasons happened all at once)
1. I was watching a TV show and I was relating to the guys WAY more and had the thought "Man I wish I was just like them", and then....
2. I realised I looked just like them (aka I was finally proud of my body), and
3. I liked my voice (at the time I was doing voice training but I never hated my voice, if anything I hated voice trainning cause it was annoying and dumb)

Err...yeah so much for tl;dr, but that is the major beats condensed, but there is a lot of backstory and context missing.
This shit sticks with you, even now this whole entire situation has sent ripples throughout my life, I can still feel that shit today, and sadly I'll never be able to forget about it completely.
Once I woke up, it took me years to get to terms with my sexuality, when it should have been done 7 years prior, and even now I struggle really hard.

Trannies themselves are parasites, but especially so in being Detrans.
Even getting out of it, and going back to who you actually are, the scar tissue of it all remains, you'll never be able to forget the experience you went through.
Even now, I sometimes lie in bed trying to sleep, and it all comes running back, the entire experience, and now with the added bonus of Hindsight, of how everyone else felt and thought.
Added bonus of knowing I escaped death too, I would have killed myself, and I only realised this in the last few years.
And then you get the bonus points of living in this Society, sure you lot may know the fear of having a loved one troon out, but that's peering into the window of that hellhole.
You would be blissfully unaware of the experience they're about to go through....but Detrans? We know, and I swear I have nightmares and constant anxiety of my Family, of my friends, trooning out. And you can't say anything, even tho you went through it yourself.

 

[Berserker Armor]

I got groomed when I was a teenager, Trannies helped me Voice Train, Trannies paid for HRT, gave me sites to access HRT, (not the DIY shit for the record) and some even gave me HRT in person.
Went through this for 2 years, 1 year actually took hormones.

Sweet baby Christ.
I am glad you got out and are doing better.
I totally agree with you on calling it scar tissue. The downside is that it will never truly fade like a scar.

Perhaps for now it'd be helpful for one of us to start a Detransitioner General thread in the off topic board? One that's explicitly for detrans Kiwis to post in as opposed to sharing other people's stories. I don't know how active it'd be, but our numbers are only going to grow over time.

I think it’s a good idea (no sure how to really start it). Even if it’s an inactive for the most part I do think we will slowly see a surge.
I know there are tranny fuck heads who have accounts here, lurk or even post and think they can still laugh at these lolcows cuz they are “different”. They don’t realize that they are one step away from a lolcow being why they start to peak. Why? Cuz they secretly are no different.

Kinda relieved I got positive responses I was posting that as a Hail Mary cuz I couldn’t keep it to myself. Thanks guys. Being a humble chud of New Zealand’s department of agriculture isn’t so bad sometimes. Even if the department head is a drooling dog

 

[Doktor Grimm]

Seems we're in agreement then. I'm about to clock out for the night, but I'll write up a thread in the morning if nobody else beats me to it.

I've been pleasantly surprised by the reaction to some of my posts here. The people in this section of the forum are a pretty receptive bunch beneath all the shitposting.

 

[Corn Flakes]

Seems we're in agreement then. I'm about to clock out for the night, but I'll write up a thread in the morning if nobody else beats me to it.

I've been pleasantly surprised by the reaction to some of my posts here. The people in this section of the forum are a pretty receptive bunch beneath all the shitposting.

This place operates by the ancient rules of the internet. If you're not picking fights or shitting up the thread you're not likely to cop any abuse. Assuming you don't mind occasionally being called a faggot, anyway.

 

[Stupid Sexy Flanders]

Another day, another detranser suing: https://nationalpost.com/news/canada/michelle-zacchigna-ontario-detransitioner-sues-doctors

 

[Kumquat]

I'm not entirely sure where to post this, but I felt like sharing it anyways. Not exactly a detransitioner, since he never really started transitioning in the first place, but thanks to the attentive and vigilant practices of my fellow Kiwis, I managed to turn him away from the path of transition.

He's a guy in a group chat I'm in online. Young kid, only about 19, autistic but not severely so, pornsick, the whole drill. I didn't talk to him all that much beforehand, but I know he was a well-intentioned guy and kind of oblivious, and caught him in the general chat one day wondering aloud if he was trans and saying he thought it'd be fun to be a girl. Then other fuckers in the group (who are now banned, thank Christ) starting telling him about transitioning, he mentioned an interest in "bottom surgery," and I just had to step in.

I pulled him aside, went to private messages and just said "don't do it, man." Was gentle but firm, and I gave him countless articles, pictures, and posts I found from the SRS horrors thread here. Showed him all the gruesome details. I basically told him "you can't do these treatments, man, they will fuck you up for life, and the trans crowd will never tell you this."

He actually fucking listened, to my surprise. Told me he was never even aware of that side of it, thanked me for showing it to him, and now we end up talking a lot more frequently. He's not a kid, but he's young and autistic enough to get easily sucked in to this shit. I just want to thank the folks here for gathering all of this stuff. I don't know if he'll ever regain interest in it, but for the moment, I managed to turn him away. They're not all lost causes. Most people just genuinely do not know.