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Gen Z paralyzed with fear of turning 30, becoming ‘unattractive hags’: ‘Life might as well end at 22’​

Thirty, flirty and thriving is apparently no longer the holy grail for teens and twenty-somethings online. Those born between 1997 and 2013 are expressing grim concerns about hitting the big 3-0 — a milestone that some of these youngsters fear will immediately zap them of their sexiness, stamina and overall value.

“In just the past few days, I have seen multiple Gen Zs (the vast majority women) on various platforms, including Reddit and Instagram, express a desire to unalive in their 30s or when they reach 40 because they cannot handle the fact that they will age [and] ‘become unattractive’ [or] ‘become hags,’” an alarmed whistleblower recently penned to Reddit’s PSA thread.

“Some [have] even expressed not bothering with healthy eating habits, saving money or planning on having careers because they feel so strongly about this,” continued the scandalmonger — presumably a member of the Gen Z demographic.

“I don’t think this is necessarily our fault,” the insider continued. “But I do see (and recognize in myself) a fear of aging, and instead of [there being a psychological and social movement] to combat this, we simply turn to consumerism to try and ‘fix the problem.’”
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The Reddit ranter went on to refer to the recent uptick in anti-aging products and trends — such as getting “baby Botox” and covering themselves in face tape — that have been virally adopted by beauty buffs as young as age 10 who hope to ward off wrinkles, lines and sags.

The movement to remain forever young is being charged by both folks in their early twenties and teenyboppers on TikTok.

On the buzzy app, hashtags such as #AntiAging, with over 8 billion views, and #SephoraKids — a stamp with nearly 222 million views used by makeup lovers to gripe about the influx of elementary schoolers flocking to cosmetics shops for skin rejuvenators and collagen boosters — are at all-time trending highs.

“We need to do better, for ourselves and for younger generations,” the anonymous mouthpiece implored on Reddit. “Skincare should be something we do to prevent cancer and to make us feel good, not another tool to try [to] fit into a patriarchal mold.”

And the folks of all ages eagerly agreed that the panic of getting older is getting out of hand.

“So much of my generation basically views life after college as one long, pointless, depressing downward slide toward a nursing home and death,” wrote a fellow Gen Zer. “In the minds of many young people, life might as well end at 22 because what even comes after? Working nonstop? Taxes? Wrinkles and health issues? Losing your hair and your friend network and your free time? It’s a very dark and reductionist worldview, but it is definitely pervasive among Gen Z.”

A handful of millennials, Gen Xers and boomers blamed the internet for inciting the aging phobia.

“I work with some Gen Zs and they had a very warped, depressing view on what it’s like to be in your 30s before they met me and the other millennials at my work…I think social media has really screwed with our heads,” a commentator chimed.

“People glorify being in your 20s way too much. Ultimately it’s just one decade and it doesn’t last long,” wrote another.

“This feels more like a quarter-life crisis about mortality and facing a new part of your life…I freaked out about that too when I neared 25 but I didn’t have as pervasive a social media culture drumming that into me,” said an equally miffed user.

“I feel like aging to Gen Z is what ‘being fat’ was to millennials. Remember how ruthless the media [and] everyone was about that?,” another noted.

However, for some thirty-year-olds-to-be, their worries about becoming a decade older aren’t rooted in angst around losing their looks. Instead, they feel intimidated by the pressures of adulthood.

“Here’s why I’m so scared to turn 30 this year,” confessed NYC influencer Nicole Ashely to a TikTok audience of over 29,000.

“I think I grew up thinking that before 30 I had to have my sh—t together. I had to have a great job, the most perfect relationship children — I had to have it all together.”

“And that’s honestly just not the case.”

A fellow Gen Z named Gabriela echoed those sentiments in a separate post, writing in the closed captions: “I’m 29 The fear of turning 30 is getting to me. I have no kids. I feel like I’m running out of time. I still don’t have my life figured out. I’m missing something.”

