@Friend of Dorothy Parker Yeah, I went for a walk the first time this year today. And it shocked me how fucking paranoid and anxious I am. Whenever I have to walk by someone it's that kind of "oh shit, fuck no" moment. I was sitting down on the stairs and three dudes walked by me, I start doing shit like checking my phone, wiping off my screen, to look like I'm normal/don't care. Even tho I'm terrified one of them is gonna come up behind me, strangle me, or beat the shit out of me/steal from me. Even though I'm armed it doesn't really help quell the paranoia/fear of humans outside my family. I constantly feel like Prey being surrounded by predators. Constantly judging exits, how quickly I can draw a weapon, how many people are there. ETC. It's no way to live and I legit think I have some paranoid schizo shit going on because I'm starting to see multiple identical looking people walking around.
I'm glad you went for a walk, even if it wasn't always comfortable for you. Being uncomfortable is okay. Good sometimes, even.
And again, the gap between your awareness of seriously disordered and fearful thought-patterns and your unwillingness to do anything about it is obvious to you, me, and everyone else. Do you like it? I mean, you don't sound content. But yet.
Kind of confused. Guy I mildly like at work confessed that he's somewhat intimidated of talking to girls. He's no soy cuck or anything, just a normal person who has had relationships, so I just can't gather what's so abnormal about talking to a girl as opposed to a guy about non-intimate stuff. Our workplace is male-dominated but doesn't treat women ill, so it's possibly not about being caught in an accusation (not that my country in general has workplaces with women crying foul without basis).
Kind of confused. Guy I mildly like at work confessed that he's somewhat intimidated of talking to girls. He's no soy cuck or anything, just a normal person who has had relationships, so I just can't gather what's so abnormal about talking to a girl as opposed to a guy about non-intimate stuff. Our workplace is male-dominated but doesn't treat women ill, so it's possibly not about being caught in an accusation (not that my country in general has workplaces with women crying foul without basis).
Dudes who are intimidated by talking to women generally are because they’re scared they’ll fuck up and come across as autistic, creepy or retarded. They think any wrong move will ruin a woman’s perception of them. Let the guy feel more relaxed and comfortable around you so he isn’t as uptight and comes out of his shell a bit more.
Very retarded question, but is it possible to fix my inability to speak in a compassionate way? I find any kind of sweet-talk incredibly cringy and repulsive, in a feeling similar to rereading my old messages on vk (russian facebook doppleganger). It was slightly frustrating when girls claimed that I do not love them while on the inside I really do, I am just unable to express it with words that won't be cancer-inducing, sounding like something out of those retarded reddits that obsess over "niceguys" or "neckbeards".
Dudes who are intimidated by talking to women generally are because they’re scared they’ll fuck up and come across as autistic, creepy or retarded. They think any wrong move will ruin a woman’s perception of them. Let the guy feel more relaxed and comfortable around you so he isn’t as uptight and comes out of his shell a bit more.
Any wrong move will ruin her perception of you no matter what because human mind in general is insane, it's ill, and the majority of people don't exactly bother to use it.
Reason for a girl dumping or loving a man might quite literally be the way he adresses a fucking waiter. A man should stop giving a fuck about it all and have fun, make her laugh and feel comfortable around you. The girl I lost my v-card with liked me because i'm "fucking crazy" aka "ебанутый" in Russian. All human interaction in general is unpredictable shit unless you know a person.
Kind of confused. Guy I mildly like at work confessed that he's somewhat intimidated of talking to girls. He's no soy cuck or anything, just a normal person who has had relationships, so I just can't gather what's so abnormal about talking to a girl as opposed to a guy about non-intimate stuff. Our workplace is male-dominated but doesn't treat women ill, so it's possibly not about being caught in an accusation (not that my country in general has workplaces with women crying foul without basis).
Dudes who are intimidated by talking to women generally are because they’re scared they’ll fuck up and come across as autistic, creepy or retarded. They think any wrong move will ruin a woman’s perception of them. Let the guy feel more relaxed and comfortable around you so he isn’t as uptight and comes out of his shell a bit more.
It's also because misreading signals and overstepping boundaries has serious social consequences as a man, especially in the workplace. Ten waves of feminism have vilified practically everything and until you deprogram from that it's just not worth the risk of being labeled a literal rapist.
Sorry to say but you have zero chance at work, unless it's a shit job he doesn't mind losing he's not going to risk it, if you want any kind of intimacy get together outside the workplace for non-work reasons.
We keep telling you guys this but you don't listen, so I'll say it again: Way more of what women do is intra-sex competition than it is to attract men.
Is some of why women use filters to make men think they're that cute and get attention? Yes.
More of it is for themselves and for other women.
Example:
If Bebe looks super cute with that filter, and Wendy posts a photo without a filter, then Wendy, even at her best, won't look at cute as Bebe, and it will almost be as if Wendy isn't even putting effort in.
If Bebe is wearing makeup, and shooting her photos well, and using a filter for the greatest effect, then that signals effort and skill to other women.
Now if Charlotte comes along, and has better clothes, a better body, shoots her photos just as well as Bebe, and uses the filter, she'll look even better. This is because she'll have shown she's more disciplined and/or wealthy because of her body, more skilled in both her fashion and makeup than Bebe, and then because she's using the same filter they can be compared directly.
If a woman posts unfiltered photos of herself on social media, she may just not be playing that game. She may just be confident enough in herself not to care, or just be someone who doesn't give a fuck about that whole world. HOWEVER, if you're talking about a socially-awkward teenager who wants to be one of those girls, then she's going to be playing that stupid game, and she'll use the filters to try to raise her "score" in any way she can because she might not have the advantages of looks, money, or skill (yet).
I'm too old for the Instagram shit, but even I've run into this. Back in high school I had a couple friends tell me things like "Wearing makeup properly is a sign your mom raised you well" and that wearing it reflected "putting in an effort" so people would take you more seriously.
It's entirely possible to not wear makeup by choice, but you guys have no idea how many women will just assume you must not know how if you don't wear it (or that you're too poor to afford it.)