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The problem with prenups is that they can be, and are, overturned in court for a variety of reasons. They aren't fool proof by any stretch.
r/polyamory
- Thread starter Crunchy Leaf
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how do you claim something that's already yours
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i met someone IRL who was against soap ideologically, bc it isn't "natural", and miraculously didn't stink. but later she revealed her marriage was open and I realized that the poor hygiene/polyamory venn diagram is close to a perfect circle
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she was against anything that "interrupted the skins microbiome". so basically she just used water. and not frequently. her hair was gross near the roots.
Irregardless
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Not big into table tops, but these fuckers pop up in a lot of outdoor hobby's like camping/hiking for some reason, though you can normally tell who is and isn't on that shit since they're compulsion to literally wear their sexuality on their sleeves in the form of pins remains.
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Now that is retarded.
My skin is dumb with water sometimes, but I just use the no-water-needed cleaning stuff then.
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that whole birthday gangbang story of hers is one of the most cursed things i have ever seen on this entire forum
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I can see it with board/table games... Group of adults who voluntarily spend their free time - squashed around a table, endlessly listing and discussing rules, power, shifting things about to try to win pointless "victories"
That fits well with poly type people.
But camping has me quote stumped. The ones ive laid eyes on, are usually gross skinny fat autists, who looked like they'd be very, very uncomfortable out of doors.
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The power of autistic obsession was never meant to be given to attractive women. God really fucked up with her.
Irregardless
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I can see that being the assumption at first, but you need to think about it from the perspective of a degenerate autist.
First off, the main stream camping industry has fully cucked the issues of struggle or lack of comfort. Literally anything one might miss about the indoors has a "Xtreme reinforced life-proof" version available for outdoor recreation, and even if you're poor, they'll have a cheap case version. On top of that there's literally gear for everything, clothes, storage, footwear, survival gear, sporting, cooking, entertainment, shelter, and hell even leisure, literally everything you can have indoors, there's an outdoor version that has the cool "outdoors" aesthetic with multiple places for patches, pins, and any other gay shit you can clip on a carabiner, not to mention just like every other hobby that's been taken over by globohomo corps, there's a huge push for LGBT faggot representation shit, so everything I just mentioned, has a rainbow version of it. All of this alone has brought in an endless amount of physically inept people who want to LARP as "outdoor people" in parks that are heavily managed and supervised. This has all resulted in shut it normies taking 4 day long trips to the main parks so that they can "camp" in a sand pit 20 feet off the main road in their fully loaded jeep with thousands of dollars in gear so that they can fish, kayak, or swim in a artificially stock river/lake and at night go to one of the fully stocked restaurants that are right on the campgrounds. The perfect poly degenerate bait is the kind they can use to pretend that their interesting.
Second, you need to remember these people are the spiritual successors to hippies. Into nature, drugs, sex, as an excuse to shoot up H on a blanket under a tree. So the way a lot of them see it is that they are able to be "free" in the forest to run around hopped on whatever shit they were able to score and pretend like they're connecting with nature, all the while getting to be sexually degenerate outside in the light where somebody might see them.
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So basically becoming one of them, in terms of values and fucking with your own endocrine system and pair bonding mechanisms? I’ll pass thanks.
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been checking the sub from time to time, it seems like there's not a lot of funny stuff being posted these days.
it's mostly just sad and depressing stories about people getting wrecked, like this:
it's mostly just sad and depressing stories about people getting wrecked, like this:
My partner of 20 years and I have had many discussions about poly. I'd been pretty excited about it because I thought it would mean building a community together. I don't think this was unfounded because my partner always talks about co-living and building community.
3 years ago, my partner got close to someone I didn't know at all. After being friends a while, they decided to start a relationship. My partner asked for my consent, and though I was uncomfortable, I gave my consent. We placed some boundaries, which I needed to feel comfortable.
About a month later, my partner said the boundaries had to move because their relationship had evolved. I wasn't comfortable with how things were playing out and said I thought we needed to take a step back and reassess. To which my partner said I couldn't take back my consent and this was just how things are. And that I just didn't understand poly, which I guess was true to an extent. Maybe it still is, despite all the reading I've done.
Since then, I've become more and more uncomfortable with the situation. My partner and I have been through hell together, and we have a good time when my partner is in town. But when my partner is staying with their other partner, I question everything.
I feel like I was tricked into agreeing to something I wasn't comfortable with. We haven't been intimate in over a year. I don't feel like I can trust my partner anymore. I have a pain condition that makes it difficult to go to social activities and I don't have any family, so I feel completely isolated while my partner has this new family, goes out with friends while I work, and talks to their family regularly (away from me). I've tried to make my own friends, but that's been failures. And I feel hurt that my partner watched how much this all hurt me and continued with this relationship.
