Skipped through most of this thread and loved seeing all the points made. I remember stumbling across the pear and Brittani videos and being intrigued by all the drama surrounding this one woman. I also watched idubbbz in uni so I knew who he was. Then the only fans thing struck and I've been casually following along ever since (on youtube, not here).
If Anisa is actually reading this stuff, here is some advice on how to partially fix the messes you and your husband have gotten yourselves into. This is coming from a woman in her late twenties with an actual job and issues with anxiety, so you can't claim I'm being a misogynist or can't relate or anything.
Anisa:
1. Get an actual job. It can start as something part-time, it doesn't even have to pay that much. It'll help you get into the real world, meet real people outside your circle, get your mind off the internet, and help you deal with your anxiety issues. I guarantee your fear of going outside is because you don't have enough exposure.
2. Get an actual therapist who isn't a yes-woman. If they are not calling you out on stuff, THEY ARE NOT A GOOD THERAPIST. They are meant to help you change, not cheer you on for basic things.
3. Stop telling your husband what to do constantly. If you get the slightest feeling that he doesn't want to do something while verbally saying he's fine with it, ask him again and back down from whatever you were planning on doing.
4. When you do stream, make sure you have two things in mind: One, you have a theme and bullet points on an interesting/relevant topic you will talk about. THIS CANNOT BE RELATED TO YOURSELF. THIS HAS TO BE SOMETHING FANS ARE INTERESTED IN, NOT JUST YOU. Two, stop talking about yourself and your personal life. The only people who are allowed to talk about themselves and vlog are people the internet ALREADY cares about. They have built a fanbase around something else and the vlogs/self-talk are just an add-on. If Pewdiepie started his channel solely vlogging about his personal life, no one would have watched him.
5. Go to social activities that aren't related to the internet. Try Meet Up things (a church would be better but we know you wouldn't go to that type of stuff).
6. Stop viewing every criticism as hate. This is not hate. These are genuine observations people are making because of YOUR BEHAVIOR. Honestly, you are making life way harder for normal women like me. I have to hear about how all women are selfish leeches now because of YOUR actions.
7. Sex work is not healthy (mentally or physically) and don't believe anyone who says it is. We can all tell you know this on some subconscious level (because you wanted to stop doing it) so stop. Put a shirt back on. Stop begging for attention. Seek that validation through doing real-life social things.
8. Stop focusing on how others view you and start focusing on being an actual nice person. That starts with taking care of your husband and being as kind to him as you can. Cook and clean. Contribute financially with a part-time job. These will seem boring at first but will significantly help you mentally and emotionally. Don't rely on drugs as a bandaid when the real cure is something much more accessible and healthy.
Ian:
1. I think you should do Creator Clash 3 with a clean slate. Invite bigger youtubers people actually know. Invite Sam Hyde and Froggy Fresh to come back. Make your own boxing opponent someone your own height and weight so it's actually a fair fight. Budget. Don't virtue signal. Only donate to genuine charities that AREN'T OWNED BY YOUR FRIENDS.
2. Drop your ego. It's clear you read the comments and may even start to view them as constructive criticism (before Anisa convinces you they're just haters). They're not haters. Most of them were your fans. I was your fan (and no, not for the n-word stuff. I could do without that still.) People are eager for you to start acting normal again. You can still make a comeback. Don't be an idiot and waste it. Use Pewdiepie as an example.
3. Start making videos on things people actually want to see. Do some research. Find something that interests you (and isn't related to politics). We all know you can do this because you've done it before and SAID you loved making videos.
4. Stop bringing up politics. No one wants to hear your opinions. You don't have a political fanbase.
5. Stop pandering to the left. They will never be satisfied and they won't bring you the success you picture. Look at what happened to Ethan; they turned on him over things he couldn't really control (his race and heritage). I'm not saying you have to change your personal political beliefs. Just stop broadcasting it online and making it negatively skew your decisions.
6. In your podcasts, bring bullet points like you were attempting to do before. Stop talking about yourself and Anisa. No one cares (and that's a good thing). Again, find topics people DO care about.
7. Stop doing drugs. Seriously. It's a bandaid and only makes things worse.
8. I won't tell you to dump Anisa like everyone here is saying (though it does seem like the better option). Just be a man and put your foot down when you genuinely want to or don't want to do something. Find a male therapist (separate from Anisa) who won't just pat you on the back. Don't seek out a friend in a therapist. You want someone more like a father figure than a best bud, someone who will encourage you to push your own boundaries.
9. Start budgeting, seriously. Be the provider. Don't waste money on useless things unless it's a special event (and this applies to Anisa too).