Personally I wouldn't want to know a women's body count if I had an interest in her. Ignorance can be bliss sometimes, and its not really my business. Would never tell my interest or partner mine either. Long as she wasn't a literal whore and loyal, I don't care too much.
Do we track it internally? Yeah, though the more... "social" women might not know exact numbers. The rationalizing or attempt to write some off I doubt are a thing. But do we talk about it? No. There's a lot of stigma, even if the number is low. And if a man is asking, it's probably not gonna work out. If you feel the need to pry into their past encounters, aside from making sure they're clean before having sex with them, there's an insecurity or other issue that's not great. Is there a number in your head that will give you a sigh of relief? One that's an immediate emergency brake? Does the number change how much or little you like them or see their value as a partner? Because the number exists before the question is asked, and you already liked her with it in her past.
The options are there no matter what, agonizing over it will prevent any kind of healthy attachment. You can't spend your intimate moments thinking about the number, length, width, or curvature of the previous dicks. It's gay and self sabotaging. Certainly won't help ya keep her. Be present with the person in front of you, not the men you fear in her past.
The hypocrisy I see about body counts with the /r9k/ types is that they want to have sex with women, but they don't want women to have sex. They obviously don't see any problem with a boyfriend and girlfriend having sex within the confines of their relationship because they want to have sex with their girlfriends, but if a woman has had sex with a previous boyfriend before, she's somehow a loose whore. They seem to just want women who have never even interacted with any man before them before, which is probably why so many of them are pedophiles/ephebophiles.
I have never been able to answer the question on a full-disclosure basis, because it's always being asked in a joking drunk Never Have I Ever kind of context, and I really don't know how to say "my mother sexually abused me from early toddlerhood, does she count" without y'know, killing the vibe.
I don't think /r9k/ has been a real board since at least 2017 if not earlier. Just junk like /b/ became.
I more used it as a catchall term for incels, and more specifically due to r9k-speaks' username.
Actually this is moistly problem with men. For women options for sex don't matter much because they don't lead to relationships which matters more. On the other hand for men there's is always that ex they had fun with a lot in bed and then they couldn't replace her for whatever reason ( mostly because they have specific fetishes) or she was the hottest woman they got. I used get this with every guy who never been married or have no kids during my dating phase you always had to compete with with idealized version of his ex or even imaginary woman.
While I do think the average is higher than 3 (but I may just be projecting), it's absolutely true that men overestimate how many partners women have been with.
Guilty as charged. For every black woman, I'm at least one of those counts.
It's not as clear as that, speaking for myself I dont want women to have too many previous partners as I want this to be the first and only relationship for the rest of my life. Of course I don't know if r9kers are incels in which case they would have the same attitude, if they're not then that is hypocritical sure. So if a woman talks about sex from a previous relationship, much less brags about it, it doesn't feel special anymore and it suddenly feels cheap. I would feel the same way if I were a woman about a man, maybe discounting some changes In psychology.
Why? That's not normal or healthy. Unless you get super lucky, you're not going to end up having your first partner being the perfect person for you. Romantic relationships are the same as any other relationship in that people grow and learn more about one another, including things they don't like about one another. That sort of mindset just leads to settling for less and making compromises to avoid having to look for another relationship, which isn't good for either person.
Normal people don't talk about previous relationships with their current partners unless there's a good reason to, because it's weird and rude. Do you have autism?
/r9k/ was the source of a lot of early incel memes like chad and the "beta uprising". They also memed Elliot Rodger a ton.
