I'll say I've never understood appeal of either strippers or prostitutes, escorrs, and the like. A big part of the sexual experience is the mutual attracfion. Paying a woman to barely feign interest or intimacy seems like folly to me.
I agree with you. I don't understand it.
Some men are crazy about strip clubs, but I'm not. I've been a couple of times when friends took me, but never really enjoyed the experience. Seemed too fake and weird.
Once when I was younger , I met a girl who was a stripper (this is a different girl than the one who married my friend). I just knew this girl as an acquaintance. Met her a total of like three times, had seen her at local concerts. I never went to her strip club, but had met her through a male friend, and one day the two of us went over to her place to hang out.
She was a nice enough girl, invited us up to her room to listen to music, but she had a lot of problems that just seemed to get worse and worse. Even during our sober midday weekend visit, she had bottles of liquor out on the bedside table. Very heavy drinking, unhappy, unstable. A sad situation.
I think many strippers and prostitutes have similar problems.
Wouldn't he get paranoid about guys recognizing her from her old job? Imagine all the snickers from guys who paid to see her titties and got lap dances. There's no doubt in my mind that a lot of girls who do that hate it and end up regretting it in the end, but the social consequences remain. I admire this man's confidence.
So with my friend dating the stripper...
I don't think my friend really cared much about it, or even gave it much thought , until one day one of her former customers, a CEO of a powerful local company who never got told "no", increasingly started blowing up her cell phone trying to meet up.
Turns out this CEO guy had paid her over five thousand dollars for dances and drinks over the course of a month expecting 'something more' , and was very upset to find out he wasn't going to be able to sleep with her.
Most of the women are the strip club had slept with this CEO guy, since he was sort of a high roller, and it was an easy way for the girls to make a lot of money quickly. He got bored with them after the novelty of sex wore off, and so he then moved from one stripper to the next, trying to seduce them with his considerable wealth.
Of course my friends stripper girlfriend had never slept with customers, but she took this guy's money and flirted with him, sat with him, gave out her cell phone, but wouldn't do anything further, so this guy was pissed. Like really really angry. Enraged, even. And he had her cell number.
So this spurned CEO guy is calling and calling, texting and texting , threatening her, saying she needs to come meet him downtown, that he paid for her and she has stolen from him. Meet him at some expensive hotel etc... When she refuses and then stops responding out of fear, he gets really angry, sending texts that he'll find out where she lives, that he knows "dangerous people" , that no one crosses him and gets away with it, etc etc.
So this was a real wake up call for both of them. I still remember that they were afraid to stay at her house, so they went stay with family nearby for a couple of weeks until the whole thing died down. The CEO guy stops stalker-calling but both of them are shook.
She changed her number, they both stop going out in public for awhile , and later that year the two of them (stripper girl and the boyfriend) moved away. The eventually married and are still together.
That's the exception to the rule I think.
It shows that even the best case outcome can have major problems.
But yeah, I wouldn't want to be in the same town with a ton of people that had seen my girlfriend naked.
You're right. I'd probably find that situation intolerable. Not to mention the concerns with crazies and stalkers.
