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StrangeArcticles
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15 hr. ago
People on here keep telling you the same thing and I'm not sure what you're hoping for apart from that honestly. You have very skewed ideas about what male and female traits and expressions actually are. Women are great. If you aren't one, no worries. But the ideas you have about womanhood and femininity are so off that you will have to work through those, whether you will transition in future or not. You need therapy. I'm not saying that to be mean or put you down, I'm saying that because right now you do not seem to be in a mental space that you could make good decisions from.
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YeahImaKittyKat
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15 hr. ago
What exactly is wrong with my statements?
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StrangeArcticles
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15 hr. ago
Read the comments under that last post about your "symptoms" again, people told you in great detail.
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YeahImaKittyKat
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15 hr. ago
People there got mad because I was talking about pretty much real manhood activities, interests etc., when they're used to the leftist worldview. (Although, Idk, maybe it's me being too harsh with these manly stereotypes and in reality it's better to value our differences and peculiarities, since they're what makes us individuals?)
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StrangeArcticles
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15 hr. ago
Dude, people got mad because your world view is toxic. Women are not lesser than. They aren't less rational, they don't have less leadership abilities, they are not weaker (all of that directly from your post btw). You are supposedly 14 years old and you're so deep down the toxic misogyny rabbit hole it's honestly terrifying. If you can't see your own worldview as deeply unhealthy, you need to get professional help to work out where you're getting all of that and how to grow beyond it. This worldview is not one where you'll find happiness and peace, no matter your gender.
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YeahImaKittyKat
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15 hr. ago
I never said that women are not rational or not having leadership abilities but that those are traits usually attributed to men. There's a huge difference and you shall not make me look this inadequate.
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StrangeArcticles
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15 hr. ago
The only people who attribute these traits exclusively to men are misogynists. That's the whole issue. You're in too deep to actually see how skewed your perspective is. That is why you need professional help. I hope you find it.
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JackT610
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15 hr. ago
Have a look at the gender dysphoria diagnostic criteria in the DSM 5 and ICD 11.
Gender roles and interests mean nothing. Deal with your misogyny. Think about how you want your body to look.
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YeahImaKittyKat
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15 hr. ago
Stop unreasonably calling me a mysogynist.
Wdym gender roles and interests mean nothing? It's literally what's coinciding with what's listed
here:
"A strong preference for the toys, games or
activities stereotypically used or engaged in by the other gender"
"A strong conviction that one has the
typical feelings and reactions of the other gender."
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JackT610
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14 hr. ago
You seem young. It can be easy to look down on women as lesser when the characterises they seem to share are the things we hate about ourselves. Perhaps looking at some perspectives of trans women might help you see that some people find empowerment and strength in womanhood.
Toy and other social preferences are used in diagnostic criteria but are fairly old school. Lots of kids play with what is desirable to play with- what is presented as good or desirable by friends, siblings or parents. Some children even mask there interests so they are not ridiculed.
Personality traits are not a consequence of sex but of socialisation. You would have emulated those traits from those you feel similar to, not because it is necessarily innate.
I suggest you read more about the history of trans people and how our diagnostic labels and criteria have shifted over time. There is no definitive criterion for being trans. There is no bench mark that will provide you certainty. The lack of a “why” is something you’ll have to become comfortable with.
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YeahImaKittyKat
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14 hr. ago
Understood
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16 hr. ago
Each person is different. One thing that made me pull the trigger was I didn’t want to die as a woman. Especially “dying with tits”. That’s what i said to myself quite a bit. I had thought about it for years but I always thought I was too old. Then decided it wasn’t after all. So here I am 3 years later with no regrets.
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15 hr. ago
The thing that finally madeit undeniable for me was actually (temporarily) detransitioning lol. I had come out to some friends and had been using a new name and pronouns for a couple months, which definitely felt better and I had been thinking i was trans for aaages before but then i had a crisis about existing in society as a trans person and how difficult my life would be so decided to detransition because i just thought i couldn't do it. Regretted it literally the day after and only lasted a week before I retransitioned because i was like "this is actually horrible how did i deal with this for 15 years? Im definitely trans
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16 hr. ago
T: 2009 |
2010
What is it that's making you feel unsure?
If you generally feel uncomfortable with your birth-assigned gender, but still have some traits/hobbies/interests/etc. that are stereotypically associated with that gender, that doesn't mean that you're "not really trans". Gender stereotypes are socially constructed, and your intrinsic feelings about what your gender is supposed to be are what actually matters, not how closely you fit those stereotypes.
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16 hr. ago
As someone who doesn't feel a lot of dysphoria, I guess I'll start with the fact that you don't need dysphoria to be trans. I struggled with this a lot when I first came out and "not being trans enough". I was worried because I couldn't remember wanting to be a boy when I was little or that I was born in the wrong body or whatever. What really helped me was determining that I still loved my female past but ultimately, I would be happier as a man.
I also looked at the euphoria I experienced (and still do). Body hair, facial hair, being called sir, wearing a plain tee with a flat chest. I slowly realized that if I was faking it, I wouldn't be feeling these feelings or continuously thinking "am I trans?"
And maybe you're trans but not fully leaned into a binary. I thought I was agender or nonbinary before settling on ftm. There are so many labels to explore and you don't even need to use one! You can just be you. Remember, you can do whatever you want, forever.
I hope this helps a little. I wish you nothing but the best in your journey
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YeahImaKittyKat
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16 hr. ago
In fact, I don’t suffer from the problem of not having enough factors indicating my transness but on the contrary, I have a bunch of them ((you can check them all if you want, in my penultimate post, (not counting this post) where they called me a misogynist lol))
