If you’re going to use language like that when you engage with me in particular, then I just won’t keep spilling my portion the tea
The positives I can state

he was very nice to me when I was staying with he and his parents and his parents were nice to me, too. Although my first red flag or rather the 12th red flag should’ve been him warning me not to get upset if I heard the N word (I think everyone was careful not to use such language at least around me)…….. Anyway…..…… he paid for my flights from London to the US and all my expenses when I was with him but - the reason I’m commenting is - I’ve been seeing all this lovey-dovey stuff for the last 4 1/2 years and he trampled through my life for no reason and I was nothing but nice to him. Do you know that he left me at the airport in Vermont, he didn’t even see me off, my flight got cancelled - I sent him a message, he didn’t even come back to get me he knew I was going to drive 180 miles with a complete stranger to Boston and I sat in the car with this (turned out to be lovely) man from Germany who also needed to get to Boston for his connecting flight. I was on edge and I was sat right by the door in case I needed to jump out of the car . He likes to market himself as his traditional protective guy but he should’ve got back in the car and picked me up from the airport and worked out a way that I could get to Boston for my next flight instead of leaving me to drive with a complete stranger for 180 miles.
And I was never physically attracted to him at all but he is obviously very intelligent so I liked his intelligence and so I overlooked the aesthetics