No shade to AnOminous but I see this all the time and I’m not sure I believe it. It just seems unnecessarily shitty, like more of an immature teenage girl thing than a woman thing. Am I just autistic or is this a real thing grown adults do?
It depends on the comment, the woman, and the situation. My mom is incredibly no-nonsense, and very...un-womanly? Almost like a "not like other girls" situation, but that's not the point. The point is, if you looked ugly, or did something my mom didn't like, she would tell you.
But, my aunts and mother-in-law, who are more feminine, have done that. They've given a compliment, or tacit endorsement, and then laughed about it when the other person wasn't looking/noticing. My mom would just avoid talking about it, but the other women in my life would engage.
It's not that my mom would agree with whatever she was complimenting or anything. It's just she was, I don't know, autistic or something and couldn't bring herself to lie? It's weird.
On the same note, what life skills should moms teach their kids?
Like the question earlier in the thread about "what can men do to be sexy?", what is a skill, or lifestyle thing, that a mom should model for their kids?
My mom's autism has left me very asocial, and I'm trying to piece together what female wisdom I'm lacking.