But ladies online who’ve already reached age 30 and beyond are urging their successors not to freak out.

“I’m in my mid 30s…I stress about my birthday every year,” admitted NYC beauty influencer Ivanka Dekojing in a confessional clip. “Like, ‘Oh my god, another year older. I should be at this place in life — I don’t have a house yet or kids.’”

“But…It is a privilege to live another year,” she said. “It is a privilege to live another day and it is a privilege to be alive.”

“Life is precious.”
 
Well, that's the problem. Its like going to a mental ward and saying, "Damn, many of these people are mentally deranged." No shit.
Average Zoomers in their 20's are just normal people, working and some are having families. Only these Online retards and OnlyFans whores care about hitting 30 this much.
Honestly having the mindset of “Oh I’m too old and it’s too late” is a dumb mindset to have. Yes, the human brain on average matures at age 25. Still doesn’t change the fact that people can develop skills and even grow despite the human brain completely matured.

I honestly do think Reddit, Tumblr, Twitter, any sort of social medias or forums have created this unhealthy mindset. I do understand the whole corporate mindset of not being desirable or becoming harder to be hired. It’s an absolute travesty that many corpos would do this and create an unsustainable environment for both the young and the old.​
 
Man, I don’t mean to power level, but as someone who just hit 30 not too long ago, this makes me wonder if it’s too late for me, as I don’t exactly have what would be considered a well-paying job, or even a bachelor’s degree.
Maybe? You can still do a lot of things with your life and even join the military and achieve high rank if you're so inclined. 30 isn't really the end of your life expectancy in regards to that. That said, it's certainly the upper limit on the age where you can really turn things around for sure and 35 onwards is definitely getting to the point of no return.
 
I'm surprised at Redditors feeling this way. Have you seen the average Redditor? They don't have any looks to lose. I would've thought they'd have already come to terms with being ugly when they were much younger, and focused on other things in their lives instead.
Man, I don’t mean to power level, but as someone who just hit 30 not too long ago, this makes me wonder if it’s too late for me, as I don’t exactly have what would be considered a well-paying job, or even a bachelor’s degree.
It's no reason not to try doing something different, though. What's the alternative: just crawl into a hole and wait to die? Maybe it'll be more difficult to change things, but you also have more life experience and maturity, so you'll bring that to whatever you try.
 
Honestly having the mindset of “Oh I’m too old and it’s too late” is a dumb mindset to have. Yes, the human brain on average matures at age 25. Still doesn’t change the fact that people can develop skills and even grow despite the human brain completely matured.
It's also worth remembering that some people's greatest accomplishments happened late in life. Off the top of my head, Tolkien was in his 50s or something when he wrote Lord of the Rings.

Point being, don't stop until you're dead. And considering I've heard stories of people channeling dead artists, heck... maybe even death doesn't have to stop you.
 
It's also worth remembering that some people's greatest accomplishments happened late in life. Off the top of my head, Tolkien was in his 50s or something when he wrote Lord of the Rings.

Point being, don't stop until you're dead. And considering I've heard stories of people channeling dead artists, heck... maybe even death doesn't have to stop you.
Those who succeed early in life tend to suck more later on in life.
I’ve got about five years then counting this one. I hope I can make it by then.

Actually learning to drive is a start. Yes, I am that much of a loser.
Never give up fren, I’ve known a person who got their drivers license in their late 40’s
 
Thirty, flirty and thriving is apparently no longer the holy grail for teens and twenty-somethings online.
Ah, a couple decades of watching older women go through the process and lie to the rest of us about it, will do that to a generation. As it turns out, the lesser sex isn't as flexible as they claimed to be.

“Skincare should be something we do to prevent cancer and to make us feel good, not another tool to try [to] fit into a patriarchal mold.”
And right here is part of the problem. You don't do skincare to prevent cancer, or feel good. You do it to look attractive. Stop acting like appealing to the "patriarchy" is the worst thing in the world.

