Although these things bring me joy and meaning, I don't see them as being attractive or anything a woman would care about, so I didn't count them in the question. The advice anyone would give me would not make me creatively skilled in a way a woman would want nor make the things that make me happy attractive to a partner. Thank you for trying though.
Thanks for the thoughtful reply.
I go back to your first comment, which suggested that you don't have anything you enjoy and you wondered if that was the same for any significant number of women in your dating-range. First - glad to hear you do have interests. Second (and the expected response is, "but that's not the point," which I get, but anyway) - keep pursuing stuff you like, with or without a "person.". Sounding like you're selling yourself short to describe yourself as just work and no interests/hobbies, but I understand now you mean, "...that women will like/be intrigued by." And I would suggest that women (people) enjoy/are interested by people who have stuff in their lives, whether or not they share those interests, if that person is also genuine, passably self-assured, and has their shit fairly together.
If you perceive activites/interests as ways to connect with women (they can be), perhaps pick one up (add, not replace) that is more "relatable" or - even better - social. I once taught someone (not an historically athletic person) the basics of tennis (we were both late 30s/he may have been early 40s). He was godawful goofy the first time out, but he took to it and pursued it with zeal - I mean, joined a club/league, hired a coach, went to crazy lengths to learn to play well. Ended up playing hardcore competitively as a hobby for several years (way beyond my level, lol) until health matters got in the way. But going full-bore insane on something aside, just getting involvedled to a vastly increased social circle. He made great friends and had good opportunities to meet women (friends and dating opportunities, both). Did he meet women immediately? Idk for sure (probably could have/did more than he shared with me), but he sure did eventually - he put a lot of time into it, and it's a pretty social activity if one wants. Over time "tennis people" (who all had other dimensions to their lives, ofc) became a huge element of his social life. Point is that there are a lot of activities that are/can be social and that you don't have to have done them for decades or as a teen to learn/enjoy as an adult. It could be tennis, or bowling, or yoga in the park in early mornings. So taking up something that might be foreign to you but puts you around others is one way to meet people. And though there might be relatively few women in a woodworking course or at some studio for it..there could be. Or if you have an option to go into work some days, you could end up doing some after-work socializing that could maybe lead to new acquaintances.
Tl; dr: wfh + all solitary activities does make it hard to meet people. Sounds like it's less an issue of trying to calibrate interests to be "attractive" and more like needing to be out in the world more.
Maybe! But I do think that wfh 100% + solitary time 100%, while cozy, isn't always the best for a well-rounded life, including for seeking companionship, dating, and love.
I feel fulfilled when I know what a person wants and I do everything I can to create it. The best version of it. It doesn't matter how much time it takes or what I have to learn or do to make it. I want more than anything someone who understands that and gives me a challenge or a starting point. Someone who I can make happy through effort, and appreciates the effort I put in to make them happy.
This is very lovely and romantic (I mean that genuinely). Since you're male, I'm not going to remind you (bc you likely do it reflexively) that you need to be a whole and sturdy person, first and foremost (but just in case, I did actually just remind you :-) ).
Also I kind of have this fantasy about making them breakfast in bed one morning. I know I'll have made it when I do.
Maybe. That's a great experience. Might or might not mean everything when it happens, but I know what you mean. It's great to find someone you want to do for and who wants to do for you. There are women out there who would like to share that with you. They are unlikely to knock on your door out of nowhere, though, so put yourself out in the world.
