Am I being reasonable? (
self.FTMOver30)
submitted 7 hours ago by
GrumpySleepyNope
Hey all! I would love some advice on this, I've brought it up with some cis friends and they all seem a bit hesitant to voice their opinions, (or maybe don't have a solid opinion, or maybe think I'm being unreasonable about this, not sure.) Anyway - my only brother is getting married and he's asked friends to be his groomsmen - which is obviously fine, but I can't help but feel really hurt that he didn't ask me.
He's always been supportive and chill about my transition, and I thought we were close, (and I guess all my friends have always asked their siblings to be a part of their grooms/bridal parties) so I'm a bit surprised he didn't think of asking me, especially as it would have been so affirming.
I admitted to my Mum how I was feeling and she suggested talking to him about it...but also, if he only asks me cause I asked, then it doesn't really mean anything anymore?
And I think I'd spend the whole day thinking that he only asked out of a sense of obligation.
I would love honest opinions on whether or not this seems like a reasonable thing to feel sad about - if anyone else would feel the same, or has been through this?
Thanks