I've spent 3 years and lots of therapy and self-work trying to learn how to embrace my partner's choice. As the previous paragraphs show, that hasn't happened.
And now we've been talking about needing a bigger house, and my partner is wanting to do the cooperative living thing. Part of me is very excited about it (still want community, please!), but this relationship situation has really soured it for me. I don't want to consent to something and then end up miserable trapped in my own home because I said yes to a different set of rules. And though my partner hasn't explicitly turned it into an ultimatum, they phrase things as if they won't consider anything but co-living.
Something I had hoped would bring me a loving chosen family has left me feeling isolated, distrusting, and sometimes bitter. I had assumed by 3 years, I'd be looking back at that first, difficult year and laughing at how silly I'd been. Instead, I spend most days trying desperately to find some kind of meaning to life.
I don't know what I'm hoping for in posting this. I don't have anyone I can trust to talk to. I feel crazy and like a jerk, but also exhausted and manipulated.
3 years ago, my partner got close to someone I didn't know at all. After being friends a while, they decided to start a relationship. My partner asked for my consent, and though I was uncomfortable, I gave my consent. We placed some boundaries, which I needed to feel comfortable.
About a month later, my partner said the boundaries had to move because their relationship had evolved. I wasn't comfortable with how things were playing out and said I thought we needed to take a step back and reassess. To which my partner said I couldn't take back my consent and this was just how things are. And that I just didn't understand poly, which I guess was true to an extent. Maybe it still is, despite all the reading I've done.
Since then, I've become more and more uncomfortable with the situation. My partner and I have been through hell together, and we have a good time when my partner is in town. But when my partner is staying with their other partner, I question everything.
I feel like I was tricked into agreeing to something I wasn't comfortable with. We haven't been intimate in over a year. I don't feel like I can trust my partner anymore. I have a pain condition that makes it difficult to go to social activities and I don't have any family, so I feel completely isolated while my partner has this new family, goes out with friends while I work, and talks to their family regularly (away from me). I've tried to make my own friends, but that's been failures. And I feel hurt that my partner watched how much this all hurt me and continued with this relationship.
I've spent 3 years and lots of therapy and self-work trying to learn how to embrace my partner's choice. As the previous paragraphs show, that hasn't happened.
And now we've been talking about needing a bigger house, and my partner is wanting to do the cooperative living thing. Part of me is very excited about it (still want community, please!), but this relationship situation has really soured it for me. I don't want to consent to something and then end up miserable trapped in my own home because I said yes to a different set of rules. And though my partner hasn't explicitly turned it into an ultimatum, they phrase things as if they won't consider anything but co-living.
Something I had hoped would bring me a loving chosen family has left me feeling isolated, distrusting, and sometimes bitter. I had assumed by 3 years, I'd be looking back at that first, difficult year and laughing at how silly I'd been. Instead, I spend most days trying desperately to find some kind of meaning to life.
I don't know what I'm hoping for in posting this. I don't have anyone I can trust to talk to. I feel crazy and like a jerk, but also exhausted and manipulated.
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> "my partner" and zero gendered references (probably a couple of troons)
> dead bedroom after 20 years together
> OP is disabled with chronic pain, friendless hikikomori
> can't seem to name emotions further than "comfortable" and "uncomfortable"
> 3 years of brainwashing-esque therapy with zero effect
> zillennial queefing over muh found family
> ends it with a sniveling "but maybe I'm the jerk!" for sympathy even though it's obvious from the wall of text that their relationship is objectively miserable
fucking kek, can't even feel bad for this retard when they've willingly decided to don the stereotype of every ledditor poly degenerate ever. Sucks to be them though, sounds like they have zero friends outside of their partner, went no-contact with their family, and are unable to work so they were looking forward to a "community" that would be obligated to hang out with them and take care of them because no one else will.
> dead bedroom after 20 years together
> OP is disabled with chronic pain, friendless hikikomori
> can't seem to name emotions further than "comfortable" and "uncomfortable"
> 3 years of brainwashing-esque therapy with zero effect
> zillennial queefing over muh found family
> ends it with a sniveling "but maybe I'm the jerk!" for sympathy even though it's obvious from the wall of text that their relationship is objectively miserable
fucking kek, can't even feel bad for this retard when they've willingly decided to don the stereotype of every ledditor poly degenerate ever. Sucks to be them though, sounds like they have zero friends outside of their partner, went no-contact with their family, and are unable to work so they were looking forward to a "community" that would be obligated to hang out with them and take care of them because no one else will.
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Actuallt the bigger problem with prenups is they don't cover child support. The court is likely to just dump any spousal support payments the man would have to make into the "child support" category, so the result ends up being similar in the end.
They do this all the time because wives often aren't entitled to much or anything in the way of alimony because they haven't been married long enough. The judge just puts all the money in the child support column and the husband gets fucked anyway.
