Its a lie made by deadbeats
Men rarely seek custody of their children
Men do less childcare, less parenting, less household labor, less of everything that is involved in tending to a child. So it should come as no surprise that this does not change after divorce. In 91% of custody cases, the parents mutually decide to give custody to the mother. Fathers fight for custody in court in less than 4% of divorces. Twenty-seven percent of fathers completely abandon their children after divorce.
Men who seek custody are more likely than not to get it
Fathers who fight for custody typically get it. Even 30 years ago, 94% of fathers who sought custody got sole or joint custody. Abusive fathers are especially successful. Seventy-two percent win their custody cases. In one study where both parents fought hard for custody, mothers were awarded custody just 7% of the time. Only in a patriarchal society does a 93% win rate somehow equate to male victimhood
It has link for every claim click it and read it
Often custody battles are used by men to punish the mom and keep her in poverty and emotional anguish the article i linked it the mom lost cutody for putting her kid in day care While going to college and it caused backlash .
Custody courts are biased for fathers? Hmm, this doesn't fit my understanding. This could be interesting, I always like learning when I'm wrong. And
@Justa Grata Honoria assures me "it has a link for every claim" (spoiler, "a link" is not the same as "a source"). So I'll check out this substack post.
Second paragraph "This is what male entitlement looks like"... I'm starting to think this is a narrative pusher. Who is this author anyway? Zawn Villines, "Writer. Mother. Feminist... Household labor inequality is abuse. Black lives matter." So this is an ideologue. But maybe she has rock solid evidence and airtight logic. Heavily biased people can still be right, even if it's less likely, so I'll keep going.
The subtitle of the article is about men winning "93% of custody cases", so let's skip the men are evil propaganda and get to that bombshell claim. "Even 30 years ago, 94% of fathers who sought custody got sole or joint custody." Well, even if true, that's some dishonest framing. An honest discussion would name, number, and discuss all five relevant groups:
- uncontested sole custody to the father
- contested sole custody to the father
- joint custody (this could use further breakdown)
- contested sole custody to the mother
- uncontested sole custody to the mother
This 94% figure ignores bucket #5 entirely (while keeping #1) and then compares #4 to the combined bucketing of #1, #2, and #3 all together. Deeply dishonest and manipulative.
I need more information than Zawn Villines provides, so let's follow this link to the "source" which turns out to be a Washington Post opinion letter to the editor from a "Joan Meier" of DV Leap for survivors of domestic violence. Well, maybe the opinion article will refer me to the study, so what's the opinion piece's source? "94 percent in one study" Oh. it's just "one study" with no further information. The next thing the opinion post does is find that mothers claiming abuse isn't an automatic win button, and apparently this Joan Meier believes that merely alleging abuse should guarantee victory. No where in there is a source for "94 percent in one study". So not only is it dishonest framing if true, it appears to be an entirely fabricated lie.
If the father haters have to manipulate and lie like this then it's even more evidence that the system really is biased against fathers.
As for Nick vs Kayla
Eh, both parents seem to be strung out druggies. It's not at all clear how things would shake out.
Nick can be charming but the bad video clips from streams can kill that charm real fast, especially if Nick has a criminal trial to draw from (yet another reason to plea).
If the Kayla defenders are to be believed, she's a good heckin' wholesome person whose only problem is Nick. I think they've taken too much copium, but I don't think it's impossible that her parents intervene, she gets clean, and thereby becomes an acceptable mother. In which case I think she'd destroy Nick in family court. But that might be my ignorance of her: she might be just as much of a degen as Nick, she's certainly (at minimum) been an enabler.
So I come back to: they both seem to be strung out druggies and it's not clear how things would shake out.