But ladies online who’ve already reached age 30 and beyond are urging their successors not to freak out.
Oh, the siren call of the empowered 30-year-old woman. Oh, how many a young girl thrown her life away for that dreadful call.
 
This new trend might seem stupid and prissy but it actually signals something potentially encouraging. People used to blow things off for much of their life and feel ok with doing so, reasoning that they could always just begin again. Stuff where people would say "40 is the new 30" and "men age like wine" and other stuff would proliferate and cause people to waste their youth and potential. That's not to say that you can't find a fulfilling life when you're older but the reality is that it gets harder after a certain age and that reality is hitting people sooner than it did in the past. I think we're seeing a recognition of said truth and positive life outcomes will come from it.
I don’t think so. I’m a millennial and I saw this exact same shit a decade ago. I remember there was a brief moment there was an attempt at a Xillennial/Generation Y thing to split the millennials who were in their 30s and those still in their 20s by those who refused to believe there was even life after 25. They even coined the term quarter life crisis because millennials were getting into their late 20s and they weren’t rich celebrities yet. I hate to spoil it for you but millennials didn’t learn a damn thing and the oldest bunch of millennials are on the wrong side of middle age. No lessons learned, just gigantic egos that never got stroked enough to their liking, and now zoomers are experiencing the same thing millennials did in 2012.
 
Reading between the lines, it’s not the loss of skin elasticity or expending waistline that they really fear, is loss of relevance. When you’ve spent your whole adolescence telling older people how terrible and ignorant they are while, perversely, they blow smoke up your ass about how ‘engaged’, ‘progressive’ and ‘switched on’ you are, of course you’re going to fear becoming that which you‘ve been encouraged to despise,
Tbh, if you’re so retarded that you actually believed that being young made you special, worth listening to, and therefore the 2nd law of thermodynamics didn’t apply to you, you deserve every nanosecond of your crippling existential crisis. You should seriously consider Carousel, save us some oxygen.
 
I don’t think so. I’m a millennial and I saw this exact same shit a decade ago. I remember there was a brief moment there was an attempt at a Xillennial/Generation Y thing to split the millennials who were in their 30s and those still in their 20s by those who refused to believe there was even life after 25. They even coined the term quarter life crisis because millennials were getting into their late 20s and they weren’t rich celebrities yet. I hate to spoil it for you but millennials didn’t learn a damn thing and the oldest bunch of millennials are on the wrong side of middle age. No lessons learned, just gigantic egos that never got stroked enough to their liking, and now zoomers are experiencing the same thing millennials did in 2012.
Yeah, it’s always just been a lot of cope the ‘life begins at 30’ kind of platitudes, the sort of thing you’d see on a birthday card

I don't think there’s no hope though, a lot of the time it’s either people looking for love in the wrong places or they have too high standards, take CWC for example, him previously ruling out autistic women while at the same time wanting to date an adult woman who’s into Sonic and Pokemon made his already futile love quest basically impossible.
 
On the one hand, they don't want to "fit into a patriarchal mold" but they still want to look pretty and young and appeal to men. You can't have it both ways. I'm sure it's pure coincidence that they want to look like porn stars or glamour models that straight men want to fuck. 🙄 "I do it for myself!" Yeah, sure you do. It's made you miserable and you wasted your time and money.
Either keep chasing artificial youth and don't whine about it and be honest about your motives, or have a life outside of narcissism and prioritise doing shit with your life instead. There's so much focus on what people's bodies look like and so little focus on what they can do. Take the hagpill and start giving a fuck about actual self-improvement instead.