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You've got to be kidding, that whole sub is comedy gold.
Here's the story of a woman whose boyfriend moved another woman into the house and said "you can deal, or you can walk," so she meekly said "ok" and let the other woman take over an entire floor of her house. Then she's surprised when some months later the other woman is mad because the original girlfriend didn't leave yet, since the whole point was to push her out so they could be monogamous. And now she's wondering how to make herself trust that this is okay. That's comedy gold! How can you say that's not funny?!
Or how about this one, where a woman starts to date a man a decade older than her who has no steady job and likes to beat her up as part of sex, then the boyfriend gets a new girlfriend and uses the other girlfriend's money to pay for presents and dates for the new one.
Or how about this one, where a pathetic woman lets her boyfriend con her into a "poly" relationship with the nearly-ready-to-pop teenager he impregnated?
One of the stupidest and most destructive parts of the polyamory world is the "anyone can be poly" idea that applies even to people with significant mental illnesses.
Imagine someone saying "anyone can climb Mt. Everest! It doesn't matter if you use a power wheelchair or if you have a heart condition or you get exercise-induced asthma or you have vertigo." You'd be setting a lot of people up for dramatic, absolutely foreseeable failures.
But if you look in the polyamory subreddit, you'll find tons of posts where the OP has significant ongoing mental illnesses, sometimes several mental illnesses they need polypharmacy (heh) for. And no one says "hey, look, just like there are some activities in life you should only engage in if you know you are not physically ill or disabled, because otherwise they are very unsafe, there are other activities you should engage in only if you are mentally well and strong."
I know the reply here will be "hurr hurr none of them are mentally well," and yeah whatever, but there are levels of capability and mental illness. The fact that no one even tells the most obviously unwell people... people with long diagnostic histories of trauma-based disorders, personality disorders, autism, psychosis, and everything else..."hey, maybe not everyone is well enough to participate in these fuckfests" really gives the game away.
The people in this game who appear mentally healthy are actually predators who want to encourage mentally ill people (especially those with a poor understanding of boundaries and expected social behaviors/duties toward people you love) to enter the lifestyle in order to have fresh meat to exploit.
Here's the story of a woman whose boyfriend moved another woman into the house and said "you can deal, or you can walk," so she meekly said "ok" and let the other woman take over an entire floor of her house. Then she's surprised when some months later the other woman is mad because the original girlfriend didn't leave yet, since the whole point was to push her out so they could be monogamous. And now she's wondering how to make herself trust that this is okay. That's comedy gold! How can you say that's not funny?!
Or how about this one, where a woman starts to date a man a decade older than her who has no steady job and likes to beat her up as part of sex, then the boyfriend gets a new girlfriend and uses the other girlfriend's money to pay for presents and dates for the new one.
Or how about this one, where a pathetic woman lets her boyfriend con her into a "poly" relationship with the nearly-ready-to-pop teenager he impregnated?
One of the stupidest and most destructive parts of the polyamory world is the "anyone can be poly" idea that applies even to people with significant mental illnesses.
Imagine someone saying "anyone can climb Mt. Everest! It doesn't matter if you use a power wheelchair or if you have a heart condition or you get exercise-induced asthma or you have vertigo." You'd be setting a lot of people up for dramatic, absolutely foreseeable failures.
But if you look in the polyamory subreddit, you'll find tons of posts where the OP has significant ongoing mental illnesses, sometimes several mental illnesses they need polypharmacy (heh) for. And no one says "hey, look, just like there are some activities in life you should only engage in if you know you are not physically ill or disabled, because otherwise they are very unsafe, there are other activities you should engage in only if you are mentally well and strong."
I know the reply here will be "hurr hurr none of them are mentally well," and yeah whatever, but there are levels of capability and mental illness. The fact that no one even tells the most obviously unwell people... people with long diagnostic histories of trauma-based disorders, personality disorders, autism, psychosis, and everything else..."hey, maybe not everyone is well enough to participate in these fuckfests" really gives the game away.
The people in this game who appear mentally healthy are actually predators who want to encourage mentally ill people (especially those with a poor understanding of boundaries and expected social behaviors/duties toward people you love) to enter the lifestyle in order to have fresh meat to exploit.
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Thats a very good point more generally.
These people are, despite how much sheer volume of writing they pump out, always really terrible at describing feelings. Despite putting such huge stock in catering existence entirely around their emotions.
They are "comfortable" or "uncomfortable" . Other people's motivations and actions or usually either "valid" or "gross"; the new apparent binary.
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Feelings like jealousy or anger are for icky straight, white, monogamous chuds. Poly people are enlightened and beyond such gross emotions.
I'm only slightly joking. These communities really do try to push the idea that feelings like jealousy are some sort of learned, unnatural behavior that you can teach yourself to stop feeling.