I wonder if these girls ever had a grandma or aunty or teacher or old lady in their neighbourhood or anything. I loved hearing my grandma's war stories and learning her recipes, and talking to the old lady who ran the local library and knew lots of fun facts and where to find out more. Or grumpy tough old battleaxes on the bus who I could sit next to if I was alone and there were creepy guys around. Even when I was a edgy goth kid and thought I knew better than the grown-ups, my aunties taught me how to sew, and then my friends and I could customise our own outfits and accessories and things and have fun doing it.
Surely they must've had some cool old women in their lives that could've taught them some skills and shown them that it's not the end of the world being old.
Yeah, it’s always just been a lot of cope the ‘life begins at 30’ kind of platitudes, the sort of thing you’d see on a birthday card

I don't think there’s no hope though, a lot of the time it’s either people looking for love in the wrong places or they have too high standards, take CWC for example, him previously ruling out autistic women while at the same time wanting to date an adult woman who’s into Sonic and Pokemon made his already futile love quest basically impossible.
Nothing wrong with having high standards, but you yourself have to meet those standards, or some equivalent. If all you have to offer is youth and looks, you might be someone's side piece or a short term fling and then they trade you in for a younger model. It definitely helps if you're hot to attract people initially, but you need more than that to sustain a relationship long term.
 
Honestly having the mindset of “Oh I’m too old and it’s too late” is a dumb mindset to have.

A woman's reproductive system says otherwise.

I hate to spoil it for you but millennials didn’t learn a damn thing and the oldest bunch of millennials are on the wrong side of middle age. No lessons learned, just gigantic egos that never got stroked enough to their liking, and now zoomers are experiencing the same thing millennials did in 2012.

Yep. Lots of panicky, childless women in their late 30s and 40s these days. It turns out that Sex and the City was just a giant lie. Some Millennials and definitely Gen Z are too young to remember the Before Times, when a young woman getting married and starting a family was normal. Now we act like being young parents is some kind of death sentence, impress on young people that their top priorities need to revolve around living as childishly as possible for as long as possible...and ah, don't worry, things will work out when they're supposed to.

Except "the universe" is not watching out for you. If you're still single and childless 35, it's basically over for you, especially if you're a woman. Just start preparing for a life alone, because that's what you're getting.
 
A woman's reproductive system says otherwise.



Yep. Lots of panicky, childless women in their late 30s and 40s these days. It turns out that Sex and the City was just a giant lie. Some Millennials and definitely Gen Z are too young to remember the Before Times, when a young woman getting married and starting a family was normal. Now we act like being young parents is some kind of death sentence, impress on young people that their top priorities need to revolve around living as childishly as possible for as long as possible...and ah, don't worry, things will work out when they're supposed to.

Except "the universe" is not watching out for you. If you're still single and childless 35, it's basically over for you, especially if you're a woman. Just start preparing for a life alone, because that's what you're getting.
Part of the problem is there was a big drive - rightly - to reduce teenage pregnancy, but rather than jailing the paedos who knocked up underage girls in the fist place, the schools focused on scaring the shit out of kids and telling them that if they got pregnant (or got a girl pregnant) then their life was over.
Also parents are a lot more isolated in the West nowadays. It's incredibly difficult to raise kids on just one parent's salary, and there isn't the big network of extended family and neighbours around to help care for the kids and teach the new parents any more. It's like uncle Ted said, women's liberation was only encouraged up to the point where it benefits the system and makes more wagies, and then anything that actually helps families isn't as profitable in the short term so it's neglected.
 
You don't magically turn into a mountain had at 30 kiddos. Wear sunscreen, eat healthy foods and don't smoke, dink to excess or do drugs. Your youth will not last forever. But you can preserve your looks for longer if you take care of yourself. You're going to be "old" for a long time. Youth however is very fleeting. Get used to it and respect your body instead of stuffing it full of McD's and drugs.
 
Good. Maybe you should use that fear constructively and stop wasting your time chasing Chad and Tyrone and have an actual family. You won't, but you should.

Oh what's that? That's sexist? Good, die alone you ugly hag. Enjoy your 20 cats and dogs. I'm investing in Fancy Feast.
 
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